Will remarrying cause me to spend eternity in hell?

Question

i am a 32 yr old who was raised in a strict apostlic church. i have always been taught that remarrying is a sin. i was married at 19 yr of age found out my husband was having an affair and seperated. I did try and reconcile but never got over the instance. i met a man who for the last 5 years has helped me to raise my children from my astranged husband and we have a child together. i am so affraid to divorce and because I know I will remarry and I was taught that i would spend eternity in hell. i truly love this man and i know he loves me. like all couples where not with out our problems but i feel, know he loves me. at the same time this teachng is so embedded in me that i can't clearly make my own decision. I fell brainwashed sometimes. Just want to know your take and has anyone been a simular situation?

Answer 1

But God loves you?!

Why would he want to punish you for all eternity for finding love.

Don't worry about it. If you believe that you will be sent to hell for that then none of us stand a chance of getting in upstairs.

Please, please, please, find happiness and follow your heart. ;)

Answer 2

Committing adultery is one of the 10 commandment laws. You just admitted to breaking that one. God hates divorce, yes, but Jesus gave provision for it when the partner is unfaithful. You are free to remarry without it being a sin. The Bible says that if you remarry without having been cheated on, you're guilty of the sin of adultery, but you've already been there done that too.

The particular sins you commit are not what causes you to be sent to hell for eternity. You are condemned for the very first one, no matter what it was. The only way to avoid hell is to have a personal relationship to Jesus Christ, acknowledging Him as your Lord and obeying Him. Make that your priority, not avoiding certain sins.

Matthew 5:32
But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, causes her to become an adulteress, and anyone who marries the divorced woman commits adultery.

Answer 3

Sister, there is scriptures that frees you from your cheating husband, Sister There is many scriptures that speaks about putting away thou spouse for Adultry, or fornication, If you Husband was unfaithful to you, then you have the right to either forgive him or divorce him, Moses even wrote the law of divorecment, & he said that if that sin can not be forgiven by the other spouse, let them give them a writing of divorcement. But Sister I have to also say, if you are still married to your husband & are seeing another man & have had a child by this other man while you are still married, then you yourself have fallen into the same trap your Husband has, First you had a child by another man out of wedlock, while you are still married,, So now seeing that both of you all are in the same boat, & neither can forgive or reconcile, then give them a divorce in writing, Because if your husband had first commited adultry, & he left you You would fall right into 1st. Cor. 7:15 But if the unbelieving depart let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases, In Bondage to what, Your married vows., So now you have fallen into the same trap if I understnad your question correctly, therefore if neither wants to reconcile, then let each give a divorce in writing for the hardness of your heart. Therefore then since Both commit adultry, then both has the right for a Divorce, But God has not left it where neither can remarried, Because the sexual desires is still there & God will not let someone suffer this desire. Therefore you & your husband can remarry, But listern Sister, Don't ever allow this to happen to you again.The part where you had a child by another man while you were still married, God allows in certain cases for remarriage, But God also is Saying DON"T DO IT AGAIN EVER, Because there is a stopping point to this.

Answer 4

I think if that were the case, there would be alot of people in hell. If he is good to you and your kids, then he is a good person. I don't see anything wrong w/being happy w/the right person. I was raised a catholic and watched my mother get excommunicated from her beloved church because she left a cheating, beating husband. I don't think religion should dictate how we live our lives. If you believe in religion just use it as a guideline and be happy. Good luck.

Answer 5

I just remarried. Per my religion, as long as I confess my sin, and ask forgivness for it, God will forgive me. Although I am not sorry I left my marriage, I recognize it is a biblical sin.

In your case, he had an affair, so it was Biblically OK for you to divorce, and okay to remarry.

Answer 6

>> found out my husband was having an affair and seperated <<

That is a legitimate reason for divorce. The only one. Feel free to live your life in peace and harmony. Marry the man if you feel it is right for you. You deserve it.

...and yeah....you were brainwashed.

Answer 7

You "have a child together" and you're worried about marrying him? This doesn't make sense to me; if you worry about sin, this seems to be a bigger one than remarrying!

Answer 8

no.

such legends were crafted by those who wanted to control lives, not augment them. they also fail to account for people living longer, and women having a legitimate say in family matters.

almost every culture has had provisions for remarriage.

give yourself permission to live happily.

Answer 9

Christ is sufficient in all things. You will not go to hell for remarrying.

Answer 10

You should read your Bible. God forgives everyone of everything. He is so forgiving. People don't realize it because they don't study their Bible. All types of people are forgiven in the Bible. From murders down to the smallest sin. Sin is sin no matter what.