My mother-in-law is itching to be in the delivery room and we want it to be just the 2 of us. She is really upset with me and I don't really know what to tell her. But we have both decided that it will be only him and I and the hospital staff. Are we totally wrong to be like this?
2006-11-29 06:21:32 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am a mother in law, and I would have loved to have been in the delivery room, but I would never have dared to ask. I knew that time was special and private for my son and his wife. Don't feel guilty about keeping the special moments private. She wasn't there when the babe was concieved, and she will get over not seeing the babe born. You can be sure she will adjust to the family waiting room and your husband can have the excitement and joy of going in and announcing your child to all the family waiting.
2006-11-29 13:11:26 · answer #1 · answered by Deb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should pick who you want to be in there with you. It's a very personal decision. Although my husband was there with me through two c-sections, I wished that I'd had the nerve to tell him I'd rather have my mom. I don't know where this thing about having the guy in the room originated from anyway. I liked the old fashioned idea of the woman going into the delivery room with a nurse and the doctor, and hubby pacing outside ready to hand out cigars. For some people the birth process visual changes their sex life for the worse. Something to consider.
2006-11-29 08:27:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not - you are completely in the right to make the decision as to who you want in the delivery room with you. This is a private moment between you and your husband as you welcome your new addition. She will get over not being in the delivery room with you once she gets to hold her new grandchild for the first time. The solution to this is not to call her when you go to the hospital. No one needs to know ahead of time that you are in labor. Call her when the baby is born. Just in case, let your doctor know that you only want your husband with you and he/she will make sure that happens. Also, let your nurse at the hospital know. Labor and delivery nurses know how to mean business! You have a very important job to do helping your baby be born and you don't need any unnecessary distractions from your mother in law. Between being naked and exposing your private parts and cursing your husband for ever touching you, you really aren't at your most flattering during labor and delivery.
2006-11-29 06:42:16 · answer #3 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
NO! My mother in law wanted to be there too. I told her that while everyone is welcome once the baby is here and we are settled my husband and I want to share this precious moment alone.
She was probably upset about it, but I just don't feel comfortable having all kinds of family in the room. My husband and I tried for a long time to get pregnant and this will probably be our only one. I want it to be something that's just between us.
Let her know that you're glad she's excited and when she can come and see you. Maybe there is something else you could have her do to help you out.
2006-11-29 07:43:42 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to get out of it, tell the Dr your problem and he/she will tell your mother in-law that only the husbands are allowed in. Actually, that is some hospitals rules, they wont even let your kids or a camera in there. That way, she doesnt have to be mad at you though! Good luck..
2006-11-29 06:33:30 · answer #5 · answered by performancetool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope if i were able to turn back time I would only have had my husband in the delivery room also, my parents were in the delivery room and they got to see it all and i just wish it was just my husband, plus i ended up yelling at my mom when i was in pain cause she had to hold my legs up and every time she moved it hurt and i ended up yelling at her, i turned into a a totally different person in the delivery room. Ha ha ha the joys of pregnancy.....
2006-11-29 06:28:32 · answer #6 · answered by shady20001978 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most hospitals will play Bouncer for you. Just have the nurse tell her that only the father is allowed in the delivery room. Good Luck!!
2006-11-29 13:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by Desiree S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO YOU ARE NOT WRONG!!!! this is your child this is you and your husbands moment he has seen your puddycat your mother-in -law don't need to see it my son and his wife did just fine with out the family in there this is a private and embarrassing moment i think 30-45 minutes after mike was born the family was allowed to come in there plus if there is complications the staff needs to be able to move not dodge family members
2006-11-29 06:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by theessenceofrose 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Giving birth is a very personal moment in your life and the only people that should be in the room with you are the ones who WON"T cause added stress. My mother in law was the same way with my sister in law as well as my husband when he was with his first wife. Tell her you will need to remain as calm and be as comfortable as possible and this can only be achieved by having your husband and ONLY your husband in the room with you.
I swear, MIL's can be such a pain in the butt. Mine's a nut.
2006-11-29 06:27:21 · answer #9 · answered by koral2800 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is your choice. Had similar situation and it was very uncomfortable and annoying. She kept talking during contractions, and said when she gave birth etc...You tell the nursing staff to tell her she cannot come in during child birth. They will do it for you. Sounds like she is going to be a real pushy mother in-law and it will only get worse if you let it. Good luck and congratulations on a new baby.
2006-11-29 06:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋