Did we both overreact or am I just wrong? (ALL ANSWER WELCOME)?

Question

My boyfriend & I had an agrument last night.

First we had sex and he came quick bcuz he can't handle me 2 long when im on top, but i do it anyways just 2 please him although i dont get much out of it. I knew that he couldn't stay long. He just sat there for about 30 mins.Then, he performs oral on me.When it was time 4 the last round (doggy style-my fav), we had to stop suddenly (don't ask why,be it was urgent)

I was really upset bcuz i really didnt enjoy myself and said that this was a waste of time. He was upset because I was upset and said he wasn't coming over again. I asked why and he just ignored me. My feelings were hurt so bad. We broke up last night.

I was wrong for getting upset. I admitt it was selfish. BUT he is wrong for his short temper that he needs to work on and his also doesn't have patience. I love him so much and now I'm trying to get him 2 C that we can change together. I AM SO WILLING 2 CHANGE
He isnt bad n bed,it was just last night.

I said I was sorry. I told him that i would change. But he is not going 4 that bcuz we always have small argument. I offered 2 give him space for a couple of days to cool down and let the situation die down... I DON'T KNOW WHAT 2 DO. He has been my world since my mother died about 2 months ago.... i can't lose him over something like THIS!!!!!!

NO, I AM NOT IN HIGH SCHOOL! I done with school.

Answer 1

You really screwed up. Guys are really sensitive about sex, so when you criticize their performance they feel like you're attacking their manhood. Sure, he may have overreacted but it was only because you made him feel like a lesser man! Buy him a present, show up at his house/apt/whatev and apologize. Tell him that you were tired/ill and in a bad mood. Take complete responsibility for the argument (even if you don't think you should) and tell him that he means the world to you and you don't want to lose him just because you were in a bad mood. Tell him that you'll never do it again and that he is amazing in bed. In fact, tell him he is a sex god and you are not worthy of his amazing oral. Make him feel like a man again. So go! Ask him to take you back!! GOOD LUCK!!

Answer 2

You both overreacted. You're not wrong to want to be pleased in bed and be upset when you're not. That is really frustrating, however telling this to a guy in the way you went about it can be devestating to him. His feelings are really hurt along with his ego. The very best thing you can do is give him a card and in the card tell him everything you love about him and why you love him. Make him feel really good about himself and steer away from anything negative, the purpose of the card is to make him know you think he is absolutely amazing in every way. Say your sorry for snapping at him and that you love making love to him and were just sorry it had to end. Tell him he is amazing in bed. If you do this you will heal his bruised ego and get rid of any doubt he may have about how you feel about him. Best of luck.

Answer 3

just like in life you are going to have bad sex once in awhile too. it sounds like you hurt his feelings by saying 'its a waste of time' which certainly hurt his ego and men have huge egos especially when it comes to sex. it also sounds like you both may have been trying to hard, really sometimes ppl are so concerned with 'performance' they forget exactly why they are having sex and usually its because you love each other and want to feel close. there is nothing that will ruin a really nice evening more than someone who feels 'pressured to perform' and honestly your bf tried but lets face it most men are limited in how many times they can ...but women aren't. too i can understand your frustration about not being satisfied....i would talk to him and both of you need to chalk it up to a bad experience for whatever reason and face the fact that you mean more to each other than that one night. one thing, if you think that you or him are always going to have good to incredible sex every time you do it, you're mistaken...there will be many times in your life where things just don't work out the way you expect, forget it and move on thats just being human.

Answer 4

First off, you hurt his pride by telling him it was a waste of time. Yes, you should be honest with your partner about your enjoyment, but use a bit of tact.

It also sounds like you're basing your happiness in the relationship on his performance in bed.

Let it rest a few days and then try to talk to him again.

Answer 5

You threw one of the most hurtful insults (to a man). We all feel pretty tense when we are worked up and don't get our cookie but you dug your own grave.
Also, people don't change even when it applies to yourself and he will all ways wonder, in the back of his mind, while he's screwing you that he's incompetent.
Imagine you were feeling on top of world, Queen of all men's sexual fantasies and doing your very best to please the one your with and then he drops a bomb like that on you. It was big of him to just ignore you and doesn't seem short tempered at all.

Answer 6

The key here is communication. You two need to talk about this out of bed, and reach an agreement where you both can get what you want.

Answer 7

give him a day to cool down, then call and apologive, tell him he's NOT bad in bad, it was just that one time and say you were in a bad mood, but really you dont wanna break up over one bad night.

Answer 8

give him a couple of days call him and tell him how you feel and explian why you said what you did he should understand also explain to him that you were just not your self that day. talk to him and also listen things will work out

Answer 9

Honey you need to learn the word FOREPLAY when you have Al Bundy on your hands!

Answer 10

why change for him? he needs to change for YOU! Maybe he's not worth having around if his anger is all bad like that. find someone better.