its so anoying always worrying bout what people think of you.... i think its all in my head
2006-11-29 06:08:11 · 10 answers · asked by psycho 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's a difficult one. The best thing is not to go around thinking "I must not be self-concious!" but to focus on whatever you're doing at the time. If you're talking to someone, think about them rather than worrying what they think of you. If you're performing, focus on the performance and not what might happen if it goes wrong.
Something else that helps is to have a little courage and do something "embarrassing". I used to be terrified of singing solo but I'm mostly ok now, thanks to practice! Try doing the things that you aren't doing because you're worried of what people will think. Most of the time they care much less than you imagine and sometimes they'll even admire you.
Remember that you are in no way "inferior" to others. You have the right to self-expression.
It also helps to talk with someone you trust about how you feel. I find knowing I have friends who appreciate me makes me feel a lot stronger.
2006-11-29 06:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by Helen B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What dose it matter what others think about you .Be you it was not meant for everyone to be the same.Be a leader not a follower...Build your self esteem up by telling your self this..I am who I am I am going to become all I can be..And nothing no less will I accept..Self control is a big part of this.Find what makes you satisfied and be happy with that so many people miss out own life because of silly things like this...Hold your head high because you are as good as the rest of us...And beauty is in the eyes of the beholder God bless you with all the confidence you need be proud of who you are and who you make your self become...
2006-11-29 07:22:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're confusing two different issues. Self conciousness is a part of our human character and genetic make up - its who we are. We are the species that is aware of itself. Self conciousness and self awareness are the same thing. Always worrying about what "other people" think of you is being too concerned with peer pressure and with social acceptance. This is certainly related to the fact that we have self awareness, however, the way around this issue is to realize that on the one hand other people are thinking the same thing (worrying about what other people think - including you) and on the other hand their oppinion is no better or worse than your own. So just do what you feel inside is right and don't worry about what other people think - its not going to stop them from thinking anyway.
2006-11-29 06:13:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it comes with time. It's important to realize that most people worry about what others thinks, and sometimes, it's important for us to do that. If people who are rude don't listen to others, they will never realize they are being rude.
That said, I think for you to practically find a way to accept who you are and what you look like is to balance the negative thoughts with the positive thoughts.
For instance, I'm fat (no, really, I'm considered morbidly obese). Lots of people like to make comments about it, and it is hurtful. By the same token, I have fantastic hair, and I get a lot of compliments on it. So, I just remember that I have physical traits I like, and ones I don't like so much. And that I can change my weight if I want to.
Other body traits I don't like that I can't change, I try to remember that they make me who I am. I think my nose is ugly, but it is also a very familiar nose for my family.
I also remember that the people who criticize me have their own issues. If they are wasting their time insulting me because I'm fat, I think they are the ones with the problem, not me.
Just keep reminding yourself of the good stuff, and you'll be OK. Give yourself time. :)
2006-11-29 06:14:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
purely placed on a padded bra (of the right length for you) and do not attempt to stuff it up with lavatory paper or socks or something. I purely ever wore an A cup myself, so i comprehend the way you experience. do not ever get breast implants. and don't be disturbed too a lot about your body. you're nevertheless youthful, so i'm sensible you'll grow to be it.
2016-11-29 22:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus on helping others. While walking confidently in life,at the same time,consider others as better than you. (just the opposite of what you would think).
I think that this particular manifestation of fear can be erraticated
with different thinking.
you basically are taking the preoccupation off of yourself -(ego)
2006-11-29 06:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by bonsai bobby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes practise. What you really need to do is to really concentrate on other people you are with, what they're saying etc. If you can put all of your focus on this, you'll soon begin to relax and get into things.
2006-11-29 06:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my goodness....I tell people all the time......just approve of yourself and forget what other people think....they are too judgemental and who cares what other people think..I don't
2006-11-29 06:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about that word, "self conscious". You are constantly thinking about your "self". Just do what you know is right and that should be good enough. We can never please everyone.
2006-11-29 07:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
always be yourself and if it doesnt go away then ask ten people if they think your weird
2006-11-29 06:12:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋