My boyfriend is currently serving a year long deployment in Tikrit, Iraq. I get to talk to him a lot, but he never tells me what they are doing, and I know its because he doesn't want to make me worry more then I already do. He tells me that they are safe, but then again is going out on missions everyday, what is really going on? Also, he say'd that he thinks they might not end up having to stay over there for their entire year long deployment, could this happen and is it typical?
2006-11-29 06:06:11 · 16 answers · asked by Latisha g 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
He can not give you details: Breech in Security, etc etc.
Just take comfort in knowing he is ok.
As for early withdrawl of a unit: It is common of course. That just means he goes back sooner. Sorry.
2006-11-29 06:08:55 · answer #1 · answered by devilduck74 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is in Iraq as well. To be exact in Baghdad. I get to talk to him online all the time as well. He doesn't tell me everything that goes on either. Mostly because everyday he's out on a mission the reality is he is being shot at, experiencing close calls with roadside bombs and etc. Don't take it personally. I did at first but he made me realize that I am the one person at the end of a mission he turns to for a little bit of normalicy. Your boyfriend would rather hear about the good going on with you and your praise of missing him and counting down the days till you see him again opposed to the harsh reality of what is happening there. I'm sure if something really awful happens you will know about it since he will turn to you for your confidence but for now just try to keep your sanity for him. As far as leaving early, I can't say much since my boyfriends return date keeps getting pushed back farther. Good Luck.
If you need a place to vent or someone to talk to try Militarysos.com. It's great for girlfriends of the military man.
2006-11-29 18:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by TT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband has been to iraq twice and he could not tell me what they did over the internet and the phone either. he will usually be doing the job he signed up for, just doing it in a different place. he may also be assigned to gate guard and convoy security details and any mundane jobs they want done over there. going out on missions and being part of the convoy security detail is dangerous. anytime you leave the base, they are putting their lives in danger from being shot at, but mostly the IED's. it would be nice if your boyfriends deployment was shortened, but never believe any rumors you hear especially concerning how long the tour will be. wait until he is on the flight home. it has been know for tours to be extended in the past few years, not shortened. you'll have to wait and see.
2006-11-29 08:20:52 · answer #3 · answered by haikuhi2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My BF is going to be going to Iraq so I feel your pain. but they really can't say much about what they are doing because its top seceret and they don't want anything to leak out. it is typical for the tour of duty time to be extended i know people who have stayed over a year and one of my friends has been over there 3 times all of witch were longer than a year, but she can' t do anything about it. she even is mentally scared from all the attacks they had. i am not trying to scare you or anything i am sure that he will be fine.. i just know what you are going through its really hard when someone you love is in that kind of situation. But who knows he could come home early!!!!! Just think about how great it will be when you finally get to see him again!!!
2006-11-29 10:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by Brokensoul898 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason he does not tell you what he is doing and what is going on is because he can't. They can not divulge that kind of information to anyone in fear that someone (terrorist) will get the information and use it against the troops. When they tell you you are going to be deployed for a year, you usually are deployed for a year. In some rare cases you may come back sooner.
2006-11-29 06:11:58 · answer #5 · answered by channie4808 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he cant tell you what hes doing if he did he could go to jail and please dont post actual locations of where he is. it could make it very easy for the enemy to find. loose lips sink ships. sorry hubby is navy and i know nothing other that hes at sea somewhere. that info on whats going on is on a need to know and you dont have the need to know.phones can be tapped so they have to be very careful the samew with email and snail mail. becareful what you ask. i dont his tour will be shorten that almost never happens most get extended. i also have friends in the army over there.
2006-11-29 06:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by kleighs mommy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, they can't tell you everything. And a year is a suggestion, some come back sooner.
Keep chatting with him, give him something to come home to.
Hope he stays safe. Merry Christmas.
2006-11-29 06:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He is not suppose to tell you what is going on. Security reasons. Phones and computers are not all secure. If he tells you that he is fine, then he is. No one comes back EARLY from a deployment.
My ex was there last year.
2006-11-29 06:11:24 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
just be glad you can talk to him as much as you do. my fiance is going over soon and i don't think i would want to know what he's doing, just to know that he's safe. it's not typical that they come home early, but then again, it's the military, you never know.
2006-11-29 06:45:34 · answer #9 · answered by Starry Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He won't have plenty spare room. you would be plenty extra effective off getting him something he can use whilst he's on the marketplace. Plus, if it is too "romantic" the different squaddies will only make exciting of him...
2016-10-13 09:07:11 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋