My grandma is 85, has dementia. Family can no longer take care of her due to everyone working. So today, she goes to the Dr who is going to put her in a nursing home to get the care she needs. My family is feeling guilty, sad, confused. My granny is unaware of what's going on but she's almost resorted back to a young child phase of life. Please pray for my family to be strong, and more importantly please pray for my granny Maynard for a calm spirit, and that she will be able to make this adjustment smoothly.
Do you have any suggestions to help me deal with this?
2006-11-29 05:59:28 · 14 answers · asked by teresadick30 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sweet Girl - Prayers have been said. Keep on praying, that is my best suggestion for dealing with this...and be sure to add "as is Your will Father". GBYou
2006-11-29 06:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have prayed for you and your family. Many people have been in the same shoes you are. But you have the right answer, prayer.
It always works. Always.
A few suggestions might be to
1. Psalms - read them, they always lift you up
2. Find an alzheimers help group and speak with them.
3. Your local library has information on how to deal with
various aspects of caring for these types of patients.
4. Your pastor.
5. A trusted older friend.
6. A trusted peer.
I will continue to pray for you.
2006-11-29 06:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by naynay 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough situation....but - often in this kind of case, nursing homes (good ones) are the right place. I know it hurts to see it...but unless your family is willing (and able, in a medical way) to deal with all that must be done for someone with dementia, the nursing home is the best place for her.
The best thing you can do is pray (I will) and go and visit her as much as you can. Make sure she is comfy. And don't be surprised or saddened if she stops recognizing you. It will happen eventually.
2006-11-29 06:04:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I will pray for you too! Your family is doing the right thing as your grandmas' condition now requires full time professional help which can't be rendered at home so please tell your family not to feel that they are doing the wrong thing. I know of several other families who have had to resort to doing the same and eventually realised that they, in fact, did the right thing which was to allow her to receive full time professional help. May the Lord bless all concerned!
2006-11-29 06:14:08 · answer #4 · answered by mandbturner3699 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. YOU ARE ALL NORMAL PEOPLE. These feelings are perfectly normal. You may want to talk to the staff of the nursing home your granny is moving into, and see if they have a counselor on-site that can help you with this time.
Please realize that you have not all "failed" your grandmother. You would only fail her by NOT getting her the help and care that she needs so much. Would you feel guilty for getting a doctor for a woman in labor? I doubt it. It is not a moral failing to NOT know how to care for someone in this condition, either. That is why doctors, nurses, and nurses aids exist: to help people with problems like this.
Visit your grandmother often. Talk to her on the phone (if you can). Love her in the time she has left!
2006-11-29 06:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by MamaBear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ameen !!!
i wish she could be kept with your family..this is the time she needs you but yes this busy life has snatched many things from us...but u know in my place we don't have old homes.....and our elders are still kept wiht the family and are taken care....I think this is a blessing for our elders but i have heard that this system is been started in my country too.....and its depressing for me :(
Anyways i know your family will be depressed by this May God strengthen them ..and May God help your granny to get adjusted there.
2006-11-29 06:13:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish you the best. This will be a hard time for you and everyone in your family. My suggestion is to, for the time being, just communicate with family and friends, get the poisonous feelings out and try to get some good emotions in. I hope everything works for you.
2006-11-29 06:35:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is getting perfect clinical interest, it looks. Prayers supply convenience to three (many times no longer the affected human being) and that is effective because convenience is a invaluable objective. despite the indisputable fact that... not in any respect habit your prayer communities at the same time as allowing the affected human being to bypass over ideal clinical care. The treatment is in the well-being facility, no longer the church.
2016-10-07 23:18:49 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Prayer changes things. I will say one for your granny as well as the rest of your family.
You just hang on and know that God is in charge. Rely on Him to give you peace and comfort.
2006-11-29 06:04:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you should pray for confont for you and you family. And next you should speak to your Pastor or minister that you talk to often and tell them about your problem.
And if you need more help call this number( my church hotline)
24-Hour Prayer:
1.800.541.PRAY (7729)
2006-11-29 06:07:33 · answer #10 · answered by Symone2006 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋