my girlfriend has a baby its not mines but another dude take care of it like its his what should i do?

Question

when we start going together she was pregant but she was like after she was two months pregnant she didnt hear from her baby daddy so i was feeling sad so i helped her out as much aspossilble.So later down on in relationship she was like its was this dude which i know from high school be takin care of the baby and he signed the papers. i really love her she really loves so what should i do we been going together for a year now. when she told me this i was like its either me or him but she like she wants her baby to havr a daddy. i was like be woth the dude but she dont want to cuzz of there history, i need help asap

Answer 1

That's sound like it could get very messy. My advice, is to look for a less complicated situation. Find a new girl, without kids.

Answer 2

First of all when you ask a question in here it helps if you use your "check spelling" right above your Q&A box.....It makes it a lot easier on us if we can understand what a person is trying to say......I can tell you are very upset.....and you might even feel a little bit pushed aside.....be glad that the baby isn't yours. Because if it were yours I think your girlfriend would be stepping out on you with other guys...personally I think you ought to opt out of this relationship, especially if your g/f has a history with the baby's father.....you seem like a nice guy...you deserve better, you don't deserve a broken heart from this girl.....

Answer 3

unless you have just cause to believe that she is cheating on you, don't accuse her of anything or demand that she make a choice between you and "baby daddy".

that's not even what this is about.

accept that the father has a right to see the child, and that that has nothing to do with your relationship with the child's mother.

but be on your guard. he may be using the child as an excuse to try to hook back up with your girlfriend.

then again, he may just want to be a responsible daddy.

i don't know, but you do.

you know these people- therefore, you are the best judge of their characters.

^_^

Answer 4

ok i cant understand this b/c the slang is so bad...but if read it right the baby's real dad isn't in the picture, but she says its some other guy's baby, so he signed the paperwork and is officially the father. but you are upset b/c you love her and are want to be the baby's dad.....am i correct?

if so, you need to tell her that you love her and that you want to help raise the baby as your own and be the baby's dad. if she agrees then have the other guy sign his parental rights away and you adopt the baby. after that then you become the baby's dad.

if she doesn't want to do that, then just b/c the paperwork is signed and this other guy is in the picture and all doesn't mean that you can't still raise the baby as your own and be that father figure.

hope that helps...

Answer 5

yes i understand you , but he will be the Babys daddy but you will be the Father for the child . You are all the little one knows , So support your girl and Congrats to you on being a Father for the child ! You are in his life everyday !!!! Wish we could have more man doing this !

Answer 6

You cant tell her to choose between you and her childs father, thats not right. She is with you right? So, let the man stand up and be a daddy and you take care of her. Be a great step dad to the kid and let his real dad stand up. When you have a child with someone you are connected to them for life and you cant ask her to not let her child see his/her daddy. What if she asked you to choose between her and your best friend or family? She isnt sleeping with him is she? If not, then you have nothing to worry about. Dont make her choose.

Answer 7

1. Are you willing to marry this woman (you say you "really love" her) and be a father to her child?
2. Are you willing to do more than "help" her, but love her enough to make the right decision -- the one that's best for her and for her baby?

My question for her (if you're willing to do the above) is, why is it important for the "biological" father to be involved when you have a man who is willing to do the right thing by you and this baby? I'm guessing you're not willing to make that choice, considering you gave her a childish ultimatum instead of being a MAN -- real men make decisions that are the best for the people that they love, not just best for their own preferences.

Think this over in your own mind. Is it best for the woman you love to be with a man who dropped her while she was pregnant? Is it best for the child involved to have a father-figure who had to be tracked down in order to get him to sign papers? Or is it best for the woman you love to have the stability and provision of marriage with a man who is committed to her best interest and the best interest of her innocent child? If you can't be that man, you owe it to her to let her go right now!

Be a man, and do what's best for her and the baby.

Answer 8

Have tried to convience her that you could be the baby's dady?
Or you could just help her through this and become friends with the baby's daddy and then you can have the girl who you love and she can have waht she wants YOU and a Daddy for her baby..

Good Luck with whatever and choose, and you should also try Praying.

Answer 9

If you really love your GF and you want to have a future with her and the baby's biological father is not in the picture then why don't you step up to the plate. Does it really matter who the sperm donor is?? No, just remember that this is a life time commitment that you are making with the baby not your GF.

Answer 10

Unless you want to be a godfather to a criminal keep your distance. And if you want a better life start hanging around a better class of woman. Women like this will drag you down with the help of the court system. Stay away!