Im not bad looking. And I know this by walking in a club and how big of a response I get from the males. I don't dress skimpy or wear makeup, its not nessesary. But lately I have been wanting someone permanant in my life and I started signing up for things online to meet someone. However there first words to me is do you have a picture. I feel in order for me to meet someone I want to have conversations with them and get them to recognize the inner side of me. I don't want the world to see my picture niether. Some have given me there personel email to send it there but I feel they should get to know me first. What do you think.
2006-11-29 05:49:26 · 19 answers · asked by My two cents 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well unfortunately no matter how much we want people to like us and get to know us from the inside out, the first thing we need to even know if we are the least bit interested is a visual.
2006-11-29 05:53:40 · answer #1 · answered by marisanj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd post a picture. You're going to cut yourself out of a lot of work. You'll get less people trying that would not have a chance with you. I had a one month email session with a guy. We didn't exchange pictures. All seemed great until we went on our "blind date." He was not all that attractive and he ended up getting hurt in the end.
Post a picture that is darkened so it's difficult to really make out your features, but still shows you're a catch--a real beauty. If you feel more comfortable that way. Remember, you are competing for the best out there, and most other girls DO post a picture. You get more response that way. I'd stay away from posting a full body shot of yourself in a bathing suit or anything like that. It suggests you are out for "fun."
Finally, try Plenty of Fish. It's a free site and it's really good. If you're in a large center, consider E-harmony. It's not free, but it matches you to people that match your "wish list." I can't use that here, because there's just not enough people in the area.
2006-11-29 05:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by Taramasu2U 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I understand and appreciate where you are coming from, I think we also must recognize that a males initial interest is most often sparked by something visual. It is the way nature designed the human male creature. Wanting males to relate on a cerebral level first, without being able to put a face to a name will likely discourage otherwise good candidates. Besides, trading tasteful pics is harmless. I suggest that you open your mind to more avenues, while remaining selective in your choices.
2006-11-29 06:06:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to use an online dating site, you won't have much luck without a photo- that's just a fact. In a perfect world, people would love to get to know you based on your personality, but it doesn't work that way. I don't think it's being realistic to expect a person to invest a lot of time in getting to know you sight-unseen. You wouldn't want to spend time getting to know a guy, then send your photo and have him say "You're nice, but I'm not attracted to you." Take the plunge and send your photo or post it online.
2006-11-29 05:55:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I faced the same problem on yahoo personals. So I posted a picture I took of an island volcano I visited a few years ago. I put in the ad that I promise to be tall, dark and handsome and will forward a picture to anyone who asked. They did, so I did and it all worked out.
2006-11-29 05:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by drgolfmd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're spot on......but there's always an element of doubt with meeting people on the internet.....and who they really are. The request for the picture is an interesting point.....mostly its to satisfy one's curiousity since thats the only way to put a face to an entitiy you met on the internet.
Would still recommend that you wait a while before sharing your pic.
2006-11-29 05:56:19 · answer #6 · answered by sensa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I actually think it is an excellent way of screening replies.
If you are not looking for someone who will respond to you based on who you say you are, rather than what you look like, then not posting your picture will screen for those individuals.
Remember, however, that many people looking to meet others misrepresent their looks (as well as other attributes) and so your refusal to post a picture will be met with skepticism.
2006-11-29 05:57:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-16 11:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is what you do. First change your picture thing on here, you have a male picture. Go to http:/www.myspace.com and get an account. Go to browse, its going to be on the top of the menu, and look for what you want, they have pictures. Ok now you talk to them and get to know them, and go from there. You dont have to have a picture, somebody might see you, or somebody can put your body on a pornographic website. Ya dig? Email address: getmymoney5215@yahoo.com. Holla.
2006-11-29 06:01:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can see how on dating sites people want to eliminate the bad looking people immediately, but I dont think I'd trust the internet with my picture, I dont want it all over the world.
2006-11-29 07:11:46 · answer #10 · answered by radiancia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋