my bf often tells me he wants to marry me soon!! which makes me ver yhappy...we aren't quite ready though regardless i want to be his gf a while longer...we have been dating 6 months, i'd like to be engaged a little while after a year...my older cousin is getting married next summer..i told him that i would like to wait till then because i dont' want to show her up and steal her thunder, he agreed as he cant' afford it at the moment, how long should we wait after my eldest cousin is married?? this is the first family wedding in our generation. i also feel like her wedding will be better than mine. i always looked up to her as kids, her mother is willing to spend more money on it....my parents have wealth but won't blow it all on my wedding and save it for the honeymoon.
this is months away but i'm already thinking about it!
2006-11-29 05:42:57 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You should be dating at least a year before you get engaged - you need to get to know each other better, go through holidays, spend time with your families, etc. With more time, also, you and him can save up your money for the wedding, since you should be mature and paying for it yourselves.
2006-11-29 20:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
K, I would say it is a little bit to soon, but it all depends on your feelings for each other. It is oviouse that he likes u very much, but does he love u? I know for a fact that sometimes u like a person so much, u don't really understand what u r getting yourself into. If u feel there is a conection, but a strong one, in a sence that u both can see each other tougether, then yea, get married! If u think that it is just for the time being he feels as if he could never be apart from u, wait. U r totaly right, don;t steal your cousins thunder, and put off the news until a couple of months later. I would sugest talking to your cousin befor hand, but after her wedding. Oh, and by the way, your wedding will always be the best wedding ever, because u r getting married girl!!! Don't stress, do what your heart tells u to do, and what u feel is right!
Hope this helps!
Anonymouse
2006-11-29 06:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each couple is different when it comes to how long you are together before you decide to get engaged or married. My fiance and I were only seeing each other for 6 months when I got the promise ring and then only another 2 months when he proposed. We are planning a long engagement though. My parents met Memorial Day weekend and were married Labor Day weekend of the same year. They have been together for 27 years now. I can understand you not wanting to show up your cousin's wedding, but it is not a competition between the two of you. As far as the right time for you, if you want to just be b/f & g/f for awhile longer and he doesn't have the money for a ring, then it's not the right time for you to get engaged. Or, if you do decide to get engaged, plan a long engagement. Those are a couple different options for you. I hope this helps.
2006-11-29 06:32:21 · answer #3 · answered by Kelly S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok...we all think about it, especially when we meet the one. I was thinking about it from the time my boyfriend and I were on our third date! I already knew by then. We're getting engaged within the next month or so (right around the New Year, but I told him I don't want to know when exactly!) and, trust me, I've thought about all this stuff for a long time. I would say wait until your cousin is back from her honeymoon, that way she gets to show her pictures from her honeymoon and wedding and then you guys get to have your own, special engagement. Wait about a month after she gets married so that the excitement and hub-bub about her wedding has worn off and everyone can get all excited about you guys! It's not just about not stealing your cousin's thunder, it's about not stealing your own thunder. You want your day to be unique and special, too! You don't want your big day overshadowed by hers, so let her day pass before you get engaged. That's why I say to give it at least a month!
Congrats (in advance)!
2006-11-29 13:52:34 · answer #4 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you and your cousins wedding shouldn't be a competition - atleast you have your head on right about waiting until you've been together a year or more before becoming engaged - I think anything short of that is way too soon to even think about marriage. As for waiting until after your cousin is married for him to propose - wait a couple of months and let the newlyweds enjoy the spot light for a while - and most of all I wish you the best of luck in this!
2006-11-29 05:51:46 · answer #5 · answered by Angelina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been together with my bf for only 10months and were getting engaged in a couple of weeks. We know its the right time and we have no doubts.
You have to listen to your gut. If you have any regrets or you feel hes NOT the one...then dont.
You will know hes the one...its just a feeling you cant describe.
Dont worry about stealing your cousins thunder. My cousin is engaged and my other cousin is getting engaged in a couple of months....Its only and "engagment"....no big deal...
2006-11-29 05:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok, i'd say it particularly is somewhat to quickly, even though it certainly relies upon on your emotions for another. it particularly is oviouse that he likes u very plenty, yet does he love u? i understand for a actuality that usually u like a man or woman plenty, u do no longer particularly understand what u r getting your self into. If u experience there's a conection, yet a solid one, in a sence that u the two can see one yet another tougether, then yea, get married! If u think of that it particularly is barely in the mean time he feels as though he could in no way be different than for u, wait. U r totaly impressive, don;t thieve your cousins thunder, and positioned off the information until eventually a pair of months later. i'd sugest conversing on your cousin befor hand, yet after her wedding ceremony. Oh, and by the way, your wedding ceremony will continuously be the superb wedding ceremony ever, because of the fact u r getting married female!!! do no longer rigidity, do what your heart tells u to do, and what u experience is sweet! desire this facilitates! Anonymouse
2016-10-04 12:41:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you should take your time and focus on each other and not the other family members. After you get engaged you can also take that time to get to know each other.
Remember to sit and talk with each other about non wedding stuff. the wedding is only one day.
Talk to each other about money, kids (not just cute baby names either), housing and friends will be dealt with in the relationship.
Enjoy your time together
2006-11-29 05:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by alysiallen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you don't feel like you are ready.. then it wouldn't work out... so just make sure that this is what you really want.. and tell him too... that you want to take it slow.. and if in maybe a year or 2 then you can talk about it.... and as for your cousins wedding.. size doesn't matter.. or the amount of money put into it.. as long as YOU are in love and YOU are happy that is ALL that matters.. either way GOOD LUCK!!!! and take your time.. :-)
2006-11-29 06:03:36 · answer #9 · answered by laceylu555 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
date another 6 months before deciding to devote the rest of your life to him. Get engaged in 6 months, then plan your wedding for 6 months after that.
2006-11-29 06:12:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋