my bf and me have a great realtionship and everything and he has always been supportive of my swimming career. a week ago in the mail i found a letter from this place in cali! they want me to swim there with them in some competition! i was so excited and when i told Rissy he freaked out and said that he cant go because of his musical try outs and i dont want to go alone! my friends rudi and cindy have a town house out in cali about 20 miles from the comp is. we have been so suportive of eachother and now we are at a huge rift. he says if i go then that means i dont care about his music. (he wants to go somewhere in life with it) i care but i have to follow my dreams right? what should i do?
2006-11-29 05:37:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Baby baby baby, i didn't mean if you went you didn't care about my music. i met i couldn't go be cause i care about my music. it will be fiiiine. rehearsals don't start till February so i can defiantly come with you!!!1
2006-12-01 02:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to follow your dreams first before you can be a cheerleader for someone else. Tell your BF, if he really cared about you then he would not try and make you feel bad about doing what is best for you. At the end of the day, you have to look out for yourself. Good luck in your comp!
2006-11-29 05:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by Madamree 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 12:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to keep this relationship alive, both of you have to make compromises. If the both of you keep fighting for your own needs, trust me, the relationship will never last. Why dont YOU be the one to walk into his shoes? why wait for him when You can make things right? after all he will do the same for you later someday.......
so what you can do it go along without him... the both of you should do this one on your own.. and then u'll feel the need for him more and miss each other more... which will result in a greater love and a greater relationshp....
Your dreams are important.... so is he... the only way you can get both right is to follow your dreams for now... or u'll always keep regrettin... dont worry about him.. he'll miss you too much that when u come back he'll run towards you and say.. oh how i wish i were there for you.... and how i missed you.. ...etc etc..
2006-11-29 05:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by elspringster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that if he loved you he would tell you to go and follow your dreams. Just because you want to follow your dreams doesn't mean you don't love him or care about his dreams.So go follow your dreams I know it is going to be hard but if the two of you are each others soul-mate you'll meet again and have a second chance. But if you pass up this competition you may never have another chance like this again. SO FOLLOW YOUR DREAM. Good Luck and may God Be With You
2006-11-29 05:51:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your dreams. If he cares about you then he will understand. As far as going alone,what would you have done before you knew Rissy? Don't give up your dream/life for someone else's dream/life. You would regret that for the rest of your life.
2006-11-29 05:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
option 1 is :: Let both have some space. you go for your swimming competition (fulfill your dream) and let him have his music (let him complete his dream).
option 2 is:: You sacrifice your dream, don't go for the swimming competition and stay with your love.
option 3 is:: Ask him to sacrifice his dream for you. tell him to come with you and prove his love for you.
I think option 1 is the best. Both of you won't regret in life.
2006-11-29 05:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make him realize that you will regret not going, and that you both should follow your dreams even though it would mean you both would be going alone
2006-11-29 05:40:45 · answer #8 · answered by saraikyon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its just a competition!! Go for it!! its not like you're going to be gone for weeks or months, its prolly just a few days.... no big deal. he should be supportive of you and you should be supportive of him... if he cant go with you then call each other everyday when your're at the competition, thats all
2006-11-29 05:41:04 · answer #9 · answered by ballin4eva87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to explain to him that you have dreams too, both of you have to make some sacrifices from time to time in order to please each other, you can't speand your entire life trying to please him, that is not what a love relation is about.
2006-11-29 05:42:32 · answer #10 · answered by Michel C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋