I was at a party on Saturday night. I got a little drunk, and I was talking with a guy friend that I have known for about a year. On Monday, we exchanged some funny emails about things that happened at the party. One of his emails made reference to me saying some things that he surprised him. I knew that I was being bold and flirty, so I emailed him back and asked him if I propositioned him and apologized if I said anything inappropriate. He emailed me back and said the following :
"I don't recall any propositions...but it is flattering to know that the risk was there."
How do I interpret that, and how do I respond ? I might be interested in having fun with the guy. I know he is married, so please don't read me the riot act, just interpret for me.
2006-11-29 05:33:39 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
HOW SHOULD I RESPOND TO HIS EMAIL AND STILL BE CAUTIOUS OF WHAT IS HAPPENING ?
2006-11-29 05:38:48 · update #1
Sometimes the best sex is had in this type of a situation. He needs something other than the norm, you have it and want it. Done deal. As long as you have no ties to the family or friends that you could lose then cool.
2006-11-29 05:36:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
He was flattered that the risk was there? He obviously likes your attention. I see this as his open door. He is waiting for you to respond to see if you are on the same page and willing to walk right in. I would keep my apology where it is an leave it at that. If you respond in an equally flirtatious manner and things escalate, you will only have yourself to blame. Getting involved with a married man is a huge mistake and it doesn't matter how innocent you may think your involvement has been or could be.
2006-11-29 13:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by ladyshua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's just flirting back. Often people in relationships like to know they are still attractive to others. I wouldn't read any more into it unless a proposition is actually made. This fling is probably not worth the downfall, especially losing a friend. If you still really want to go for it, you might say "What proposition would be worth the risk for you?"
2006-11-29 13:39:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a 35 year old married guy and been happily married for 10 years. BUT if you were a young 20 something flirting with me I would love it! Heck, us guys love to have our egos stroked (along with other things). Now the difference between me and the normal guy would be that that flirting is where it would stop! But most guys I know are not happily married and are not pleased with their sex lives and would be all over a young woman and let her stroke more than their ego!
Be careful! Consider the wife!
2006-11-29 13:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being in contact with this man. For God's sake, he's married! How would u feel if some chick was firting with your husband behind your back? So, treat others the way you'd like to be treated. Anyway, this man has no respect for you or his wife by flirting; he may be flirting with other women too, and not just you. Beware of players! They will hurt your feelings. Also, if you did hook up with him, he'd cheat on you, also, with some other whore. Once a cheater, always a cheater, right? So don't hurt his wife by flirting with him- she probably is in love with her husband, and you're probably not. So think about what you're doing and whom you're hurting, ok?
2006-11-29 13:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by barbaraspice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to interpret. He could be a faithful husband who feels good that he "still has it." Or he could be ready and willing to cheat. The right thing for you to do is obvious. Make it clear that you are a friend and there are boundaries. Having a fling with a married man is disrespectful to all parties involved.
2006-11-29 13:38:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is still harmless at this point. He said we was flattered, not interested, there is a difference. There is no need to respond to the e-mail - it wasn't open ended at all. It seems as if he is trying to maintain it on an honest level.
Do not pursue this. Flirting is fine, cheating is disgusting. I hope you think more of yourself than to be the other woman.
2006-11-29 13:37:18 · answer #7 · answered by Tara P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No interpretation needed - you know exactly what he is implying, you just want someone to tell you it is alright to proceed.
Speaking as the cheated-on spouse, the hurt you will cause to this marriage(regardless of his careless playfulness), family and your own life is not worth the pursuit.....also rest assured that what comes around goes around.........if thinks nothing of playing on her, what makes you anymore special - simply put - he is uncommitted to anyone regardless.
Guard your own heart, pay better attention to your behavior that you are not entrapped by someone who is not only out to use you much less hurt you.
You deserve more!
2006-11-29 14:15:19 · answer #8 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants some p*ssy on the side. That is the interpretation. But getting with a married man is the wrong thing to do for him, his wife, his family and for you. Run the other way.
2006-11-29 13:36:29 · answer #9 · answered by daj11551 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's definitely interested...but be careful.
He's married, so he has a wife who would already be hurt if she knew what has already transpired.
Does he have children? You will negatively effect the rest of their lives if you get involved.
And you work at the same business? So, you want a reputation?
Sounds like three strikes and you're out to me.
2006-11-29 13:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by drgolfmd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋