I have been dating this person for two months, and although things are wonderful, I find that since we got closer, he's a bit detached at times, so i am not sure if it's a lifestyle thing, or a personal thing. Either way I am willing to give it a shot, but I wonder if i need to learn more about it. He's a big boy, been in the force for 16 years, so I am not worried about him getting hurt. Just want to know other's experience and see what I should expect.
2006-11-29 05:22:42 · 8 answers · asked by grldragon101 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is something i know about......One thing that has to happen though is that you must alow him to leave work at work.....There are some things you just don't want to know.......But other than that most are really good guys.....
2006-11-29 05:25:48 · answer #1 · answered by Steven A 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd think that the main concern is that he's putting himself in danger everyday. Yet that dedication and job is protecting regular citizens. He might be worried about possibly end up being killed or permanently disabled through an injury. He may be big, but things happen.
Then there are other things, such as children. Don't know where your relationship is or if you even want children, but I've read too many tragic stories in the paper about how an officer left his gun out where the child could find it. Not just your own but children of friends, etc. who think it's really cool that he has a real live gun.
If you're willing to go for it, then I'd suggest you have a long talk with him about where this relationship is headed.
2006-11-29 05:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by Bookworm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when a person is in law enforcement you will experience that "detachment". From my experience, its their way of winding down from what has gone on at work. Remember he comes across all kinds of people from different backgrounds & each day on the job is different. NO 2 days are the same. I think the 2 of you will be just fine. Be supportive. Talk to him. Show an interest in his work. He may just want to "vent" & dont know how or is waiting for an avenue for discussion. I hope it all works out for you.
2006-11-29 05:30:37 · answer #3 · answered by SweetPeaz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not saying all are like this but in the past I have dated several law enforcement officials and all have been very protective. It was to the point where no matter where I went (work, school, out ) they would always have someone looking out for me. It became too much for me. Don't get me wrong its good to have someone looking out for you but sometimes it would get to the point I didn't want to tell them where I was going. Also, some of the ones I have dated worked so much(two, three jobs) that we didn't spend too much time together so that could be why they had someone looking out.
2006-11-29 05:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Law enforcement is very demanding, and will create uncertaity. He will end up working very late some nights, he will miss important things to you, and he will be very distant at times, cause he will see things that will be hard for him to digest.
2006-11-29 05:28:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has a very dangerous occupation. You never know when he leaves in the morning if he will be coming home that night. Good luck!
2006-11-29 05:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
deal with him and not his job. he is a hard man chose a hard job. if you love that kind of man then stick to him. That is why they said for better or for worst.
love and support
2006-11-29 05:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by Silly Jaro 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wut?
2006-11-29 05:25:33 · answer #8 · answered by Sydney 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋