out there like me who still think about it? i am a man now. it all started with my dad and after a while my mom found out what he was doing and she wanted me to. i am not tramatised by it now but i do still have the memories.
2006-11-29 05:22:18 · 30 answers · asked by to old 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get therapy!
2006-11-29 05:23:48 · answer #1 · answered by GRUMPY1LUVS2EAT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry that you had to go thought that. And NO you are absolutely NOT WEIRD! What you went thought, it's awful. Still, how can you say you are "not be traumatized by it now"? You don't mention counseling but I hope you went for some or will go. If you didn't then the horrible things that you had to endure (which NO CHILD should EVER have happen) will continue to haunt your thoughts and re-victimize you each time they come to your mind. I was not sexually abused by my parents (that I recall) but I WAS physically and emotionally abused almost DAILY. I sought counseling as soon as I was 18. It was very helpful and in many ways. I still occasionally think of some of the abuse but not in the way that I did before I sought help. I hope you did or will...please consider that seriously OK? If you already did you may want to try journaling to get the thoughts out of your head. Also a good book about healing from child abuse. There are many on Amazon.com under "child abuse". Or you can go to your local library. There are some very helpful books that can help you move on and not have those thoughts. Hope this helps somehow. (Also I reported the poster "Peter S" and SourPatchKid for being SICK PIGS! There are wayyy to many CHILDREN and child-minded adults on this answer board!)
2006-11-29 13:32:02 · answer #2 · answered by Kaitlyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am shocked at some of these replies to your question. Yes, it's possible to be ok with it and still have memories. Some people just will not let certain things destroy them. Although I suspect you might have some relationship issues from sexual abuse because that is fairly common. I would suggest therapy, only to make sure you aren't stuffing things down only to resurface later (which I have seen happen frequently). But of course you will have memories of it, it is a big deal! Don't be hard on yourself okay? Remember it wasn't your fault, and it's okay to not respond the "usual" way - everyone is different. Good luck with this and Happy Holidays.
2006-11-29 13:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by boowhitehead2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you got a hell of a set puttin' your junk out there like that but I would think that your memories are still having some kind of affect on you or you wouldn't feel weird. I personally don't think you're weird, I think your parents are the people with "issues". This is a touchy subject and I hope you find what you are looking for to get the obvious closure you need about it. Good Luck friend....
2006-11-29 13:28:17 · answer #4 · answered by mother_flower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The memories will always be there they will pop up all of a sudden come out of nowhere You are not weird there are many of us who were sexually molested by a parent It does traumatize everyone in some way shape or form but only you can be strong mentally and emotionally not to let it haunt you in your daily life. So don't let it define who you are because its not who you are but just something terrible that happened to you. You are not alone
2006-11-29 13:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by ladycaramel06302003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i also have negative feelings about and towards someone that hurt me when i was younger. its not something you get over lightly you will remember it always you can try to get passed it and even forget it for a little while but not for ever. i have kids of my own and i am very protective of them i sometimes even get paraniod about the kids dad and wonder if i can trust him with the kids alone, its not that he has done anything out of the way or anything its just how do you know if it happened to me it might happen to them, and i havent had any dreams or anything about me and my passed but i do have dreams about ppl hurting my kids and it is really hard sometimes its like a constant reminder i cant let my self completly for get other wise i might put my gaurd down and not notice the signs of it happening to them. i am sorry to here about this and i hope you are being serious instead of just some story you made up to see what other ppl say becasue lol i was actually having a good day.
2006-11-29 13:29:33 · answer #6 · answered by cute redhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you had to go through that during your childhood.
Ive never been through such a thing. I am really glad you have grown to be such a strong man. What you can do now is to give watever you thing you wanted as your happiness. Give watever love you have to other and share happiness with them. I am sure when you have people to share happy things those memories will never come back to you. Only good memories with people that you have showed kindess and love shall remain.
I will pray that God will let you find the strenght and all the best.
2006-11-29 13:29:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hon. You need to find someone to talk to and work this out for yourself. I was sexually abused by my brother. Ick. It makes me feel so gross sometimes, but I always, always, always believe that it is not about me. It was all about him and his unconscienable actions. Same with your parents. What they did to you is wrong and traumatic - it changes the little boy you were becoming...shaped who you are now. But what they did is about them - not you. I'm sorry for you - for the pain you endured and still live with, but you sound like you are a bit like me in that it doesn't affect me now any more than I let it...but the memories never fade. You just learn how to live with them and try not to feel less secure or loving about yourself. Wish the best for you.
2006-11-29 13:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by Grá 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely not alone. I know a lot of grown men and women who still think about and oftentimes struggle with childhood abuse. Please consider talking to a professional about this--as a man, you want to be able to provide for and protect your family (or your future family whatever the case may be). You want to be sure that you will be in a place mentally, emotionally, and spiritually before that time comes.
I will keep you in my prayers. God bless!
2006-11-29 13:26:47 · answer #9 · answered by Mary's Daughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad.
I don't think that is something you can ever fully recover from.
Do you still have contact with your parents? I think they are disgusting people and I hope that one day they are truly punished.
I hope you have a good support group around you.
You shouldn't have to go through this alone.
2006-11-29 13:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are fine currently since you gotten over the incident.
Memories are definetly,memories are there to stay,keep them inside forever,where they belong.
Move on and look life at the positive light
;)
2006-11-29 13:25:27 · answer #11 · answered by Evans 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋