I am really impulsive, so a while ago, I married this guy named Ryan. And we lived happily and he was so sweet and everything, but then I met this guy named Ashton, and I fell in love-but I was still married to Ryan, it was love at first sight with Ashton and me, so I made the decision between them, and divorced Ryan. Ashton and I are living happily now, but Ryan is really hurt and mad at me-I feel like such a whore because Ryan never did anything to hurt me-and I did, but I love Ashton-but Ashton doesn't want me to have anything to do with Ryan anymore because Ryan hates Ashton with a passion now, and they got in a fist fight at a club. I'm torn between both guys, and if I don't make a decision soon, I'll lose both. Ryan told me he'd take me back if I wanted to, and I think its really sweet-but what about ashton? I know I messed up totally, but I'm pregnant with twins with Ashton, and I never had anykids with Ryan. What do I do?
2006-11-29 05:16:42 · 24 answers · asked by maconheira 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how would jumping off a bridge help me? I am pregnant with twins!
2006-11-29 05:20:14 · update #1
I am not giving them up for adoption! I am going to STAY with Ashton, but what am I supposed to do with Ryan?
2006-11-29 05:21:22 · update #2
I'm not with ryan anymore, but he keeps talking to me-and asking me to come back. Ashton is getting pissed about it all-gawd i'm in hot water
2006-11-29 05:26:41 · update #3
ok peoples look-you don't have to get so mad and everything-there was a reason besides i loved ashton that i divorced ryan. I felt that Ryan and I had grown apart and there was no love-I think the impulsiveness was not in divorcing him, but marrying him. we never talked, or kissed, and he only said hello to me right before he left in the mornings.
2006-11-29 05:33:18 · update #4
oh my god people-thanks so much. I guess I was never really in love with Ryan-otherwise my heart would have been sealed. I'm just going to confront Ryan and tell him like it is. I'm married to Ashton, with our two darling (boy and girl) twins.
2006-11-29 06:03:21 · update #5
Although you feel love for Ryan, you were never really in love with him....otherwise your heart would have been sealed. Instead, you still had a hungry heart, so when Ashton came in the picture you may have really fell IN LOVE with him. You already made your choice by getting a divorce from Ryan. But it sounds like you are keeping him on the back burner....just in case. That's not fair to him. Let him move on. Your pregnant from Ashton, that means he will be in your life for a long time regardless of what you do.Also, you would always have that temptation. Get your mind and heart cleared up quick, before you give birth! Right now your messing with both of their hearts, don't do it to your kids also.
If you stay with Ashton, you have to cut all contact with Ryan!!! It's way hard....but eventually he can get over you and go on with his life. Until then, you will not be able to give your self completely to Ashton.
Good luck and remember it's not only your life your dealing with.
2006-11-29 05:39:12 · answer #1 · answered by DREAMY 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please leave Ryan and let him move on. Just cut your ties with him. You are pregnant with Ashton's twins, so go live your new life with him, and just leave Ryan alone, so that he can find someone to love and trust, and have children with some day. To hold on to him and bounce back and forth is selfish. You have already made your decision by becoming pregnant. Now that there are kids involved, do the right thing for them, and straighten up and make a good home for them. Games are over when kids come along, at least they should be, but then again, it's the ones who won't quit playing games that keep the Jerry Springer Show on. So sad. Good luck to you and your future family.
2006-11-29 05:23:19 · answer #2 · answered by boowhitehead2003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Go to confession.
2. You may or may not be or have been in love with either Ryan or Ashton. But you never really loved either. Being in love is an emotion, but loving is a choice.
3. Recognize you are not a whore--you are child of God. Your intentions were pure, even though you did not think through your actions and their consequences. Everyone makes mistakes. It's how you handle yourself after the mistakes are realized that define who you are as a person.
4. Pray about it. God will show you what you should do now.
Good luck and God bless!
2006-11-29 05:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by Mary's Daughter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you've made your bed..now you just have to lie in it. Marriage isn't something you should have jumped into in the first place. You should feel bad for hurting Ryan. and if you are feeling like a whore, it is just the guilt from knowing what you did is wrong. If you are pregnant with Ashton's babies, then that is where you need to stay. And leave ryan completely alone, so he can start healing from the distruction you caused. Piss off Miss Whore.
2006-11-29 05:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by shasta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stay with Ashton. I would try to explain things to Ryan, that you think he's really sweet and an awesome guy, but that you need to see things through with Ashton, especially now that you're pregnnt with Ashton's twins. Besides, think of it this way: by never really leaving his life, he's never really had a chance to get over you andmove on, and obviously he still t hinks/hopes that there's a chance between you two. Just try to be gentle when you explain to him that y'all can't hag out anymore.
Otherwise I would just stand up to Ashton and tell him that he just needs to get over it, that obviously you picked him over Ryan, and that you can see Ryan at public hang outs without him, so that those two never need see nor speak to eachother again..... of course this only works ifyou don't live in a small town. :) g'luck!
2006-11-29 05:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by Julie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You're really in a bad situation, girly.
I suppose, for the children's sake, you should stay with Ashton. If you and Ryan were meant to be together, then you wouldnt have fallen for Ashton, much less gotten pregnant with twins.
Good luck with your decision.
2006-11-29 05:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by Leah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ingore Ryan and stay away from him. He has to get over the fact that your relationship is over with him and that you and Ashton love each other and are starting a family. Sure you may have broken Ryan's heart but he needs to get over it. He's ruining his own life over something that probably wasn't meant to be and the stress is probably putting you and your twins at risk. I hope this helps.
2006-11-29 05:31:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta learn some self control, you're only 14/15 years old and you've got quite a sexual track record there. Slow down for God's sake or else you'll end up pregnant!! Don't mean for this to sound harsh... I hope you figure this stuff out and feel better about yourself. But c'mon, just have some self respect and wait for a guy who proves that he actually respects you. If you don't stop yourself now I promise you're going to look back in 5 years and regret all the slutty stuff you did so young.
2016-05-23 02:18:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love Ashton, then stay with him. You are having his children. Keep your distance from Ryan, he needs space from you so he can move on. He is looking at everything you say and do and is looking for signs that you still love him and want him. Cut him off.
2006-11-29 05:27:18 · answer #9 · answered by hello 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This seems like a tale of "nice guys finish last" type of thing. The did nothing wrong to you, and you divorce him on an impulse. I will give you credit that you technically didn't cheat, not that I am aware of from your story. But this "grass is greener on the other side" garbage hurts many people. Loyalty is a characteristic that seems to be hard to find now days, and it hurts me to hear this story. It happened to me, a girl I loved, I treated like gold, turned on me without a reason. I feel for Ryan, and I can only pray for this situation.
2006-11-29 05:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by Light Bringer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋