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2006-11-29 05:08:09 · 20 answers · asked by Marino 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
See if he can love you and not have sex with you.......Then he should be pretty trusting......
2006-11-29 05:10:58 · answer #1 · answered by Steven A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a natural reaction to distrust everyone after you have been hurt. But don't let the past affect the future. What happens when you do meet that one guy who absolutely DOES love you. Would you like your distrust affect your relationship with him? Each relationship is a risk. That's why it's important to savor every step. Take each step slowly. Evaluate your feelings before you claim that you love. And if they say they love you, consider their actions. If they have been completely selfless, then yes, they are probably in love. If that's so, then go with it. Dive into the relationship and let yourself sink into the feelings. Remember, Love is selfless.
And it's not just guys who lie about love. Most people confuse infatuation or obsession with true love. If they choose themselves over you, then they don't love you. They are only in the relationship for themselves. But it's not just guys! Girls do it too.
Eventually you WILL find a guy who genuinely loves and cares for you. Take each relationship slowly. Don't move too fast. Don't do anything that would hurt you if the guy actually doesn't love you.
And as a guy who takes pride in NEVER EVER EVER having lied to any of my girlfriends, I have to take offense at the statement that all guys lie. Some of us have honor and refuse to lie. My ex told me she loved me. (She didn't actually love me.) It was an amazing moment and it meant a great deal to me. But I had to be honest. I wasn't quite there. I cared for her. I was completely infatuated. I thought about her every minute. But it was out of pleasure. So to be honest, I couldn't say that I loved her back. Had I lied to her and told her that I loved her back our relationship would have taken off into the stratosphere. We would probably be engaged by now. But it wouldn't have been based on truth. Should I have lied? If I would be okay living inside this world, yes. I'm sure a lot of relationships start off this way. But I'm not happy with this worldly world. I want truth and honor. What should have happened is that she should NOT have lied. It would be best if everybody was just honest with themselves and each other. Relationships would be so easy if we could just freaking be honest with each other!!!
2006-11-29 13:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's how you can tell if a guy is honest:
Do not have sex with him until after marriage. If he is pressuring you, or if he cheats on you, you will know he is dishonest. And your heart will be more guarded (even though it will still hurt) when he leaves. But your faithfulness to yourself will be rewarded--and the man to whom you give yourself completely will have that much more respect and even admiration for you.
Also, you must pray! God wants you to be happy just as much as you want to be happy. I was proposed to 2wce before my husband proposed, but I knew from prayer that it wasn't "right." Praise God that he saved me from what would have been two awful marriages.
P.S. I would trust my husband to the ends of the Earth--and I have been lied to, cheated on, played with and discarded so many times in my dating experience that I never thought I would trust another man. But when you place your trust first in God, God provides all the rest:)
2006-11-29 13:13:14 · answer #3 · answered by Mary's Daughter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start out with some trust, and see how he treats you. Consistency is the key. I am saddened by the number of negative responses to this question -- some guys are schmucks, but there are some of us who love our women and try to be good to them.
2006-11-29 13:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to be assertive of a man when he says I Love You... because if he really does, he will live it. He might not get you expensive stuff and be all romantic but there will be moments when you look at him and you can truly see in his face that he loves you with all his heart. Its very cliche but its true, Actions speak louder than words. Just listen to a mans actions...
2006-11-29 13:14:57 · answer #5 · answered by ballin4eva87 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something earned! It takes more than a few words, "I Love You", to establish trust with anyone. It sounds like you need to spend a little more time together with whomever you decide to put your trust.
2006-11-29 13:45:25 · answer #6 · answered by Reel Homme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look dear, in everywhere there is good and bad...thingas like love,trust can be felt more than seen..the person who loves is caring about his lover, protecting him, happy when seeing him, creates any reason or occasion to express love for him..you can see his eyes sparkle ,and his lips smile when he sees you coming in,he preferes to spend time wz you more than anything in the world,he tries to like all you like,he feels safe,peace,calm and joy when he is by your side..you can find him the first one beside you at bad moments,he feels you without talking,he understands what do you need,he is simpy enjoying time when he is near to you.....love is not only sex,it is a part of the relation...love is not a word,it is actions and words togather
2006-11-29 13:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by miaooooooooo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
one thing that i learned from being in love and getting hurt by a liar was to trust myself only,the next guy you think you know and care about,check him out completely,are you afraid of being by yourself and just dating with no sex or do you have baggage or issues with yourself that need to be handled first before you can get involved with anyone,find a new hobby besides looking for a love relationship,girl take care of yourself and then you will attract the right friend first
2006-11-29 13:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by brenijahsmom05 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most men lie? No dear ALL men lie- is just a matter of degrees... you can't trust anyone but yourself and if it feels wrong it probably is.
2006-11-29 13:13:40 · answer #9 · answered by witchway 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most guys dont lie..IF you find a nice guy...Look at the guy first of all..Is he a nic guy all around? Is he looking for sex or a relationship? this will help
2006-11-29 14:22:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you were hurt but i don't think MOST guys lie about that maybe other stuff but for allot of them it is hard to say so when they do they usually mean it
2006-11-29 13:11:46 · answer #11 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋