Help for a single mom?

Question

I'm a single mother of two boys. I'm thinking about going back to school to major in sociology. I'm tired of doing a job that does not make a difference in the world. I'm scared that i'm not gonna be there for my children as much anymore and it's going to be to overwelming but it's something that i really want to do. Help!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

You know something ? You are going to make it. I'm a single Mom, I went back to school when my boys were young and my daughter too. Guess what I took? Sociology and Crim! and then I took Business and I want to take law now :)

Have faith in yourself, believe in yourself...and like me...when you can't and you feel alone....just look at those little faces and just know that the sacrifices you are making right now....will empower your children when they are older b/c they will see all the hard work you did to make your family work!!!

All the best....and just believe!!! I KNOW YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!and I'll be praying for you too :)

Answer 2

a sociology degree might be worth about as much as the paper it is printed on-
aside from that, you will be able to be in school and be with your kids if you don't have to work much-
plus, think of the good example you are setting for them-
congratulations

Answer 3

Good for you! I applaude you for even considering the option. Far too often we settle into where we are rather than where we want to be. You didn't mention how old your kids were. I think this makes a difference. I only have one son but he was 3 when my husband passed away. I was a 26yr old college freshman at the time. I was terribly off focused when I graduated high school so that's why I started so late.

It would be a lie to say that you can go to school, work, and spend the same amount of time you normally do with your kids. There are only so many hours in a day. Have a realistic picture of what it'll take to achieve your goals and it'll make the decision to do what you feel best that much easier. If you have a strong support base, like family and/or friends, you can do this easily. Whenever you go, you're going to take quality away from your family. The pace you take classes will determine how much time you'll be away. You can choose to take as many classes as you comfortably can right now and rely on your support base as much as they'll allow or you can take a class on a part time basis while working to get a job in your chosen field (to supplement classroom time with work- life experience). By taking on more classes, you knock down some of the time it'll take to finish. So although you're spending more time away from family, the fact that you'll get your degree sooner, the sacrifice of your family time won't be that long. If you take part time classes, you'll have more time to spend with family right now but it'll take longer to get your degree. Either way, you still get your degree. The point is to keep moving because once you stop there is no telling how long it will take you, if at all, to get back on track.

Answer 4

I go to school full time and work fulltime, I dont have kids and its hard, but it also depends on how old your boys are. If they're still younger than like 12 try to find things to keep them busy while your at school, sign them up for karate or some kind of hobby. No matter what you'll always be there for your children if you love them that much, but dont deny yourself the opportunity for a successful career that could not just benifit you but your boys as well. Maybe taking part-time classes would be the best way to start off. Good Luck!

Answer 5

Let me tell you, I am a mother of 2 children, and started school as a single mom. I major in Sociology, I go part time, work part time. I say GO FOR IT!! I waited so long because I was scared too, but I love it, and I don't regret starting school. Your children can be encouraging to you, you will be setting an example for them, and will be able to provide a better life for them after you graduate. It isn't always easy, but nothing worth having is ever cheap or easy.

Good luck!!

Answer 6

This is coming from a single mom. I strongly suggest you go back to school and get a degree so that you can provide a stronger home for you and your family. This is going to take many risks on your part, but you have to decide if its a risk youre willing to take. There are many single mothers out there who have done this, and say it changed their life, and they dont know what they would have done if they didnt do it. Also, your going back to school will influence your children to stay in school and they will admire and look up to your decision in the long run. good luck and god bless you!

Answer 7

I have only one son and I too hate being in a dead end job!! I want to go back to school but I feel like I am neglecting my son.

My advice to myself and to you are, if you can afford to go back to school, take that chance! Not just for you but for your sons. If they are with a grandmother or father that loves and cares for them and teaches them well and as long as when you come home you spend time with them and let them know that they are loved then they will be ok.

Explain to them why you are doing this. Also If you set up a routine with them either before you go to school or after you come home by doing something special with them They wont feel like you arent there for them.

You also need to know your own limits. if it is going to be too overwhelming and you burn yourself out it will reflect in your attitude and you might be to tired and irritable to actaully be around your kids. This inturn effects your children in a negative way.

There are a lot of pros and cons i awalys draw a line down a paper and write out pros and cons, whatever has the most wins.

I know that there are a lot of online schools or graduate schools that you can get your degree in half the time as a community college or university. University of Pheonix is a credited school where when people look at your resume it is recognized as actual college. There is a lot of written work but since it goes fast you retain the information easier.

If you go to school and get a degree your future will be easier ( thats the way i look at it myself) Most jobs paying good money require a degree unless you know someone that can get you in.

my mom always told me, take care of yourself first, because if you dont then you will never be able to take care of your children properly.

Answer 8

You could try maybe for two afternoons out of the week to attend classes (that's what I did) or you could take classes online, that's what Troy State University in Alabama offers for the working students. Good luck in whatever you choose to do. Do something that will be a success for your two boys so that they'll never lack or want for anything.
Mom of B & D

Answer 9

you should go to school again to make your career bright... Good Luck!!But You must be the mother of a preschool age child who has not yet enrolled in first grade or a higher grade in elementary school,that is why you are worrying about your children or it seems to you very difficult to study, doing a job and caring the childes at a time.Then you should go for homeschooling if you really need the degree it will save your time,which you can spent with your children as well as you can go for a job easily.But do not think to drop your studies.

Answer 10

I would say go for it if your boys are old enough to watch themselves or if you have someone to watch them for you. This will be good for both you and the boys and I agree with the other answerers-they will look up to you for this. Good luck!