I don't know what's the matter with me but whenever I'm around guys I like or find attractive I always act all cold and quiet. This doesn't happen with guys who I'm not attracted to. I talk a lot with those guys. I don't feel awkward and I'm more relaxed. Why am I like this?
2006-11-29 05:06:13 · 8 answers · asked by Coco 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Everyone is like that. The reason being is your afriad you will embarrass yourself around the guys you like. Your afraid that they will think less of you if you make yourself look like a dork, therefore you don't say anything at all.
But don't be afriad to be flirtatious...if you aren't ready to talk to them, flirt with them with your eyes. Look at him and when he sees you looking pretend it was "an accident"...
Be You.
2006-11-29 05:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by Kurt S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are protecting yourself from them. You are putting up a wall... You are only letting in the people that you trust and know well as friends... They don't want anything from you except a friendship... maybe you are not ready for the dating scene at this point in time. Sometimes it is nice to admire from afar, but not let them get close enough to touch your heart.
Has a family member hurt you by shutting you out??????? You have obviously been hurt in the past and are wary... be yourself and relax a little... You make your own decisions about who you get involved with.. trust your own instincts and only act on your feelings when you feel safe.
2006-11-29 13:11:55 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you are not afraid of screwing up, or saying the wrong thing and making them think you are stupid. It is better to let them think you are an idiot, than open your mouth and remove all doubt. Being quiet isn't a bad thing. Do you smile? Do you look at them and give them that "look"? When you find someone you like it will take awhile to get to know them, but once you do, you will start to open up. Don't worry, it'll happen.
2006-11-29 13:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not weird, you're just a bit nervous, it happens to a lot of people, it use to happen to me. Just say hi and be yourself. You aren't nervous around guys you aren't interested in so you act like yourself. Don't try to be cool when you are around guys you are interested in, just be yourself and if they like you, great, if they don't, well they probably weren't right for you.
Good luck!
2006-11-29 13:09:37 · answer #4 · answered by Yo it's Me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know how old you are but you must go back to your high school days or college days to check out your dating pattern;did someone hurt you or how is your relationship with your father or brother;girl men are like puppies and if you find one that not like a puppy,run for the hills because he probaly has baggage
2006-11-29 13:13:22 · answer #5 · answered by brenijahsmom05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i am the same way around girls. ur shy and have low self esteem that's what my therapist and i concluded.
2006-11-29 13:12:09 · answer #6 · answered by zabadass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lack of confidence
2006-11-29 13:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by ndngrlz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are just a little shy
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2006-11-29 13:09:48 · answer #8 · answered by john doe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋