i am 23 year lod dentist dating a new york guy .i live in india i meet his partner requirements but, all he talk abut is dating and sex i love him but don't know abut him i am virgin till now but no doubt he had sex with many he is gud educated . i always call him but, he hardly cares he calls me sometime only,or when i ask him to do so i want to have sex with him the prob is this i will do sex for love and he will do for fun i am attached to him but may be is proud to be citizen of us .i reaaly don't know what to do he is meeting me i am very confused
2006-11-29 04:55:37 · 22 answers · asked by baby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Baby,do you need someone who will love you only for sex?Its not love,but lust.I am an Indian,Just like you i too fell prey to such jerks before.Just dump this guy and do yourself a favour.You deserve someone better who can truely love you.This guy is just playing around with you for some sex.You are educated enough to realise this fact and you should not become a victim of some sexual abuse.Just let him go,LEAVE HIM immediately,you are better off without him.find someone who can give you true love,care,affection and attention.Drop this player and find a real man.I was in a similar situation some years ago.I suggest you to totally ignore this guy.Just stay away from him.Avoid his calls.Save yourself from destruction NOW.
2006-11-29 05:12:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 36 and I would not be able to date someone 23. There are too many differences in maturity. I have some younger friends, but we are at really different stages in life. I would be very uncomfortable personally. At 23 you are just really starting life and an adult and need that time to become who you are. I don't know about you, but I am a different person than when I was 23. But you need to do what is right for you and not worry about what others think. If you are comfortable with it , then you have to do what is right for you. You are not robbing the cradle- both of you are adults. When I was 33 I dated a 28 year old and even he was a bit young for me. He wanted to stay up all night and drink and have fun, which is fine, but I have a career and commitments and things to worry about. He was a super guy, but just at a different stage in life than me. I now am with a 42 year old and it couldn't be better. I like a more mature , established man, who knows how to be a man with confidence. I am sure he is a super guy, but 23 is a bit young in my humble opinion. Give him some time to be... Good luck.
2016-05-23 02:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if he just wants to use him, i bet you can get a better guy who will love you and respect you. I know it's hard, but this might not be the best thing for you if he just uses yah.
Honey, let's face facts here. This man lives in NY (USA) and you live in India. You are NOT dating. You don't even know him. And all he talks about is sex. So what do you think he wants from you? You spend your money calling him, but he doesn't call you. And he doesn't care. Those are your words, not mine! Wake up, you are nothing to this loser. Stop wasting your time, your money, and your self-esteem. Get a guy that lives close and that can be the best he can be... good luck
2006-11-29 04:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by SCSA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make it sound like he is a real jerk, and perhaps he is and perhaps he doesn't love you. But it is normal for him to want to have sex. I mean, 23 is a little old to be a virgin. It's not such a big deal. But your first time should be with someone you trust. Anyway, whatever you do, make sure you use a condom from the beginning to the end of sex, because pregnancy and diseases can happen even before the end.
Plus, a long distance relationship can only work if you are both very much committed to each other and, if you think he isn't, then don't depend on him emotionally.
2006-11-29 05:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honey, let's face facts here. This man lives in NY (USA) and you live in India. You are NOT dating. You don't even know him. And all he talks about is sex. So what do you think he wants from you? You spend your money calling him, but he doesn't call you. And he doesn't care. Those are your words, not mine! Wake up, you are nothing to this loser. Stop wasting your time, your money, and your self-esteem.
2006-11-29 04:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He thinks you are another notch on his bed post. Don't see him anymore, and find someone that respects you. Sounds like this guy is not into you as much as he is into breaking a virgin in. Do yourself a favor, avoid the heartache and lose you virginity with someone that likes you for you.
2006-11-29 05:00:16 · answer #6 · answered by captainkirkwood 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have waited so long for the perfect guy, dont spoil it by sleeping with a loser. i am an indian too and i know how serious indians are about sex. he is a one night stand. he will never marry you, only use you . dont waste your virginity on him. he is not worth it. save your self for someone you really love. you are fascinated by this white skin but you are not in love. have some dignity girl!show the world that we indians are not sluts.
2006-11-29 05:03:36 · answer #7 · answered by atahsina 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey grl it's simple...do the same things to him..tease him n not sleep with him..give him attitude n tell him if ur so good why do have to come to india all the way to have sex..looks like he cnt get chics in new york..haha Hey grl just move on cause i'm sure that's not what ur looking for in your life...
2006-11-29 05:00:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's to understand? He has very different ideas from you about what your relationship should be like. He basically wants to have sex with you and then leave. If that isn't what you are interested in, then you should not be with him.
2006-11-29 04:58:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Americans, I am a Canadain, our socierty is obcessed with abs and sex, if you feel all he wants from you is sex, you gotta get rid of him, there are guys out there who will satisfy you sexually but at the same time like you for who you are.
2006-11-29 04:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋