OK, we are having 150 people at our wedding. Mostly family and there will be room for maybe 30 friends.
I am an alumnus of a fraternity and have a lot of people I consider friends. This is all well and good but there is simply not room for all of the guys.
I have made of list of the must-invites, guys who have been close friends with for over a decade. Then there is the group that had invited me to their wedding. But then there is the iffy list. Guys I talk to now and then but they nor I go out of the way to see or speak. Usally when we see each other it is in a gathering. However, I am not sure if I should invite them. They are close friends with many of my friends but not as close to me (but we are firends).
My fiancee's list is set and done. Mine is not and she is giving me a hard time but I am going back and forth on some people. I wold love to use the excuse that the wedding is too small, but they will know how many people I invited from the crew.
Opinions?
2006-11-29 04:54:09 · 10 answers · asked by AntDU 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would not let Frat folks stay at your house......keg parties!!!!!
2006-11-29 04:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by go4itgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I ran into the same situation when I was making up my guest list. The way we figured out who to invite and who not to invite was if we didn't speak to them in the last year or so, they weren't invited. I know it's kind of harsh, but weddings are expensive and they just have to understand. Most of the people we didn't invite understood and didn't seem to mind.
But if you must have them there, make an A list and a B list. When people from the A list RSVP that they aren't coming, you can invite people from the B list.
2006-11-29 17:55:03 · answer #2 · answered by baadfishii_35 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get_R_Don has the best answer. If you are thinking of eliminating people, the "iffy" ones are the ones to go. The "must-invites" are the MUST-INVITES. Obviously, THEY stay on the list. After that if expenses are still an issue, you may have to exclude the secondary group who have invited you to their weddings, but I think you should make every effort to try to include them. However you should be sure to emphasize that you were limited by size, otherwise you would have included all.
2006-11-29 15:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by ami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems to be a perpetual problem of wedding planning... Inviting aunt Mary means you will have to invite her distant cousin twice removed who would be offended otherwise... I suggest you discuss the list with your fiancé, throw ideas back and forth, I'm sure you will be able to come up with a reasonable solution. Women are sometimes more intuitive then men with all this social stuff, she might have some good ideas on how to pacify everyone and still keep the expenses reasonable.
2006-11-29 13:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the whole idea of a wedding is to invite your close family and friends. the ones you talk to here and there and "iffy" ones...sound more like they just became acquaintances more then close friends. Invite the ones you are actually close to and leave it at that. If the others get upset, tell them you wanted to invite all of them but you didn't have the expenses to do that, so you invited the ones that you were close friends with. You don't really owe them an explanation, its a wedding for you and your fiance..not them.
2006-11-29 13:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by Get_R_Done_n_Dallas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a very similar issue when I got married. We decided to invite them because it only came to about 5-10 people. Plus, some may not even come and you can finish your list. However, if they are not that close to you they will understand if they don't receive an invitation. If you don't like them, of course, there's no need to invite them just because they are friends with your friends.
2006-11-29 13:05:16 · answer #6 · answered by Tara P 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make an A list and B list, invite the A list right away, and if you have the extra spaces after you get the RSVPs invite from the B list. Sort of tacky but it works.
2006-11-29 13:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you either invite them ALL or non at all. But really you should be able to invite anyone you want to and not even care about it. Might I remind you that it is YOUR & your fiancees day....nothing else matters except the 2 of you on your own special day. If you really only want certain people there, DO IT....don't worry about what everyone else will think or how they will act.....start thinking how beautiful your bride will look coming down the aisle!! CONGRATS! Good Luck!
2006-11-29 12:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Invite the town and have a grand old time. Reminds me of my college days
2006-11-29 12:57:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should invite only the ones who are more apropiate to you
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2006-11-29 12:58:35 · answer #10 · answered by john doe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋