This morning, my guy and I were talking. We live in my grandmother's house. (she stays with my retired mom so my mom can help her b/c she's not very stable on her feet.) At Grammy's death, the house is mine. He said when the house is mine, he wants to basically gut it and redo everything. I told him I didnt want to do that. He said he's be living elsewhere. I told him I didn't want to destroy my house. I have too many good memories of this house the way it is. He's still mad. Am I in the wrong for wanting it to stay the same?
2006-11-29 04:53:17 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said he would be living elsewhere, sorry.
2006-11-29 04:54:02 · update #1
We're doing some painting and laying new tile. I agree to that but he wants to rip out the beautiful kitchen cabinets my uncle built for her.
2006-11-29 05:06:01 · update #2
Tell him no
2006-11-29 04:54:48 · answer #1 · answered by ReyMysterio'swife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with change, update some things, then let other things stay the same, compromise. If he wants to live elsewhere because the house that is being left to YOU, isn't going to be exactally what he wants, geez, he needs to grow up, a lot. Don't give into his childness, but you need to think about compromise, changes are good.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-29 04:57:28 · answer #2 · answered by tdakpj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you had every right to say what you said. The house is yours and if it brings back childhood memories than you shouldn't have to change it to please him. You could compromise with him and tell him we are gonna keep the house the way it is but you can change this and, give him a list of things that he can change around the house. But if the house is yours he has no say in what should be done to it just as if it was the other way around and he had a house you wouldn't change it.
2006-11-29 04:57:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it outdated? If the carpet is old and you have 1970 wallpaper and the good old avocado or harvest gold appliances, then YES you need to update. BUT, if the house is looking good then why change it?
You could ask the advice of a trusted friend and see what they think about the decor. Maybe you could compromise and redo the most outdated items?
2006-11-29 04:57:31 · answer #4 · answered by me4tennessee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you could compromise.Fix and replace the electrical, plumbing etc. Decide what it is you love the most and save it. My cousin gutted my Gram's house. we were all sad about it. but were really amazed at the new house. It tripled the worth of the home .And the nice thing about it is Nobody can take your memories away from you.Good Luck.
2006-11-29 05:01:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is called a privilege to live in an others home. Once Grammy is deceased and the house is put in your name than it is YOUR HOME.
If you and this guy decide to stay together then get a different home together.
It sounds to me your boyfriend is taking ownership of things that are not his.
DO NOT sell your grandmothers home to provide you and your boyfriend a home together.
2006-11-29 04:59:14 · answer #6 · answered by Shawna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couldn't the 2 of you compromise and maybe just paint some of it and redecorate? Nothing wrong with fixing it up some, if it needs it. I wouldn't want someone to GUT my grandmothers house either.
2006-11-29 04:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. The house will be rightfully YOURS....you just leave it like you want...b/c you have so many memories there. He should not be pressuring you to change it....if he loves you, he'd be more understanding. Keep the house, lose the guy.
2006-11-29 04:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by circa 1980 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's your house he shouldnt be mad! He shouldnt destroy all of the memories that you have there, if he doesnt understand that, let him live elsewhere!
2006-11-29 04:56:19 · answer #9 · answered by Pink Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's that shallow, maybe he should live elsewhere. You remodel when you're good and ready, you can't bring loved one's back, so don't let others rob you of those memories.
2006-11-29 04:56:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should listen of what your hearts tells U ... If something is important for U so why destroy it ?? Dont let him make a pressur on U
2006-11-29 04:57:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋