My girlfriend of almost 6 years wants a break. i need sme advice.?

Question

Recently she came to me after 6years and said i have a problem, im not as happy as i used to be. I asked her why? she said i really dont know. We talked about it and basically she said she is sick of having to answer to me when ever she wants to go out with her friends and she is sick of having to be yelled at constantly. I then asked her dont give me false hopes but do you love me and like me as much as you always did? She replied yes i promise, she then said i want to fix the way i feel but i know i want to one day marry to you. I then said how do you want this break to work are we hooking up with other people? are we talking? are we hanging out? she said i want to talk to you and noway are other people involved in this. I then told her im not calling you and dont call me until the break is over. She has already sent me a text message telling me she misses me and the next day sends an email with pitcures of us. Should i be worried to lose her or should i let her have her space?

Just spoke to her shes been missing me like crazy and not talking to her has made her miss me. she said its been very difficult not talking to me and is very happy that he misses because now she knows she cant ever be with out me. but i said take more time i want you to be sure.

Answer 1

this is hard man.. i been there done that, but eventhough you gonna feel lonely you got to do it on your own and hold your own. she'll be back man, I know thoughts of her being with other guys will run through your mind 24/7. you got to be realistic and think positive. you need to change your ways towards her and show her that you have changed every moment you get to see her or call her. if you plan to be with her for the rest of your life, then there you should look at this as if she breathing. she has been exhausted from all the jealousy you been giving her. i was heard your love is like a plant, you have to water it and take care of it everyday. give it light and give air. its crazy man, you can't control the uncontrollable, so if she was to cheat on you or be with other man, she doesn't need a break, she could do that while both of you are married. so change and stop worrying about that, that way she knows that she has no reason to look at other man. that's your queen man, don't messed things up on negative thoughts. hit the gym and let your stress go. you need mental and physical health. don't get comfortable. and hit up your boys, go out too. you only have 1 life. she be back in due time.

Answer 2

Sweetie, take it from a girl, breaks are not a good thing. It is the same as breaking up. It is like saying I want to go do all these fun things without you and then come back to you when I am done and I know you will be there waiting for me. Six years is a long time and lets say you do get back together...what happens when she wants another break? It sounds like she is not ready for a full commitment yet. Why are you yelling at her for hanging out with her friends? Women need a certain amount of personal space when they are in a relationship. They need to be with their friends and vent about all the stupid things men do. Give her that time. Don't make her feel like she has to spend every waking moment with you. Right now you are going to have to prove to her that you are willing to give her the space she needs, but don't expect you to be sitting around the house waiting for her to make up her mind. Show her that you are willing to allow her friend time and promise to stop yelling at her.

Answer 3

Six years is a lot longer than a lot of marriages these days. And the kind of commitment you two have shown to get this far is spectacular.

However, I do not believe that a couple should need 'space' away from each other. Once a couple understand each other, there will be no problems with who is going out and for how long, etc, because each party would know how to please the other.

What would you do if when actually married she asks for a 'break'? She needs to get herself together anf figure out if permancy is what she really wants. It is not fair for her to hold you back while she figures if you are mr. right, wrong or maybe.

Not being married is space itself, what you need to do is plainly tell her to make a decision one way or the other so you can move on with your life.

Answer 4

Maybe She Thinks That Y'all Are Okay But She Wants To Know If There Is Something More.
Let Her Do What She Wants.
If You Decide To Date Then Date Its A Great Time To Run Your Life.
Have Some Fun And IF She Decides To Come Around Then She Will.
Still Talk To Her And Be Friends With Her.
Make Her Miss You Though.
Take Her out On Occasion.
Like Maybe Twice A Month.
And Then Wine And Dine Her.
Make Her Miss You.
If You Love Her It Won't Take You Long To Please Her.

Answer 5

I have been in your situation before, and I learned quick, fast and in a hurry that women don't like men who hound them about where they go and who they hang out with. There is no need to yell at her, don't you know that a gentle answer turns away wrath and calms a quarrel. I think you did the right thing here, but I would talk with her occasionally, not all the time, but some time, maybe text her back, or email her. They way you acted in the past can be changed, if this bothers her, and if she is worth it to you, then you make the personality changes. He who has ears, let them here.

Answer 6

First thing, Do not over text her. She will get annoyed and if you keep telling her "TAKE ME BACK I LOVE YOU." Learn here https://tr.im/Jotgr

She will not want you even more. You need to show her that you don't need her and can live your life without her. She still cares about you I am sure. Maybe try "flirting" with other girls around her to make her jealous. I know its bad, but if i saw my ex flirting with someone else it would make me REALLY ANGRY. However, you still need to show her you care about her too. Show her what she's missing and remind her of it. Be confident and don't show your broken heart. Try ignoring her? Girls hate that. You want her to come to you. Once she does this YOU have all the power.

She will realize what you mean to her and she will hopefully come crawling back. (I am in the same situation as you, except I am the girl trying to get my ex back). Try not to be so clingy and give her space. But try to be around so she sees you, but don't talk to her much. Keep convos short and if you txt her, which you shouldn't, then also keep it short and bland. This will be hard to do because you just want to let her in your life again, but you can't. If you show her that you are desperate to get her back, she won't go for it. Make her come to you and REMIND her of all that she is missing out on. Hope this helps. And trust me, I know how you feel. Girls usually come around easier than guys so you should be lucky. ughh wish i could say the same.

Answer 7

If you have something let it go, if it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't it never was.

I don't know where that phrase comes from but people that have been in relationships for a long time always think that the grass is greener on the other side but its not. If you are a good man u have nothing to worry about cause she is not going to find another.

Also she wants to see other people, but doesn't want you too.

Answer 8

Just give her the space that she needs and while you are giving her this space maybe you should think why she is asking for the break. I think this is a good time to take a good look at yourself and figure out why you are doing the things that are pushing her away.

Answer 9

DUDE,
I had a very similar situation, She told me to brake up with her for some time and she promised me she would come back to me again. Guess What? She left to another guy. Any-way, Don't let her go. She is planning something. Keep asking her what's going on.

Answer 10

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Once you do that then you can start to worry about getting back together with your ex, other wise you will find that you are fighting about all the same things and getting no where. Do what it takes and I promise things will work out in your favor.

The funny thing is I came to the realization that I had to change a little too late. After I was kicked out and after I was about to lose the only things that truly mattered to me - her love. A funny thing happens when we truly love someone and lose them. We do what ever it takes to get them back. For me I had to drop bad habits that had caused not only our relationship to sour but practically every other relationship I had had in the past. Not only with women, but with friends, co-workers, family, you name it.

Which is why I say to you as my ex at the time said to me, the only thing you can do is change yourself. Work on yourself and improve on the person that you already are. Drop the negative things in your life that don't belong there and you will see all of your relationships start to take off to new heights.