Iv been seeing this lad for the past 6 months, its a very strange relationship we have got. When were together i couldnt wish for a nicer person but then he just goes cold on me. I dont hear anything from him then he texts me like nothings wrong.I really dont know where i am with him. Iv tried talking to him but i get nowhere.Any tips i can use on him,play him at his own game,what do you think???
2006-11-29 04:47:44 · 19 answers · asked by skin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Playing men at their own game hardly ever works. It's easy to do if you don't have feelings for them...but if you do, you just end up in a mess. Sounds like the same thing I faced with my ex. Everything was great til we started uni. Not seeing much of each other really took its toll. He'd be too busy doing what he was doing to ring or even text me. We'd been together for over a year and a half at that point. I stuck it out, thinking if I played him at his own game then things would get better. And admittedly they did, for all of a couple of weeks each time I did it. We lasted through our first year at uni, but I can't remember the last time I was truly happy with him. It was definately before we moved away. I know this is a bit of a ramble, but what I'm trying to say is don't put yourself through it. It's not worth it. Even if you're mad about someone, like I was, if they can't make 10 minutes out their day for you they're not worth it. You'll just end up getting hurt. Eventually he finished with me. I let him walk all over me. It annoys me now that I didn't make the first move. Get in there first, move on and find someone who appreciates and can make time for you 100% of the time.
2006-11-29 05:33:08 · answer #1 · answered by jellytots78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It pointless playing games after 6 months, yeah a bit of a run around at the start is exciting so long as it moves forward to something else, it does sound like he's giving you the run around, and he could be doing this to another girl at the same time, be careful
2006-11-29 04:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anna L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to stay with him just make your life busier and turn down the volume on him a bit. Start going out more without him and stuff like that. It'll either all start coming together or eventually fizzle out.
2006-11-29 04:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by Warm Breeze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate games. You could play him at his own game...that would show him...but then you are just like him. (and he may not "get the point") And when you say he goes cold on you...maybe its not what you think. Maybe he is insecure...maybe he just doesn't know what to say to your face. It is always easier to write something than to say it. Once it is said you can't take it back...maybe expressing himself is not easy for him. Talk to him about it. See what he says. Just say "ya know, you seem distant, (or cold), is there a problem" Can't hurt anymore than it already does.
2006-11-29 04:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by Becky F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he isn't comfortable in the relationship, and doesn't want everyone to know about it. and if he isn't talking to you (other than text messaging) when you guys are apart then i am pretty sure he is cheating. i would suggest to just let the ball roll. in the end if he is cheating yeah it will hurt you, but he will feel the most guilt for doing it, since he couldn't tell you.
2006-11-29 04:51:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never really, except when he is sleeping, he is a pain you know where and when he wakes up the next morning I am angry, so he says; It is because I was sleeping and don't like to be bothered when I am sleeping! Excuses, Excuses, Excuses!
2016-05-23 02:11:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just playing. If talking with him gets you nowhere, it's time to leave him. How would you deal with things in the future when you have serious issues and he won't talk?
If you want to play his game, tell him it's celibacy until you've talked...!
2006-11-29 04:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by Cold Bird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i truely wouldnt waste my time even trying to play him. you have only been with him for 6 months and it sounds like its time for you to move on. the more time you spend on him the less time you have for you to actually meet someone who is more worthy of your time and attention. you seem attached to him and hurt by his actions but the longer you wait to take control of your own happiness the more you loose out. dump that guy and know that without him your life can only get better!
2006-11-29 05:00:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you already talked to him about it, and it seems to have had no effect on him. Depending on how much you like him and tolerate what he is doing. You can try not calling him and see how he likes it, but it sounds like he may be pre-occupied with something. Ask him what that something is.
2006-11-29 04:52:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you'll use more effort and energy trying to work him out than he's worth - he sounds too complicated. You need someone you know where you are with. Dump him!
2006-11-29 04:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋