so there is this guy who i've known for about two and a half years now. i've kinda had this big crush on him the entire time. but about a year ago we had a big fight about something stupid. so stupid i dont know what it was about. neither does he. and about october we began talking again. and flirting. but he has a girlfriend. and they're off and on. and shes always breaking up with him for stupid things. and recently when they were off, we hooked up. and he said they were done for good. so i was all excited. then two days later a friend told me they got back together. and i dont want to be that girl he calls when he wants something, ya know? and i really dont know what to do. i know i would treat him better than she does. but hes so confusung. he likes to play mind games with me. i suppose i do it to him to. but i really dont know what to do here. should i keep pursueing this or let it go and stay friends? please help me.
2006-11-29 04:45:34 · 6 answers · asked by hunnyz_heart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are in the process learning what many before you have learned: life is too short to live in doubt over whether or not a relationship is true. Do not give him the time of day, as he has not given you the most basic foundation of a healthy relationship. Respect him, but let him put doubt in other people's lives, not yours.
2006-11-29 04:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by First L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all he sounds a little immature. If he wanted to be with you then he would not have gone back to his girlfriend. Are you sure they are bak together? Second, it is too late, you have entered the friends with benefits stage. He knows that he can sleep with you and thats it and that you won't be mad at him. He will call you everytime he is not getting any from her or they break up. Finally, men always play mind games so that really doesn't mean anything different. Ask him straight up what the deal is with the two of you.
2006-11-29 04:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by Danielle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Per your history with him you 2 stopped talking for stupid things, his girl is always breaking up with him over stupid things....pardon me as sweet as he is the question is how much of his stupidity can you tolerate as a girlfriend...save yourself the headache, minimize the stupidity in your life...keep him as a friend...
2006-11-29 04:52:27 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and talk to him. Tell him how you feel. That you like him and want to be more than friends, but that it has to be exclusive. Also tell him that if that's not what he wants, or if he's concerned etc. then it is OK to remain just friends, but you want ONE OR THE OTHER! He SHOULD be OK with that. YOU in turn need to respect his decision either way. Good luck.
2006-11-29 04:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by danl747 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to ruin your friendship? Let him know how he's making you feel and tell him that he needs to make a choice..........friends or more
2006-11-29 04:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by grocerygirl_24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
email me i b you buddy u can find someone else dont chase him cause he knows that u want him play hadr to get
2006-11-29 04:49:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋