will he come back to me?

Question

my ex bf is talking to some other girl right now. but says he still loves me and still cares about me. do you think it will take him time to realize that he really loves me and will come back to me? we were together for 2 and a half years. he said that it just wasnt there anymore for us. and said he has been thinking about doing it for a while. he waited a month to actually break up with me. i dont know why he waited so long. but love just doesnt fade away that fast. i want him to realize what he is missing. will he come back to me?

we are seeing eachother on friday. im friends with his friends. i work with his friends wife. and we are gonna help paint the house. we promised eachother that we wouldnt fight. and we wouldnt act weird around eachother. he isnt bringing the girl he is talking to. it would just be way to hard. i know i have to be strong about this all night. but i think if he sees me once more he will realize that he misses me more than he think he does. what do you think?

Answer 1

If after a while he finds himself missing you that yes he will probably come back to you, if not than you need to live your life and move on

Answer 2

Same thing I've gone through.

I'm not sure what to say.

Here. . .I'll ask a question that might give us the answer we're looking for.

men: when you leave relationships after you finally "settle in" and get "bored" . . .why don't you wake up and realize that you can't have the prize without paying the price? Eventually you'll want the kind of woman you had. . .but, by then you will look like the looser you are to her and she wont want you back! Why men. . .why do some of you need to be so selfish, and shallow?

Really. . .I'd like some answers from men who have done this ! ! !

The one thing I do know is that you deserve to be loved. And you are a beautiful woman and he IS a fool to miss out on you.

But, sometimes men are just that: FOOLS.
They want all the glory without paying the price.

Answer 3

Stop behaving so desperatly!! Just go out have fun - show him that you don't need him to make you happy!! He has obviously left because the relationship is not going anywhere. It takes more than caring and loving for someone for a relationship to work. Althought they are important factors. Basically what i am trying to say is that it is possible for him to still love you and care for you, but if he feels that the raltionship is not working then obviously he is going to move on - which you should do.

Answer 4

Well, there is a 50/50 chance that he will come back to you. How long do you want to wait? What do you plan to do while he is out on his adventure? He might want to explore with more than one. Can you take that? Should you?
It is probably your first love. They are always the hardest to get over. Just remember how many men are in the world and there are a lot of nice ones.

Single and loving it.

One more thing...Sometimes they just come back to us for sex.
Be careful.

Answer 5

My ex b/f told me the same thing, he told me that he will always love me even if we break up. And he still cares about me, but we never got back together. we didnt talk for about 2 months because i couldnt bear to see him with other girls.

But now he has been going out with my best friend for 8 months and I'm actually not jealous at all, i will always be there if he needs advice, and always will be his close friend.

But who knows because he broke up with her for about a week and he realized that he really loved her, but they have only been together for 8 months, not 2 yrs....
Maybe its not there for him anymore...

Answer 6

That's a toughie! I mean to date someone for 2 1/2 yrs and just leave, I don’t get it. Maybe he was seeing this other girl at the same time he was seeing you, I don’t know! But I think that it took alot for him to tell you since he took like a month to even mention it. Good luck hun! Email me if you want to talk!

Answer 7

i dont know how old you are, but you sound rather young...in all my 38 years of being a female, i have made all the mistakes there are to make. true, that's how experience is gained...but all the years it takes add up to the waste of your youth. dont waste your precious time(your finest yrs.)on a man who dumped you so he could sleep with someone else(he is too immature and too mentally incapable of conquering the male instinct ...to allow the little head to lead, and the big one brings up the rear... the thing called conscience that govern a good womans actions does'nt seem to be a deciding factor for men. in fact, it is sent to the outer regions of the universe or something when Cheif Little Head has spoken. men really ARE , for the most
part, DOGS. way back in times long gone by, we were in need of procreation to the extreme in order to ensure the continuation of the human race...the desire to mate with as many females as possibLe(in what was a short lifetime compared to now) was an instinct that had a productive purpose. i am certain the instinct was present in females as well(and still looks like it is in some of the more genetically inferior females(stupid/ unsophisticated gals), but that females have a more evolved sense of self that more accuratly matches reality. (we look in the mirror, we see ourselves...men see a hansome stud no matter how horrid reality truly is...women look inside themselves and cannot so easily escape the reality of exactly what they are, and how their behavior effects that is apparent.
the bottom line is this...he doesnt get the sexual rush he used to, so hes dipping his pole in other waters...if you accept him back when those waters become dull, he will do it again and again and again, for as long as you put up with it. eventually he wont even break up w/ you 1st, but will lie and cheat to keep you from being available to other men.i know...trust me.
dont bother calling him or keeping in touch...just get off your *** and get yourself a date w/ a good looking man. nothing like good looking men to take your mind off the past and move forward. remember this: "ALWAYS FORWARD, NEVER BACK". it doesnt work to move backward when time marches forward...its unatural, goes against logic...IS NON-PRODUCTIVE. you'll waste a lifetime being miserable when you could've been happy...and die w/ that regret...and its a big one

Answer 8

He doesn't know what he's losin.
Saw your 360 and damn! What's that fool thinkin?
You can find another man. I understand that you love him, but sounds to me like he's trying to make sure he had a bed to go to after leaving you. No down time without getting laid. Ya know, have his cake and eat it too?
Anyway, keep your head up, either he'll wake up and realize he's a dumbass, or he'll move on. You're a gorgeous woman and you sound nice and shouldn't be worried about finding a good man.
Peace.

Answer 9

I think you should let him go. Why try to make someone be with you when they obviously dont want too? You can't. If it was true love, he would have come to you like a man and told you about the feelings he was having for a month or so.

Answer 10

it's sad but the truth guys usually know when they love a women and what to be with them. but in your case guy somethimes make mistakes. so just live your life the way you where before he came do take things out on him and don't change the old you was doing something right to keep himm for that long. he will eventually starting admitting to his thoughts about you and things will work out if it's in Gods will.