Ok, the love of my life just killed me. He broke up with me because I don't know why. He tells me that he still loves me and always will and he says that he still wants to be with me. then i found out through a friend that he doesnt know if he wants to be with me anymore. So when i confronted him he said he still loves me and he wants to be with me. so i asked him if he loves me and wants to be with me why aren't you and he said because It makes it easier on us. If throwing up constanly not being able to sleep and crying for 4 days straight is easier ok then but this is rediculous. Whats he gonna choose? Is he gonna come back? Or will he just kill me completely. He was "mi ceilo", my heaven I need him to survive. without him im nothing im dead. what to do? what to do?
2006-11-29 04:38:20 · 19 answers · asked by Just another xXemoXx kid... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get hold of yourself. Have some back bones. Take the bull by the horn and decide for yourself that you are complete on your own. When a man is wishy washy like that, he wants out. Even if you are able to save it this time, it will still come up later. He wants out. Let him go. It will be easier for you.
2006-11-29 04:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by Wondering myself 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only people in your life that should put that much love, faith,feelings into is your children. The only person you need to survive is you. You can sit back and hope he comes back, But what I would do is go on a date with someone new, make sure the other person finds out, and see the reaction from them. If he really does love you, he'll quit messing around with your feelings, and come back. Or it won't bother him, if that's the case then you don't end up wasting your time waiting on him. Either way you get your answer.
2006-11-29 04:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by Patrick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When did you meet him? Were you not living many many years before meeting him? How come he has become so important now? Get hold of yourself. Heaven has not come down. There is no dearth of Male species[human] on this planet Earth. So do not despair.Keep off from this confused person who loves you, wants to be with you and does not want to be with you at the same time. If he really loves you he will come after you. If not forget him and look for another.Your hard drive in the brain is too cluttered with all kinds of junk files of emotion which is of not much use. So clean up and it will work better faster and all programs will open fast. OK?
2006-11-29 05:14:49 · answer #3 · answered by openpsychy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, man, I've been there! OK, first of all, it's important that you realize that the odds are good that he's not coming back. Sorry to be so harsh, but I can't sugar-coat this. He is telling you he still loves you and wants to be with you because he feels that he is letting you down easy. What he's actually doing is giving you false hope. I remember one time my ex did that, told me he just wanted to "take a break," and that he still loved me and someday we'd be together again, blah blah blah, and so I actually convinced myself for about a month that it was just a temporary thing and that he just needed to focus on school and stuff. Then I called him one night and he finally admitted that he really didn't have any intention of getting back together with me and he thought we should see other people!! Well, you can imagine I was devastated. I think that even though it hurts, you need to prepare yourself for a life without him. I know it's hard to imagine even wanting to lilve without him, but you have to remember all the other good things in your life, like your friends and family embers who love you. It's time to be strong and remember who you are as an individual so you can go on with your life and get over him eventually. It doesn't sound like he's going to make you happy long-term, and you deserve someone who will always stick by your side. Good luck, and please e-mail me if you need someone to talk to.
FizzyGurrl1980@yahoo.com.
2006-11-29 04:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There probably is anoter girl and he don't kno if he wants you yet or her..
Maybe he's just scared, cuz he's gettin really deep feelings for u.
maybe he dont care at all and dont kno any other way to break up with u so he says these tings hoping it would make it easier on u.
sweetie saying u cant live without him is an over statement. i kno exactly how u feel. and god does it hurt. right now is gonna be the hardest time if u dont get back with him. i tink crying helps.. cry it. out. talk to people you love. dont let it affect ur life, ur soical life and skool.. do ur shyt like u've always done buh then cry when u get home. u will get over it, it just takes time. i promise u it wont hurt forever.
2006-11-29 04:44:08 · answer #5 · answered by phatguyanesegurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all no person should make another person the sole reason to exist. He is not killing you. He is only leaving you to move on with his life. You will hurt for some time but you will get over it. You will find a new person.
You might want to seek some type of counseling if you feel that you can't live without another human being.
Cry some more tears then wipe your face, blow your nose and move on.
2006-11-29 04:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by tbears43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i said the same thing once. you need to just move on. obviously he is too confused. and if someone loves you, they are not confused about if they want to be with you or not. girl, dont you dare let that boy break you down, he is just a man, not god. and let me give you a word from experience, there will be other guys. i had to learn it the hard way. never put all of your trust and love into one man. you can only trust god and the person you spend all of your life with..............You! so get primped up and go man hunting....even though you feel as if you are dead. boost that ego up and start over. good luck!
2006-11-29 04:46:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not need a man to survive.. you are women.. you will be okay on your own.. I promise there is light at the end of the tunnel. You deserve to be treated like a princess and nothing less. Dont settle for someone who would make you feel like that..
Girl Group Hug.. go find your girls and I promise it will get easier
2006-11-29 04:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by llfrotten@rogers.com 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop the hysterics. You will get through this. He doesn't want to be with you anymore. He broke up with you. You have to accept it. If he still loved you, he wouldn't have broken up with you. He is trying, and failing to let you down easy. This type of break-up never works. He should've been direct with you. It hurts, but its easier to accept.
Don't even think of hurting yourself over this guy. You will love again. Give yourself time to grieve and get over it. Good luck, I know it hurts, be strong.
2006-11-29 04:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from a mans point of veiw..he knows who and what he wants and for some reason you don't catch is eyes anymore but on the other hand he doesn't want you to go anywhere. So you let him have his cake and Ice cream or you can cut your loses let him know you will just fine with or without him... Be cool about it, guarnteed to get him to thinking... remember never let'em see you sweat.
2006-11-29 04:57:14 · answer #10 · answered by matchbox 78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋