I just went back to work after 15 years. I now have a child (she is 10) and I can no longer do the room mom thing, field trips, bake cookies for class, etc. She misses me but I love my job. I don't need to work for money, but I love my job. Help???
2006-11-29 04:36:44 · 10 answers · asked by brainsandcute2 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think you were ready to go back to work,I have been a stay at home mom for 9 years now and let me tell you this is harder than having a job outside the home,I never have time to myself,always picking up after somebody,maybe you were just ready to have time FOR yourself,you can still do some of those things that you did before just all of it,over time she will adjust to you not being there all the time.And don't feel guilty,you have the right to be happy too!!!!
2006-11-29 04:48:07 · answer #1 · answered by icequeen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 children and I have always worked - since they were babies. Do I regret it? I definitely wish that I could have stayed home but unfortunately we needed the money. It is very hard now a days not to have both parents working.
She is 10 now and should be old enough to understand why you have to work. If you are feeling that guilty maybe you went back to work too soon? Or maybe you should have discussed this change with her. I am not saying asking her for permission I am just saying to discuss it and see how she feels. Maybe you could have arranged your hours around the school day. I would kill to be able to do that. Again, she is old enough to understand and I think you should be able to talk to her. There is no reason why you can't still bake cookies and do an occasional field trip. So you can still help out and be with her. The other question is if you truly don't have to work for financial reasons then why are you working? I understand you love your job but if it is not for financial reasons then I guess I am confused. Why not work part time? Maybe you could have gotten a job at the school as a lunch lady or substitute?
Good luck and God Bless!
2006-11-29 06:40:38 · answer #2 · answered by Just asking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work because I need the money... if I didn't need the money, I would stay home and take care of my kids. If you love your job.. that is great because I hate my job. To not feel quilty, you're going to have to keep telling yourself that you are working because you just don't want to be "MOM" you want to be a "WORKING MOM" who loves her job! On your days off, you can spend time with your child... that will take some of the guilt off. I know alot of working moms who work all the time and on their days off they still do not spend time with their kids. KUDOS to you for loving your JOB!
2006-11-29 04:53:11 · answer #3 · answered by ~dat~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said that you love your job, but you don't need to work for money. It sounds like you are making your job a priority over your child. If you are feeling guilty, maybe working right now isn't the best thing for your family. just a thought.
2006-11-29 04:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by duck's attitude 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Having a job after 15years stay at home is something that u feel great. Enjoyable. You feel like u been outside world. Please dont make the job is the things that make yr relationship with yr kids going sour. Try to take one day juz for yr kids to spend time with u. Bake something nice, or cook something they really love, spend time and enjoy with them, make a plan, ask them to participate in the plan that u made for them. Dont forget to sms them very day, juz to keep in touch, even juz to say good nite, and i do love u,,,, they wont notice u out to work !!
2006-11-29 05:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what when she see what a well rounded mom she has she will be more than happy that you went back to work and believe me I know i had to go back to work I got a divorce when my boys were little and we had to sell almost everything to get a place to live i swore right then and there my boys were going to see a stronger woman and a well rounded one too. Good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-11-29 04:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is happy then don't worry about her .If she is not happy im sure she will tell you.Ask her what she thinks.She is old enough to be honest .I think if you tell her you love your job she will be happy for you.Don't worry i am sure you gave her a great start and this may teach her to not be so dependent on you. Kids need to learn independence.
2006-11-29 04:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't feel guilty for working, because somebody has to pay the bills around the house. They're not going to pay themselves.
2006-11-29 05:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your feeling of guilt is stronger that your enjoyment of your work go back to looking after your kid.Or get your hours changed to work around her school hours
2006-11-29 04:44:26 · answer #9 · answered by knowsitallandabitmore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she just has to adjust to the change. it takes time she will be fine.
2006-11-29 05:42:39 · answer #10 · answered by samcamcam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋