what would you do?

Question

okay,your boyfriend starts hanging out all night til the next day time and time again,4 years and hes taken off edleast 36 times.he leaves you at work with no ride home and just takes off til the next day,then he comes home says he sorry and he will stop,then does it again.all you ask for is for some attention once and a while and you will have no problem with him going out til the next day,his idea of attention is watching tv together. you stress when he is gone because you worrie he is driving drunk,and might get in an accident.so you ask him to leave you the car so he wont be tempted to drive and he bitches.he doent really show any kind of emotion but anger he said he doesnt know how,im going to let him read this so he can see other peoples point of view,i feel the need to say,i do EVERYTHING for him,when he gets home he has to do NOTHING,and all i ask is for a kind word,but he said he feels stupid saying things like you look nice ect...whats your take on this honest.

Answer 1

Time to leave him. He's an a** and not going to change. You can do much better than him.

Answer 2

OK, listen...Stop Doing Everything! Let the freeloader do things for himself and maybe he will see how much you do and appreciate it. Actually I doubt it but he might. He also needs to see a psychologist. His anger and drinking problem may be a form of depression or bipolar disorder which medication will help. You don't need to worry over him like this and get an ulcer or have a heart attack. No man is worthy of causing you heartache.

Answer 3

My guess is that you're 'co-dependent' based on your description. You need to talk honestly with your boyfriend about these matters and remember that it's your opinion that is impt. and not the responses you receive on this site. You have good reason to be unhappy and I wonder why you are still in this relationship. You should focus more on yourself, developing independence, and figuring out what would be in your best interest. Also consider what makes you believe that any positive changes will occur in this current relationship and what will occur within the next year to ensure you aren't in the same situation a year from now. You have a responsibility to yourself first and foremost--exercise your power to make your own choices. Good Luck

Answer 4

Dear what would YOU do? I have just gone over your letter -- Hun, What are you THINKING !! You need to realize YOUR better than this BULL !! That will have to be step # 1 --- Dr. Phil,said this " WE TEACH PEOPLE HOW TO TREAT US " Those simple but powerful word's -- Have really taught me a lot about myself - and the way I let People treat me !!! Please take a good look at the fact you have been letting this,PERSON -- miss treat you - Just think about it he's gotten by with this for 4 years -- Why should he change he's got it made - AT YOUR EXPENSE -- are you getting it yet ??? You are the one that will have to say - and stick to your gun's - I will NOT take this anymore !!!! From rereading your letter - you seem to have allot to offer -- Someone who DESERVES you -- Yes YOU - I tend to believe he has no respect for anyone - Not even himself - Take some quiet time and think about YOU -- For a change and- REM-BER - YOU - ARE- WORTH - IT !!! These are just my gut feeling's and thoughts - I hope I have helped you see thing's in a different way !! Let your light shine - in a NEW- direction.. Please keep in touch,I just may need your input just as well --- Bless you - - My name is Patti

Answer 5

wow, is there actually a reason for you to continue being with this guy, because i'm not seeing one. from my experience, this sounds suspiciously like he's cheating. you were not put on this earth to sit around and wait for him to change and treat you the way you should be treated. nobody should feel stupid about being nice to the people they're supposed to love. how would he feel if you took off for all hours of the night and left him stranded? sounds like he's in desperate need of some of his own medicine. seriously, this sounds like a complete dead end relationship, and if he's not willing to make some serious (and permanent) changes (which he most likely won't), you should cut your losses and move on.

Answer 6

Sweet heart your relationship with this guy was over as soon as he started stepping out on you.He only comes back because you allow him to,don't let this guy get the best of you when there are other men that will appreciate you.This guy isn't worth stressing over.

Answer 7

honey, you cant change people. he will be who he is from now till the end. what you need to do is ask yourself if you can live with him the way he is? its not the amount of time you have spent with him,but, the quality of the time you have spent with him. so, stop, relax, think about it. is this the way you want to live? if so, for how long do you think you can live like this? only you know the answers to these questions. i wish you luck honey. take care and merry christmas.

Answer 8

i know you've been together for a while, so my opinion of what i would do is probably nothing you want to hear. but i'm giving it anyway.
i would DUMP his sorry *** for two reasons....
1 in hopes he would smarten up a bit
and 2 because i would have gotten sick of the drama and worry by now.

Answer 9

sounds like your pretty unhappy with him.. and he doesn't seem to want to change even though you've talked to him about it

i'd tell him i was tired of his ways.. and take some time to enjoy the single life

Answer 10

Talk to him!!!! If he won't listen and your that fed up, dump him. He's not worth the trouble!