I tried, it's hard, I tried to talk to my bf about my problems, and i feel better, then later on i feel the same problem again..this is beginning to hurt us...I tell him i will stop worrying and stop being jealous and i will trust him and i will try to become more interesting (Routine sucks!) And i want to!! But I cant become the person I want! HELP??? What the hell is my problem?? Its like it goes in one ear and out the other!Help! The relationship is dying because of me!! Please help! I don't want it to die...and weve talked so many times!! Nothing is working, Im happy after we talk, and then I get the same feelings again! Am I bipolar?? whats going on??!?! I never use to be like this?? Help? He tells me he loves me, and I love him, why am I being like this?
2006-11-29 04:30:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Good grief. Love really isn't this hard. If you have to work this hard every minute of your relationship, you shouldn't even do it anymore. Just break up, go to therapy, and try again with someone esle.
2006-11-29 04:32:40 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not bipolar, trust me. Why?
OK, so it's a mood disorder and a serious mental illness. It has a strong genetic component, but appears to be triggered environmentally. There are no diagnostic tests for it, just psychiatric evaluation. Most sufferers are not diagnosed until middle age, and it takes an average of around 8-10 years to get a correct diagnosis. Historically, figures suggested it affects about 0.8% of the population at some point, which makes it about half as common as schizophrenia. In recent years, bipolar disorder has become an 'in' diagnosis, and many more people are being diagnosed at younger and younger ages. As with ADHD, this fad may well pass with time, although for the moment many celebrities appear to be 'popularising' it.
It is characterised by episodes of severe clinical depression and mania or hypomania (for definitions of those, see here: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Current_diagnostic_criteria_for_bipolar_disorder ). The extreme end of mania often turns into psychosis, complete with hallucinations and delusions. During manic phases, the person's judgement and perception of reality is severely compromised, leading to risky actions with potentially damaging consequences (financially, sexually and relationship-wise). Untreated, episodes generally worsen over time due to an effect known as kindling. Untreated Bipolar sufferers are at a very high risk of suicide: 20-25% attempt it, and 15% succeed.
The cycles in bipolar disorder are much longer than people generally believe. Anyone whose mood changes from minute to minute is very unlikely to be bipolar. Bipolar 1 is characterised by mood episodes lasting many months, while Bipolar 2 has episodes in the region of weeks to months. Rapid and ultra-rapid cycling bipolar disorder is rare, and cycles last days to weeks.
There are many drugs available to treat the symptoms of bipolar (there is no cure). These are either anti-convulsants or anti-psychotics (personally I take both), and the most well known of these is Lithium. These drugs are heavy duty psychiatric medications and are not to be taken lightly, and most if not all of them have a range of side effects including lethargy, photosensitivity, cognitive impairment (dumb as a box of rocks), weight gain, hormone problems, hair loss and blood problems. These side effects have to be wieghed against the benefits of mood stabilisation. Most patients will go through a number of different drugs before finding one that works for them.
2006-11-30 11:13:45 · answer #2 · answered by Random Bloke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont stress it dont let it get to u i worry all the time bout my bf but i cant stop cause im in love wit him if u want to change be more of a tease for him dont stress to much if u were meant for one another then he'll love u for u
2006-11-29 12:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not bipolar...you are just feeling a little insecure right now about the relationship, just chill out if there is something wrong in your relationahip he will let you know. that or he truly doesn't love you. if he did he would try to fix all the problems you two are having. or are they just your insecurity probles? if it's you...chill out. if it's him...let him go...
2006-11-29 12:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by manderz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a girl and girls have major mood swings. tell your boyfriend that your going through a hard time and you need his support or whatever. but if he wants to break up cause of this then you know that he wont be able to deal it with later in life.
2006-11-29 12:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you changing for yourself or just for him? No one should change themselves for anyone else unless it's mainly for yourself.
Maybe you 2 just arn't compatible. you need more than love. Alot more! Trust is a big issue.
2006-11-29 12:34:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are apparently too immature to be in a relationship.
Break up, grow up, and give your BF a break.
2006-11-29 12:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by Jack C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its so unfair. poor thing you should not have such problems in your life. grow up and let him go . he deserves to be happy since you just want to be miserable and blame yourself for everything.
2006-11-29 12:39:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you trying to become the person you want?
or are you trying to become the person HE wants you to be??
stay true to yourself.. and thats all that you can do really
2006-11-29 12:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋