Do you have a short temper?

Question

Do you think it's best to hold your tonge if you get mad or speak your mind?

Answer 1

hold your tongue, calm down, and tell them your opinions or thoughts about the subject. good luck. just remember from the bible-( a fool uttereth all of his mind)

Answer 2

That's a tough question, it really depends on the situation.

There is something I've heard of over the years, it's called Systematic Desensitization.

What I understand of it:

Your first argument is a disagreement, talking works it out.
The next argument is a little uglier, the talking no longer works.
The next involves a little talking, a little yelling
The next involves yelling, screaming and throwing things...
It gets worse and worse

Slowly we make the bad stuff OK because it's no longer shocking.

If I can offer any advice to you, take a breather. Try to take a step back, you may win the battle but ultimately you'll lose the war, by losing your temper. Just try to be a man about it all, don't let the little digs get to you. Laugh them off, speak your mind, but do it with tact.

It's important to speak your mind but remember that something don't have to be said. Remember the reason for arguing is to get things back on an even keel, not to worsen things.

Try to maintain composure, patience is a huge factor, try to see the absurdity in an argument while it is happening and I promise you'll calm down.

RELAX!!

Answer 3

When I was younger I had a short fuse and most of the time, I ended up hurting myself more than anyone else. I figured out that I could speak my mind without being ugly or getting upset; I just have to stop and think about my words. If I can't do that, I would just shut up. It's not worth the grief to me. With practice, I can usually say whatever I need to get across in a civil manner. No, I dont' "hold my tongue" but I do modify it. Thanks for asking a very good thoughful question! Godloveya.

Answer 4

I can relate, I have a very bad temper myself. However, I have had to learn that you have to pick your battles and what to get upset about very carefully. Stop, think, reflect on the situation and THEN respond..in that order only. Otherwise, you can cause alot more trouble than the situation is worth. However, once you have truly determined the situation as a cause to be upset, control your anger enough that you can actually TALK out the situation and try not to allow your anger to blind you to the point that you cant communicate properly.

Hope this helps,

Chris

Answer 5

I do have a short temper, but have learned to control myself in many situations. I still get easily ticked if someone insults, hurts or takes advantage of my husband, children, sister, mother and especially my father. My sister has this nasty thing going on in her life right now and I'd dearly love to get rid of one person who is causing her a lot of pain. The old me--the mean, evil, compulsively hateful me-- would've run the dude over already, but the new, sweet me is just letting him bury himself. He'll get his and I don't have to be the one to give it to him.

If you have important, helpful stuff that needs to be said and/or discussed then think it over, come up with the right way to deal with the issue and then find the right time to open up communications. I think you'll find that the results are much better than if you simply act on impulse.

Answer 6

Speak your mind, but first take a breath of fresh air, then figure out how to properly say what you need to say in an adult-like manner. Sometimes your initial reaction is not the best reaction and you could possibly say some things that you will regret. (I have done that before.)

Answer 7

hold your tonge untill the time is right then speak your mind

Answer 8

Although I wouldn't say I have a "short" temper at all, there are a couple of things that will set me ablaze with anger...lying and being treated with disrespect/disregard. Otherwise, I'm a pretty laid-back, easygoing person.

Answer 9

I dont have a temper.
I think that you should bite your tonge if it is going to be a disrespectful comment. but if the person really deserves the comment-let it fly! Like if that person is an *** hole, they need someone to speaker their mind to them! haha

Answer 10

it is definetly better to speak your mind. if you hold it in. Eventually it will come out and it will be much worse than if you were to just say something in the begining. So, SPEAK YOUR MIND.

Answer 11

With me I should hold my tongue BUT I don't, my temper has gotten me into alot of trouble over the years, but I'll never get an ulcer because I don't hold in my anger