Am I expecting to much to soon?

Question

I've heard that when you loose a mate or parent/grandparent that somewhere down the road you hear from them! Well I lost my husband almost 7 yrs. ago & I never felt him, senced him, heard him, drempt him....what gives? Does this mean he never loved me enough to let me know he was OK after he past?

Answer 1

I can only think of 2 things.

1. you are trying to hard. I don't think it works like that. I've often in the past wished loved ones to come to me. Eventually, they do but it always happens when it's completely off my mind and I'm relaxed.

2. Depending on how he left this world he may have not made it over yet. It could take time.

Quick true story:
My cousin was a limo driver and picked up a psychic. The psychic out of no where said your father is sitting right next to you smiling and wants me to say hi. Then went on to say his aunt still hasn't crossed over.

The father died 2 years ago. The aunts died 11.

So, sometimes they fight it.

Don't think of it as he doesn't love you.
Think of it as he loves you TOO MUCH to let go.
It will happen. relax

Answer 2

You're sensing him right now. As long as you never forget a person that person is always with you. Why would you think he never loved you? Have you been watching too much "Ghost Whisperer"? You may never dream about, sense, or hear from him again, but that shouldn't stop you from remembering him forever. That's how most people stay with us. Not forgetting a person gives them eternal life. Relax. If there is any truth to what you've been expecting to happen then one of these days when you least expect it, there he'll be. To me; in worrying and giving an ultimatum to a dead loved one is not healthy and could actually be considered a haunting. Maybe you're haunting him.

Answer 3

Well, you think about him right? That might be your connection with him. Not everyone has a visit from a spirit or whatever you believe in.

By "hear from them" do you mean, you are expecting your husband's spirit or ghost to show in your home?

I think you've had a connection with your husband and have had "contact" with him all these years. He shows up in your head. You think about him and he's in your thoughts. Not everybody has dreams, senses, or anything like that from passed on loved ones. Know that your husband is in your heart and he's always with you. You don't need to see a ghost or spirit to know that.

Try to let go and move on. Don't stay stuck in a time era waiting for your husband to show up again. I don't think he wants you to do that. He wants you to be happy and live your life the way that makes you happy. :-)

Answer 4

It might be that, for you, the 'letting go' is the key. Try to consider the blessings you have from your dear one, and look at progressing in your own life as the days go by. You may find that if you really put your focus on living, the contact you want may come about.
There might be a reason for feeling no contact. You may or may not find out why.

Answer 5

you are trying to hold on to someone you loved dearly but lost. the reality of it is that those stories you hear of are exaggerated and embellished. just know that he is obviously deep in your heart and mind. you carry with you the memories you both created together. look at the life you lived before he passed, the love you felt from him, and the happiness you had with him. the kind of life and love you had with him before he went is what proves how much he loved you. you are looking for an answer from him that he already gave you before he passed. carry that love with you and you will feel him there with you everyday.

Answer 6

When my mom died, I DEFINITLY felt her, as did all 9 of my brothers and sisters and my dad. However, about a week before my 21st bday I had a dream about her. She told me that she got me something special for my bday. She told me she was leaving me because she knew she was hurting me too much by staying. I cried and cried (in real life and in my dream) and finally I understood. The 5 months after her death, I was a walking zombie. I was literally waiting for every sign from her, and trying to feel her at all times. Many times I could, but I think it really did hurt more. Id wake up in the morning and run downstairs to tell her about my dreams, and she was gone, and I had to relive that pain every day. Maybe your husband cared so much for you, that he knew if he stayed, you would suffer more. I hope this helps.

Answer 7

It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you Hun. Please don't think like that. Sometimes when you want something so bad it just doesn't happen because you are looking for it to lol ya know what i mean?
Let it go. Let it be. He loved you very much.
Just because you haven't "NOTICED HIM" doesn't mean that he hasn't been around you, doesn't mean that he hasn't watched over you, it doesn't mean that he isn't with you. Right?
As long as you think about him and respect him,love him isn't that what really counts, He is in your thoughts, pictures. He will always be alive in your heart.

Answer 8

well maybe but when two heart think the same and love each other alot there is a possibly for them to be around you even after dead or maybe he to happy there that never bother to show up but who know oh and also he can come to you in your dream only bc soul are free and able to entre in your mind and heart when your sleeping try to remember if you dreamed about him and you can tell me about it i can tell you wht it mean my email cat3sky2yahoo.com i be happy to help you out

Answer 9

I've never heard that before, and I've lost all of my grandparents, my parents, some uncles, aunts and may friends. Never had any of them contact me, or dreamed of them......nothing. Don't stress over this........best of luck to you.

Answer 10

He lives on in your heart and memories, not as some gohst that you "sence" hanging around your house. Ppl move on when they die, they go to a better place, it does not mean that he never loved you, he's just moved on. He loved you.