My middle son is will be turning 6 next week. He has told me who he wants and dont want at his party. One big problem. The little girl he doesn't want here...they have grown up together over the past 5 yrs. They are 2 months apart. I don't know how to tell her parents that he doesnt want her at his party but he still wants her parents to show up..... Here is why, the kids both started Kindergarten this year. Well, someone at the school decided to put the 2 in the same class. This little girl is VERY controlling of my son. I have been babysitting her for about a year also and I have had to tell her parents that if the dicipline issues dont get fixed, she cant come back. I know my son is tired of being around her all the time.. and just pretty much tired of her crap. How in the world do I tell these people,who have been in his life from day one... that he doesnt want 1 of the 3 of them at his party? I don't want to be mean... Thanks for all your advice. I sure need it.
2006-11-29 04:24:36 · 18 answers · asked by kutskova29 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Also, these people treat my 3 children as their own. They are always there when I need anything, and I am there for them when they need something...I just dont want to be mean...
2006-11-29 04:25:39 · update #1
They do know of the problems and none of them are getting fixed. The little girl is very rude and disrespectful to me and my children. No matter how much is said to her she doesn't follow any rules. My family refuses to come to my home when she is here, even with her parents because she is so unruly and uncontrollable. I know I sound mean, I dont mean too...
2006-11-29 04:34:09 · update #2
As hard as this sounds, I'd let your son make the call, it's his party. Plus that just might be the hint your friends need to start drawing a line for their daughter.
2006-11-29 20:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True enough, it's his party, but he's 6 , and six year olds don't know what's best and shouldn't get to call the shots, even on their birthday. Their attendance at the party should be seperate from the babysitting issues- talk with them about that at a more private time, and surely you'll work something out. Tell the b-day boy that you'll invite all 3, and with the crowd of people, he can stay away from this little pest as much as possible. Life isn't always fair, and kids need to learn this lesson early, or they'll be very frustrated, very often.
2006-11-29 12:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't invite the parents without inviting the child. Frankly the child's behavior problems are likely stemming from the parents anyway. Either all three of them are invited or none of them are invited. How would you feel if someone invited you and your husband to a children's birthday party and specifically requested you not bring your child? Nothing good can come of only inviting the parents.
2006-11-29 12:39:10 · answer #3 · answered by wyllow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell them not to bring her you will be risking friendships, as well as letting your son think that if he doesn't like someone mom/dad will tell them to go away. Let the girl come to the party but do everything you can to keep the kids busy and keep her away from your son. If her parents are aware of the problem let them know to keep her in check. She should stay with them at all times. Good Luck and happy birthday to your son.
2006-11-29 12:30:44 · answer #4 · answered by mommyofthree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would explain to your son that it would be impolite not to invite the girl and only the parents. Give him an example of someplace that he would want to go and ask him how he would feel if just you were invited and told to leave him home. At the party, would it be possible to have the girl there, but have activities available so that she would not be playing directly with your son the entire time.
2006-11-29 12:34:14 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough situation you're in. I would tell your son, that he either invites all 3 or none of them. I totally understand how he feels though. Maybe you can talk to the parents, since you know them for that long. Explain the situation to them.
2006-11-29 12:35:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your son this is not acceptable and explain why we do not always get what we want and to let him decided this at such an early age is giving him the reigns a bit early you could tell them at another time and tell them you are sorry but you do need to meantion this as you want the children to be friends always and that maybe they could have some input on how to solve this be polite and ask for help from them with this matter
2006-11-29 12:29:55 · answer #7 · answered by dumb as dirt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your son is only 6 he's not old enough to make his own decisions and he doesnt know right from wrong. if the kid comes to the party im sure he will still have fun with or with out her there
2006-11-29 12:53:43 · answer #8 · answered by annonymous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just tell my son that if he wants the adults at the party, he has to invite their daughter too. You did say you were their babysitter. So, if they aren't with her, they will need a sitter for her. He will understand, if you get down to his level.
2006-11-29 12:59:34 · answer #9 · answered by Gitterdonenow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is going to win here.
You're going to tell those parents that they can come but their daughter can't, and my guess would be that none of them show up.
Or, you're going to tell them all 3 can come and your son is going to be upset because he'll have to put up with that little girl.
2006-11-29 12:29:00 · answer #10 · answered by CelebrateMeHome 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋