So if you've ever seen any of my other questions I dance salsa and so does my girlfriend, I finally made up my mind to be a better dancer and just love my girlfriend. Recently we bought tickets for a big New Years Salsa Party and of course when we go out we dance with different people. I don't want her to wear this insanely sexy red dress to this salsa event. It's mainly because I won't be the only guy who she's wearing the dress for, I guess that's jealousy??? Am I just insecure??? Do I not trust my girlfriend??? I just feel bad about this whole thing, she should be able to wear whatever she wants...right???
2006-11-29 04:17:58 · 18 answers · asked by Alberto R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-29 04:20:48 · answer #1 · answered by Paw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she should be able to wear what she wants.
To answer your question, this is insecurity.
Realistically, do you trust your girlfriend? Yes, if you didn't, would you really be taking her to a party where she may dance with other men?
Is it jealousy? No. She hasn't done anything to make you jealous. Her wearing a dress, isn' an action that should make you jealous in any way.
As far as the dress goes... Man, let her wear it. She feels sexy in it, or hot in it.. and that's a plus for you. Other guys may get to dance with her, but you're going home with her at the end of the night...and everyone else at the party will be jealous of YOU because of it.
And keep this in mind while she's dancing with other guys..
ONE: She wore the dress for two people. You, because she's dating you and loves you. And herself, because it makes her feel good about herself.
TWO: She's going to the party, and leaving the party, with you.
If you think about these things.... you'll realize, you have nothing to be insecure about.
2006-11-29 04:30:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The great thing about having a hot girlfriend is seeing all the guys who lust after her, but all they're gonna get is a 5 minute dance. She's wearing the dress for herself to look good and for you so that everyone sees whose arm she's on at the end of the night. Take that jealousy, turn it into excitement of her being yours and use it at the end of the night to make wild monkey love. Of course if thats too much, then just tell her about your insecurities and hopefully she'll understand and adjust. No reason to mess up the New Year.
2006-11-29 04:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by Playerdre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your insecurity may be coming from within yourself. Are you happy with how you are dressing that evening?Spruce yourself up also and try to look like the hottest couple there together. Maybe you'll be so busy dancing with the others that you won't be worrying about her. Put jealousy aside and have a really fun time. Good Luck!
2006-11-29 04:28:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are jealous of your girlfriend being too sexy, you do think she'll cheat on you and that's because you are insecure. She should have some reserves in wearing dresses when she's dating you though.
2006-11-29 04:30:49 · answer #5 · answered by Maji 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well take it in another sense... U r not jealous but u really care. And in love we do become a bit possessive coz there is no love without possessiveness. Anyways if she feels that it is OK for her to wear that outfit then let her wear coz i guess she is matured enough to know wats wrong and wats right...
2006-11-29 04:23:22 · answer #6 · answered by Vikram gandhi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to feel that way. However I your girl friend should be able to wear what she wants. Make sure you don't get too Jealous because that will be a turn off for your girl.
2006-11-29 04:21:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should be able to wear what she wants as long as it is not provocative. sounds like you are jealous and insecure. you need to realize at the end of the party she is coming home with you. and maybe you should be kind of happy that men find her attractive because if that didn't you'd be in trouble
2006-11-29 04:21:17 · answer #8 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to put that red dress on! Escort her into the party... steal a kiss every chance you get and be PROUD of the fact that she looks that sexy and she is going home with you.....
2006-11-29 04:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she does have the right to wear whatever she wants. But, maybe you can express your feelings about the red dress and tell her how it is making you feel.
2006-11-29 04:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by Reyna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should just be proud for ur girlfriend looks and not jealous ....u should show her off.....because at the end for the night she goes home with you.
2006-11-29 04:25:13 · answer #11 · answered by chachi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋