why me?????????????????????

Question

i am in love with this guy at school. i have tell him and showed him how much i love him but he does not want anything with me.
when i call him he always ends the calls with any excuse.
i decided to leave him alone but it hurts me because i really love him.
i have not see him in 2 weeks now and his b-day is next week
should i send him something?
or just a card?
or totally leave him alone?
he said he wants to be my friend.


i'm 19

Answer 1

thanks for telling your age cause for a minute there i thought you were hehum...younger. anyway you need to leave him alone but dont be mean, tell him you understand his feelings and that you would love to be friends, when would he like to go out to the movies or lunch, or walk in the park. TRUE FRIENDS do these kinds of things all the time. i am married and my wife lets me have lunch with my friends - some of which are female. - (i am male). if he rejects the idea then he does not want to have anything to do with you and from my experience - when you first meet someone or meet them again years later - the excitement is immense and you probaly have butterflies in your stomach thats why its hard to leave him alone. but when people feel crowded it usually pushes them away. so i wish he would see that you are perfect for him but keep this in mind.

when my girl bought me a big screen tv 37' i thought that since she was getting me a 37' then she could prolly aford a bigger one so i held out for a bigger one and had to wait even longer to get the 37' when she finally said ok now we can go get it - she let me get the 42 instead.

this guy friend of yours may have been overwhelmed by your affection that he is simply holding out for even better.

i'm 33

Answer 2

Honey, most likely you are not the type of person he is looking for as a girlfriend. Be his friend, but don't be at his beck and call, either. If he finally does ask you out by some chance, tell he you have to see if you have something planned that day and you'll get back with him on it. It is okay to send him a birthday card, make sure that it is one for a friend, not a mushy one. Don't call him any more, let him be the one to call you. You know there is an old saying that says, "Absence makes the heart grow fonder." Honey, some day you will find the man of your dreams, you are still young and have a long life ahead of you, enjoy it.
God bless you, sincerely, Juanita

Answer 3

I am truly sorry, but this guy either does not like you or does not know what he wants. If you send a card, do not swoon over it. Do not send hearts on it or decorate it too much. Also, do not make a big deal about it. The more you close in on him the less he will want you. If you will have any chance with him, it will be because you let him think about you when you were not chasing him. I know it is hard, but he has to want you for some reason. Give him a reason! If he wants to be your friend only, do not talk to him until he talks to you! When he asks, why are you not talking to me any longer, you say that you didn't mean to avoid him. He should want to try harder if he likes you.

Or you could just remain his friend. He may warm up to you over a long period of time...

Hope that helps!

Answer 4

I'm in the same position as you, i really like this guy but he just wants to be friends. For christmas i just got him a calender and i am getting him a funny card. Take the time with him that you can ya know? him may not be interested now but slowly disappear and he will be all over you. I have tried it but i suck at staying away from him cause he is just too cute! But it dose work!

Answer 5

Look, I know its hurting you, but its time to move on and quit torturing yourself. Without giving the details, I once didn't get the same message this boy is trying to tell you, and it took me two years to get over the scar once reality was brought to me in no uncertain terms.

Knowing how you feel, I wouldn't try to keep a friendship, because it just won't work. I am now married, and it caused some serious issues the first few years between my wife and a woman who had a crush on me when we married, and I tried to maintain a friendship with her still.

Answer 6

I'm sorry you are hurting. I understand how you feel, believe me. Here's one thought.....if his rejections of your affection hurt you, why keep allowing this to happen?? As painful as it is, we cannot force people to return our feelings of love. Now, this will sound impossible to you, but it isn't......I think you should let go of this situation, for now. Concentrate on something else. It CAN be done, believe me,sweetie. One of the best ways to get over pain, is to give happiness to others. You may want to do some volunteer work. Or paid work. Babysit. Help an elderly neighbor. Trust me...these are good ways to get away from the pain. Put ALL of that energy into something that is within your reach. Something honorable....
it will do wonders for your soul.

Answer 7

Face the fact that he isn't interested in you in any other way then as a friend. If you wanted to send him a card there would be nothing wrong in that but do not get anything to mushy as he has already tried to tell you to back off, but your just not hearing him too well.

Answer 8

leave him alone! when your feelings aren't reciprocated that can really hurt...but you've got to move on and find someone who is just as into you as you are into them.
he wants to be your friend? yeah, right. leave him alone before you get more involved than you already are; then you'd really be heart broken.
guys know when they can walk all over you and treat you any kind of way. if you don't want a relationship where he's avoiding you, not answering your calls, and treating you like crap...then move on and cut your losses!
good luck!

Answer 9

you said you were 19 this is old enuf to get a clue he said he would be your friend because he feels sorry for you leave him alone there are so many other great guys out there just keep looking for one who actually likes you back

Answer 10

send him a card or put a card in his locker asking to just be friends first and then take things from there..he might not be intersted in you..yet..just dont force the issue that is a real turn off to most guys...suggest you meet somewhere like a starbucks and just talk