My brothers and I are going to spill my mom's ashes soon (those were her wishes) and we need to do something with the urn once we're done. This is an elaborate marble and brass urn she bought for herself before she died and her ashes have been in it for five years now...
We're spilling her ashes in the Smoky Mountains (again, her wishes) and have no idea what to do with the urn when we're done. I've looked online and found no articles on the topic and am pulling a blank when I try to come up with a solution on my own.
Please help me out if you have any ideas... and please don't be mean or disrespectful to my mom... She was an amazing lady and was nice to just about everyone she met. I'd like to treat her ashes (and urn) with the same level of love that she gave so freely in her life.
Thanks in advance for your ideas and opinions :)
2006-11-29 04:08:38 · 9 answers · asked by Jessica C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I'm sorry for your loss. The urn sounds lovely. I would suggest planting maybe one of mom's favorite plants in it. Draw straws to determine who gets it. That family keeps it for a year, and then at Christmas next year gives it to another family member.
You could keep this tradition going for a long time ;)
I lost my grandmother earlier this year and I got some of her ashes in a tiny urn. Part of me wants to scatter the ashes under an orange tree she planted probably 30 years ago and that produces the sweetest navels you can imagine - but I'm torn, also, on what to do with this tiny thing. I suppose I could just keep it where it is as a reminder, but I dunno...
Again, I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-11-29 04:14:35 · answer #1 · answered by tagi_65 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I also think flowers in the urn is a good idea. Maybe some tall, dry grasses in there, next to a bookcase, or another appropriate spot.
As time goes on, you'll hear and see things that bring your mom close to your thoughts, and you'll feel like she's there with you.
My wishes for your comfort are coming your way. Take heart.
2006-11-29 04:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by Zeera 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you have obeyed her last wishes with her ashes you could always put the urn in either your home or brothers home. Put it somewhere where you can display it with pride and each and every time you look at it have happy thoughts of this amazing woman. A friend of mine after putting his wifes ashes in a great lake put her urn atop their fireplace mantle and it actually looks nice there and makes him feel attached to her still.
2006-11-29 04:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi honey...I know you are going through a tough time. My dad died about two years ago and was creamated. My brother scattered his ashes out at Wichita Falls. He threw away the urn.
If you are particularly close to your mom and the urn brings you comfort, clean it out and keep it. If you can bear to get rid of it but it makes you sad, clean it out and pack it away.
She might not be here anymore, sweetie, and scattering her will be hard but she is still with you in your heart.
2006-11-29 04:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by robinc1117 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe donate the urn to someone that needs it.. and cant afford it.. we could afford a urn when my dad died... i know how it feels to bury someones ashes in a plastic bag.
2006-11-29 05:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by im337337 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why not just keep the urn in your house as a reminder of her. Since you say she picked it out herself.
2006-11-29 04:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by mamabag06 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you could have the urn berried in a cemetery so you have a place to visit and speak with her
2006-11-29 04:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it and put her favourite flowers in it. Sorry for you loss.
2006-11-29 04:37:20 · answer #8 · answered by Queen WahidVII 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I d return it to the funeral home and let someone use it...
2015-02-21 18:15:53 · answer #9 · answered by Clovis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋