I met a guy the other day and he's really cute, I was walking around looking for makeup and he was checking me out and I was ignoring him, then suddenly he started to talk to me and I answered back it was nice and friendly then we said our good byes and that was that, but before I left I had the urge to give him my phone number so I wrote it down on a piece of paper and went over to him and he came running and took the number and I left, and that was on sunday why hasn't he called? and how long does it take a guy to call a women back?
2006-11-29 04:08:03 · 14 answers · asked by Wendy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he's interested he will call...there's no rule other than the stupid ones people make up..quit worrying so much about it..if he does he does and if he doesn't nothing lost
2006-11-29 04:09:50 · answer #1 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This really has to be a debatable answer...maybe even long too.
Most guys know NOT to call right away or the same day when getting a number in person. This can be just weird for some women who know they're cute, and might think he's a little too anxious. Usually, 1 to 3 days is enuff to keep or even build her interest. Longer than that, it could be starting to wane.
You gotta keep in mind he may have another interest, could be shy, think's he's some kind of a stud who can attract women, maybe even be trying to figure out in his mind what he should talk about or even come up with on where to take you, when it fits into his schedule, or even how to pose it to you. This is just a sample of the things that can sometimes enter any guy's mind. Good guys may not always have every ounce of experience in these things, but they can still want it all to be special for you. Since many women can be quite critiquing and analyizing of a guy for their own reasons, there can be a lot for us to work thru, certainly from past experiences of not knowing all the right things to say and do. We learn early on that we're expected to know it all from the get-go, and can get 'shot down' on the first slip or two, even if we don't know what it was. Most of us guys eventually realize how more and more women want it to be perfect in almost every way. We mess up if concentrating on how the woman feels rather than on just being us and concentrating on the process. (Any woman reading this should realize just how the 'process' can be a skilled player's game, and not the intent of most well-meaning guys. If I'm selling out the guys, it's only as much as knowing it to always be better to appreciate her instead of conquering her).
Since you went up to him, you'd definitely be someone to be interested in right away, but it still has the chance of moving along too fast and falling to the wayside. An older song goes something like..."...Owner of a Lonely Heart, Much Better than the Owner of a Broken Heart..."
A lot of stuff here, right? If it's after a week or two, it could be time to move on...definitely if a month or year!
As an afterthought, if you met about 50 guys in the next few years, going up to them or not, not getting totally serious with them, keeping some as good friends, you can always go back to the one that stands out if he isn't taken already. Other than that, you'll at least have the tools to eventually find one better, if not know one on the spot.
2006-11-29 13:46:37 · answer #2 · answered by medicff5 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of reasons for this none of which have anything to do with you.
He could have a girlfriend....wife....or he could just be very busy.
He has your number right. So he is in no hurry to get back with you anytime within a week. Depends on what else he is doing.
Give him time. If you don't hear within a week you can kiss that one goodbye. But two days is not enough.
And what has that done to you now that he has you guessing? More exciting right? Yup. he may know all about that.
2006-11-29 12:13:27 · answer #3 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of those stupid childish immature rules that guys think is so very important.
The main reasons I've heard my friends,and other people say they do this is: They don't want the girl thinking they're SO interested, that they're viewed as a loser. They want to feel like you view them as busy, important, and maybe, if you're lucky, they'll call you when they have time.
As far as this guy.. he may call today, he may never call. It's impossible to tell what's going through this specific persons mind. I'm sorry you have to be subject to the immature actions of this guy.
NOTE FOR GUYS:
If you haven't noticed, I view this to be VERY immature. It's also rude to ask a girl for her number, and then not call...or wait a set time period to call.
I've personally found, that it's easiest when you like a girl, to play dumb about this "calling rule" and say something like:
"You know, I'm not the greatest at this kind of thing... and I know there are some strange rules about when I'm suposed to call you, or not call you by. I really have no idea what they are" (usually she'll laugh a bit because it's funny). I will then literally ask "when would you like me to call you?"
This solves so many problems. Just ask her when she wants you to call. Since you asked for her number, and you're obviously interested, do your best to call her on that day...or as close to it as possible. Dating is hard enough without these stupid rules.
2006-11-29 12:16:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not from the US i have to say but why the heck do you people have to play so many games with eachothers ...... why do you make up all this stupid rules .seriosly now!! wouldn't it be a lot better if evryone jut told what the felt and not have to play this silly games!!
Where i am from we do not play this games .... but we are starting to GOD why do men are such idiots....
i think that he thinks that the longer he waits taht much would he be incharge .
when he calls act like you don't remember him just for fun :F
2006-11-29 12:17:26 · answer #5 · answered by red 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could possibly not appreciate aggressive women. I would think if he was truly interested he would call within a day or so of meeting you, but not necessarily. Don't give up just yet, he could still call.
2006-11-29 12:11:40 · answer #6 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the guy. Most guys don't want to call right away because they don't want to seem to eager. They're afraid they'll come off desperate or something. I'd say give the guy two weeks.
2006-11-29 12:10:44 · answer #7 · answered by Eve 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will probably be at least a few days. For all you know he could have a girlfriend and never call you back!
2006-11-29 12:10:01 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm well usually it only takes my dude the next morning so i really wouldnt knoe also it depends h0w busy the guy is
2006-11-29 12:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by Nena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's just nonsense perpetuated by sit coms and lousy date movies.
If he likes you he will call.
Don't obsess.
2006-11-29 12:22:10 · answer #10 · answered by simm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋