My boyfriend & I had an agrument last night.
First we had sex and he came quick because he can't handle me too long when i'm on top, but i do it anyways just to please him although i don't get much out of it. I knew that he couldn't stay long. He just sat there for about 30 mins.
Then, he performs oral on me.
and when it was time for the last round, we had to stop suddenly (don't ask why,be it was urgent)
I was really upset because i really didn't enjoy myself and said that this was a waste of time. He was upset because I was upset and said he wasn't coming over again. I asked why and he just ignored me. I feelings were hurt so bad. We broke up last night because MOST of our small arguement lead into HUGE things.
I was wrong for getting upset. I admitt it was selfish. BUT he is wrong for his short temper that he needs to work on and his also doesn't have patience. I love him so much and now I'm trying to get him 2 C that we can change together. I AM SO WILLING 2 CHANGE!
2006-11-29
04:04:44
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stress77mulah
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What shall I do? This guy is my world since my mother passed about 2 months ago.....
2006-11-29
04:05:42 ·
update #1
He is acting like he doesn't want to try again. He said we are always having problems. (but they r always SMALL). I told him that I am willing to change. I said i was sorry and told him that i would give him some space for a couple of dayz to cool down and forget about it.
He usually last longer but I guess I just was EXTRA wet, so he's not bad in bed.
2006-11-29
04:53:26 ·
update #2
i'm a guy, and damn i wish i could hold my orgasm back longer than i do... it's not something i can help... i try to think of other things like drums, baseball, etc but still i'm "10 second Tighe" to my wife's dismay, i usually do some vibrator work on her (or watch her do it while i service her chest, neck, ears, etc..) before we get going so i at least last longer than getting undressed. i also usually have my wife on top so it lasts longer and she can orgasm, she doesn't pump up and down, just kinda moving her
hips back and forth this way there isn't much jerking motion on my "friend" yet she's rubbing her spot back and forth...
anyway, yes, your argument is small... neither one of you needs to "change"... a leopard can't change it's spots, you need to not sweat the small stuff cause it's just small stuff.
never say any sex is a waste of time, just suggest different ways of doing it, some days are better for me (ok, most) and some days are better for my wife.
give and take, push and pull, laugh and cry, argue and make-up.
that's a relationship.
2006-11-29 04:23:22
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answered by Tighe 2
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Just like everyone else it is the small things that usually lead to big blow ups. You and your man might consider taking some form of sexual therapy and learn how to better satisfy each other. If he was to say the same thing to you about it being a waste of time I'm sure that you would have hurt feelings also, so try and put the shoe on the other foot. Good luck and I hope that things work out for you both and you can get your relationship back on track soon.
2006-11-29 04:09:47
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answered by crazylegs 7
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Sex is sex.
When it has been done.
It is finished on spot.
To talk about that is 'stupidity'; in particular, right after sex.
Because both partners' brains chemicals is unbalanced due to sexual activities.
That is the sole reason that many people select 'night time' for sex, and soon after they go to bed and in next morning they really do not recall the particular of last night.
SO, remember NO TALK ' I mean No argument, Bad comments, Criticism, Cold acts [ Watching TV, Eating, Talking in phone etc] During sex [oral, intercourse, etc] and After Sex [ same day or next days].
Even if the partner is very bad, to tell him/her would NOT help at all; the best is to 'leave' and find a proper match.
2006-11-29 04:22:28
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answered by Iranian Amigo 3
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Since you agree that you shouldn't have gotten upset, I'd tell him that and what you said about him in your question:
That you love him, he means the world to you and you want a second chance!!
Sometimes alot of little things are as bad as a big thing, only you can decide if it's worth it.
2006-11-29 04:09:37
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answered by georgiarose_01 4
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He actually left because ou weren't enjoying having sex??? both of you need to talk, and reevaluate your relationship. If the little things split you up, what will the big things do? Be mature and call him to apologise.
2006-11-29 04:10:34
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answered by cher 3
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Love is really powerful. Just tell him that u love him a lot and can't stay without him. He will forget all the misunderstandings and get back.
2006-11-29 04:19:26
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answered by Vikram gandhi 1
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well yes it was wrong of you to get mad like you did..because hes your man and your supose to help him because he needs it even when you dont!!!!but he had a good time so you should have been happy!!well anyways just give him sum time then call him and talk about it and tell him you are willing to change!!!
2006-11-29 04:08:20
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answered by little_attractive_kitty 2
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It was just a sudden anger, don't worry! It will pass.
2006-11-29 04:25:53
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answered by Webballs 6
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call him up and tell him your sorry and want to try to work things out.
2006-11-29 04:08:11
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answered by for_runner0 2
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Everything here is small. Continue your relationship.
2006-11-29 04:06:45
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answered by Anonymous
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