I feel weird falling in love I hav ehad too many heartbreaks and I am scared the same thing will happen again though he is a great guy I still am scared. Is it normal to be scared of love? nIs it just in the human nature or am I just being paranoid? Please give any and all advice on love please?
2006-11-29 04:00:33 · 13 answers · asked by Babygurl Alex!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well,,don't be that afraid.if he really is a good guy.just try to make use of ur past experiences and faults . but don't let him feel u're nervous.being afraid might let u confuse the good and the bad.be moderate.love him,but love urself too.don't just love him coz he's great and he loves you.if u feel u're not ready for love now,,then be true with urself and wait.just don't tell him u've had many heartbreaks and that u're paranoid .some might use this,and some might worry and stay alert to what they do ,what u're do,ur reactions,,and loves needs u to be spontaneous.of course some don't,they really try to help.but still u don't know which type he is.they r all perfect till problems start,,some remain really perfect,but others do change.good luck
2006-11-29 04:23:43 · answer #1 · answered by Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That seems to be a normal thing. A lot of people have been hurt and are sometimes afraid to fall in love again because of the same result.
I think you should relax and enjoy it. Yeah, it's harder than it sounds. But really... if you keep acting like you're scared, the guy you might be in love with will back away because of the way you're acting.
Just remember that whatever happens, happens.
God has a plan for you.
2006-11-29 04:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One biten, twice shy!!
I think it's very normal to be reluctant about falling in love again after being hurt. Learn from your experiences and don't rule anything out. Give the guy an even chance but don't overlook the signs. You have to weigh the good and bad, set your standards but not too high that you can't be pleased. Look for the one who makes you feel the best about yourself. The perfect person should love you for who you are not what you might be or become and doesn't acknowledge the faulty stuff with demands for change!
2006-11-29 04:06:03 · answer #3 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look what you are going through is absolutely normal. Those are your human instincts kicking in. If it makes you feel any better, this happens to all of us. Just take this relationship real slow, enjoy the time and special moments and if it is meant to be, you will know. There are too many heartaches going on in our society today. Do not put your all in all in it yet, just play it cool and enjoy life and take it real easy. Sooner or later you will see the real person. Then ask yourself this is the kind of person I would like to develop a more deeper relationship with? You will know. You ladies have one of the greatest gifts from God and you do not even use it. You intuition or your inner thoughts. If you listen to them you will be fine.
2006-11-29 04:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is always frightning, its really scary, if you been hurted before. Love is something, that u willingly to share everything with someone. Thats y if u been hurt before u not going to pass tru again all the sad n bad things.
Anyway u have to face it, love come and go, u have to catchup with things around u, without love how can u do it again, thats y u have to find someone new, a new lover, and learn frm the mistake done, from the mistake done, i think you wont make the same mistake and u will get a good n loving love.
2006-11-29 04:14:52 · answer #5 · answered by ironlady42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its weird to be afraid of love after having a broken heart, but you also need to keep an open mind. If you let past experience cloud your judgement you may miss the golden opportunity to be truly happy. Judge the person for who they are and not for what others have done.
2006-11-29 04:08:35 · answer #6 · answered by Queen WahidVII 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have had heartache caused by someone you love it makes it very hard to trust again. Sure....that is normal.
But what it should do is make us more cautious. We meat someone with think we like the best thing to do is continue seeing that person for as long as it takes to really get to know them.
If that person is impatient with that...even though you have told them of your past....it is time to take warning. If they really are in love with you they will give you all the time you need as long as it is with them.
You are not paranoid. But you do need to take the time you need to trust again.
2006-11-29 04:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are paranoid, as you suggested.
Generalization of any fact, is illogical. Even if ten guys were lairs; that does not mean the others are lairs too.
YOU MUST TRUST, there i no second choose.
IF, you don't trust, then you will be a constant Loser!
SO, enjoy your life and fall in LOVE right away!
2006-11-29 04:07:07 · answer #8 · answered by Iranian Amigo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to have problems, but trust is something that isn't easy to keep dishing out. Trust me on this, i was raped, cheated on, stood up, and kept in the dark. But after all of that, when I finally healed enough to try again, I met the man I will NEVER leave. But do remember to give yourself time, hearts take time to heal. I'l be praying for you.
2006-11-29 04:06:52 · answer #9 · answered by cher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sometimes the best way to deal with this is to continue being friends with this guy. and whever you feel more confident with him and you are able to trust him with your heart then that's when you could tell him how you feel about him... one question though... does he love you back? you didn't say that...
2006-11-29 04:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by TiGgEr_LoVeR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋