okay my BF of 8 month. I just fell like he act childish. sometimes when we go out.. a lot people thinks Iam older then him. in fact IAM 21 hes 23. not because I look like but maybe because the way I talk and act is mature. sometimes I fell like hes not mature enough for me. the fact I never dated a guy that younger. all my previews BF were 5 to 10 year older then me. but with this guy I fell that we match in many thinks accept sometime when he gets to happy and start act like that. what should I do??!! I love him and hes I real man . and he really wants to go further withe me. but I don't think hes ready for a relationship.??!!
2006-11-29 03:59:27 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oslo The first that I am hes first series relationship
2006-11-29 04:00:39 · update #1
yeah I don't see eny problem with . hes not that Young ether I Guss. u just need to deal with it
2006-11-29 04:02:48 · answer #1 · answered by I_belong_to_me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you have had experience with dating older men, you are alot more mature than he appears to be. You'll need to let him down gently but from the outside looking in, it doesn't sound like he's a good match for you. Your expectations are your own and if you feel that he's below your standards, I say find someone who is mentally and emotionally on your level. Apparently he falls short in both categories. It might be hard for you to let go because you've already developed feelings for this guy but again if you don't think he's the right one for you, why waste any more time in this relationship. Give this some thought, then decide what to do.
2006-11-29 12:06:16 · answer #2 · answered by melcar12345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad fact of life is that males do indeed mature at a slower rate then most females. Tell him what it is in his behaviour that bothers you and perhaps he can change it. But you also have to realize that you cannot mold this fella into someone or something that he is not. Communication is very important and as such you need to tell him if things are bothering you, especially if you've been seeing each other for 8 months, as he may not even be aware of it. At the same time you should ask him if there are things that you do that he finds annoying. Best of luck to you and I do hope that you can get things on track.
2006-11-29 12:05:52 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness, sweetie, you need to take English class. Sorry to be rude about that, it was just really hard to read what you wrote! :)
About your man, if you love him and want to stay with him then I would suggest that you get him to see a regular doctor to see if he has ADHD or something like that.
If you're really concerned about it, and it seems like you are here by what you've written, then just tell him that you guys aren't a very good match. Don't tell him he's not grown up enough for you cuz he just may not be able to fix that so fast. It will take years for him to grow up. Men just mature slower than women do, so either live with it until he grows up, or realize he may never ever change, or just let him go and find someone more compatible with you.
Good luck, whatever you decide. But if you marry him then don't ever use his immaturity against him because you picked him and knew he was this way BEFORE marriage and it would not be fair to him to expect him to suddenly change just cuz you got married.
2006-11-29 12:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would Talk this out with him. You are far more mature in your outlook because you have been privvy to how older wiser men behave, You see his reactions and behavior as childish. It is unfortunate that we do tend to compare our passed lovers in behavioral and sexual prowess. In much the same way as you would take time out to teach him in the bedroom then you must do the same in the behavior dept. Unless of course you feel he would be hurt by this or feel belittled by it. Many young women tend to see boys/men of their own ages to be immature, simply because the females of our race do tend to mature faster. They do say boys don't get older their toys just get more expensive. For the large part that is true. If you do not address this problem it will annoy you more and more resulting in a breakup. you may find that he isn't right for you right now but given a few years he may be the one. either be patient or find someone who is more acceptable to you on a social basis
2006-11-29 12:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by Cff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay your problem is that he might be the classical class clown and your not use to the publics attention. My advice to you is take out your inner child. Your 21 it means that you have to live your to the fullest your young you don't need to be so mature now you have a long way to go! So have fun like is the last day you will ever see the sun set!
2006-11-29 12:08:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a R&B song out..called "Stop Complaining-Either put up with it or let it go!" If you're already questioning his maturity level after only 8 months, then make you should take the high road and discuss the issue with him...that's what mature adults do.
2006-11-29 12:05:01 · answer #7 · answered by solomonfever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO this when you were flirting or cuddling: If you REALLY want to impress a man who is flirting with you... instead of basking in his flirtatious attention, ask him - in an equally flirtatious way - this simple question:
"So tell me... what kind of woman do you respect?"
Adding a flirtatious element to a serious question is fun and inviting way of building SEXUAL TENSION that will instantly separate you from every other woman he's ever met. It lets him know that you're sassy, smart, and selective - an IRRESISTIBLE combination.
2006-11-29 12:08:29 · answer #8 · answered by Paw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys actually aren't mature untill the age of 25 or older, sorry, it's proven. You can either wait, tell him how you feel, or let him go. Just think about what he means to you.
2006-11-29 12:03:42 · answer #9 · answered by cher 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your his first serious relationship!
Guys don't mature until 30+, & my guy is 26 and i am more mature than he is. I think you and I need to dump these in-mature guys to the crub. Women have it hard when it comes to guys that older than us but slower than us.
What you need to do is stack with to 5 years older than you thing.
If you want a guy that is not slower than you.
2006-11-29 12:07:39 · answer #10 · answered by thinkpink4u101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its his first real relationship and i think you shoud give him a break and tell him how you feel about his actions. Eaither he will change or he will stay the same. It depends on if he wants to change for you and if he trully cares for you. Just take the time and figure things out with him.
2006-11-29 12:07:16 · answer #11 · answered by Only1 Love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋