I was talking to the department head yesterday and she kept looking left to right while I was talking to her for 10 seconds. She did that constantly and finally she just turned away and said "thank you " and walked off with her back turned to me as she said that. She was not in a rush. It just seemed she didn't want to speak to me. Prior to this she did something wrong to me twice but yet I still remain polite and cordial to her even though she was wronged me. Does constantly looking around mean something body language wise?
2006-11-29 03:53:55 · 17 answers · asked by TiredofIdiots 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Hi,
Great question! It's always a good idea to learn about body language.Body language has been widely researched and it's become quite scientific. Do a search online and you'll see how many sites are devoted to it. It's so helpful in situations where you are having a difficult time interpreting the person's tone of voice. In this day and age, for some reason, getting someone to be honest with you is like pulling teeth.
This woman is definetly being nasty to you and she has something to hide. Here is an excerpt from the site "Reading People: Body Lanugage" at:
http://ezinearticles.com/?Reading-People:-Body-Language-Briefing&id=15901
"If you don’t look someone in the eyes while speaking, this can be interpreted as dishonesty or hiding something."
My guess is that this woman is either in the process of doing something behind your back (as in talking to her superiors about you), or she already has. She not only is hiding something, but, WOW, how rude is she!! Some department head huh?
I feel bad for you to have to work there with a "boss" like that. Keep your chin up, read up on body language and maybe give her some back. You can't really talk to her can you? What would you say? I don't like your body language..um, okay, she'll probably just get worse with you. You already are being polite, so you are doing the right thing. I hope that you can find a better job with a dream boss and these immature super ego people can be out of your life. Good luck.
2006-11-29 05:00:29 · answer #1 · answered by Goddess Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely a good indication that she isn't interested in what you are saying....however, and this is SO true, most likely it had to do with what is going on with HER than it did YOU. People are so self involved...Chances are maybe she had some personal stuff going on at home she was worried about, maybe she had forgotten to brush her teeth and was worried about her breath...there are a million maybes. The next time you are both relaxed and you can discuss it ina non-threatening manner, ask her gently about it. Yo umay be surprised!
2006-11-29 04:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means that she is not interested in what you are saying and is by looking around, looking for a reason to get out of the conversation. Simple as that.
2006-11-29 04:33:49 · answer #3 · answered by BookLady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she may need some personell training. Making eye contact, and keeping it, is very important to both parties involved.
Maybe next time, if there is a next time, you should look in the same direction as she does, everytime she does it. I have done this, and it tends to make people aware that your "calling" them on their behavior. They stop what their doing very quickly.
Good Luck!!
2006-11-29 04:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by L.R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is not interested in the current conversation... it could be you, it could be other things on her mind either personal or professional. If it happens all the time, I'd start to get a complex!
2006-11-29 06:31:14 · answer #5 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are nervous often do that. But, if you feel this is something personal, due to prior encounters, I would try talking to her politely and explain how you feel.
good luck!
2006-11-29 03:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by mom*2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if she has a guilty conscience about the way she has treated you. Be careful around her, she may have an agenda about you.
2006-11-29 03:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by maggiepirsq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right....she was being rude, and inattentive. She wasn't listening to you at all, and wasn't interested in what you had to say. I think it's totally rude to do that. She could have at least pretended to be interested.
2006-11-29 03:57:07 · answer #8 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the person is not interested in your conversation, or that they are to busy to pay attention.
2006-11-29 04:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by DCM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she obviously wasn't interested. and, you MUST keep being cordial and polite, no matter how much your brain wants to explode. you need to read her and her moods and concerns correctly...she doesn't sound
2006-11-29 04:22:07 · answer #10 · answered by Iseult 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋