I've been dating this man for almost a year and a half now. I love him and I think he may be "the one", but he hasn't told me that he loves me yet. He stays with me despite my asking if I'm wasting my time. He says that I'm not. But, he hasn't shown me any signs that he loves or cares about me. How do I convince him that I am worth his time and affection?
2006-11-29 03:49:17 · 18 answers · asked by Sunny237 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girl, my boyfriend is the same way! We've only been together for almost 1 year. I've told him I love him every now and again, and I've asked if we're wasting our time- he assures me we aren't. i think, he's just not the type to express his feelings like that. He gave me a diamond necklace for my birthday, with no card, so even that didn't help explain how he feels about me. I have come to the conclusion that he must care, but I can
t make him love me. I can't make him do things he doesn't want to do or isn't ready to do. He will in his own time, when he is ready and not a moment before. If he says you aren't wasting your time, go with that. men are incredibly simple creatures. Don't read too far into what he tells you- the answer is on the surface. Good luck with the relationship! if you ever wan to chat hit me up! whiterashonda@yahoo.com
2006-11-29 04:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen you have a man that is afraid of committment. Look by now you should have been receiving signs that he cares for you and loves you. The only thing that he cares for you for is your time and the sex. You should move on and find someone else. I have seen this same story seems like a million times. This man has no intention of developing a long term relationship with you, if he did you would have known it by now. Just chalk this relationship up to experience and move on. Listen to your intuition, you are wasting your time. All the signs point in that direction.
2006-11-29 03:58:52 · answer #2 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you just cant make anyone love you, you have to have common things involved. I see you have been together a while and if he isn't showing any sings now i think you wasting your time. On your part i just think your afraid to be on your own prob. I don't know how old you are but life is too short to think you need a man in your life. School, Work , and good friends is all any woman needs , then finely the right man will come along and really let you know what a special woman you really are. I myself would quit trying to get this man to commit to me and just move on. Thanks Vickie
2006-11-29 03:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait, you've been together 1 1/2 years and he hasn't said I love you? Ummm, do you see something weird about this? Come on girl. Something is up.
2006-11-29 03:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you kinda allready answered your question. "he hasn't shown any signs that he loves or cares about me"....
sweetheart, Love is a word, it's not gonna make him show you he loves you any more, actions are....
remember this advice:
"it's not what you say, it's what you do".
your better to judge people from their actions, words are easy to manipulate. he may just say "i love you" just to pacify you at some point. but what has he done to make you FEEL loved.... i could be speaking another language and my wife will know i love her... and she hasn't had to convince me in any way to love her, she was just herself.... i tell you this 17 years after meeting her.
2006-11-29 04:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by Tighe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't said it yet and won't say it, that is a bad sign. You cannot make anyone "love you". It just happens
2006-11-29 03:56:36 · answer #6 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its time you tell him you love him. its been a year and a half. if he doesnt have these feelings for you now then he most likely wont. he says your not wastingg your time with him. then maybe he just doesnt know how to comeout and say he loves you. guys are like that sometimes.
i hope that you have found the one and that everything works out.
=]
2006-11-29 03:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by x3holdaloverclose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know... I think if he hasn't shown you that he "loves" you I think he probably doesn't. Keep your options open and maybe look for a new love.
2006-11-29 03:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by Bex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much longer are you willing to wait? That is the ultimate question. If you can answer that, then you know what to do. Everyone deserves to be loved - and be told that your being loved. If he can't do that, he doesn't deserve you or your love.
2006-11-29 03:55:57 · answer #9 · answered by chris_germancat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant make someone love you. if he's not ready to commit theres probly something your not seeing( or want to ignore).have a talk and ask if you should be moving on, your ready for a deeper relationship . good luck.
2006-11-29 03:58:31 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋