Please people help me?

Question

I dont know where to start about 4 months ago my mam and dad split up and its all been down ill from then where my health is concerned hear is a list of the alements:
: Stomach cramps - had them for about 3 months they went away with medication from the doc but have recently came back.
: Chest Pains- ive had these for 5 month before my mam and dad split up my doctor has done all he can with this.
I went to the docs about 2 weeks ago telling him i cant cope anymore he diagnosed me with anixity and is sending me to a phycologist but my stomach cramps have come to a bad stage ive been to the docs about 17 times in the pat 5 months and am scared to go back beacuse im afraid that they will be fed up with me tell me what u think i would very much apresheate it thank you x

Answer 1

Yup, stress & anxiety will do this to you.

Want to be sure the doctors took your concerns seriously and did an EKG and/or Ultrasound along with Blood Enzyme levels to rule out a heart condition. If not, go back to them or find someone else who will be concerned enough to be sure this is not the problem with your heart. I doubt very much this is happening but you always want to err on the side of caution.

Stomach problems are not as immediately serious so I would remain cautious with these. Be sure you don't see blood in your stools and if anything raises your suspicions go either to the doctor or emergency room.

Now, how to get through these emotions in a healthy way.

1. Try to remain active on a daily basis.
2. Get together with friends and try to do things to have fun
3. If you don't have a relationship with God, maybe it's your time to get to know him and start praying and reading a bible. Go to Psalms to start.

I'm guessing you'll need to get permission from your parents to take any of these products but this is what I would recommend.

4. Go to your local health food store and ask for help in purchasing a good Probiotic and Digestive Enzyme. If this is impossible start drinking DanActive in the morning and eating Yogurt during the day. This will help you relax your stomach and not get Ulcers

5 Again at the Health Food Store or online find a product called, Rescue Remedy. This will help you cope emotionally with all this stuff going on without having to take prescription drugs.

6. Give yourself time to grieve the loss of your family as you knew it. I'm very sorry you are having to deal with this and applaud you for reaching out for help. Eventually, though you need to stop focusing on all the problems around you and start focusing on other things. But for now, grieving is understandable.

7. Write out how angry, frightened, hurt or responsible you might be feeling so you can express these things in a safe environment

8. Afterwards, write out how much better you will feel if you let all these feelings go (i know this is a stretch now - but try it) and trust the future will be okay with or without your parents being together.

9. If you can't come up with anything for #8 than write out some things that you might be able to do to help yourself in the midst of this.

10. Learn to breath in deeply, hold your breath in for a couple seconds and when letting it go think about how your letting go of all these problems.

11. Start forgiving your parents for what they are putting you through. Say it outloud in a quiet place.

12. Eventually, write out what you'd like to say to your parents. Meditate on it, change it, work it out until it's perfectly written and then give it to them and say I want to discuss these things with you after you've had time to deal with how I'm feeling. Then sit down with what you wrote and discuss it with them in a calm environment. This may have to be done in separate homes (and I know it hurts to even think this) but in some strange way your openness and honesty might be what each of them need to hear separately to help them overcome all that has transpired up until now. Just remember though, you are not responsible for their breaking up or getting back together. This is about you for now.

The cause of their separation is a problem with our society's belief system. We live in disposable times. You can vow to marry and never, ever separate or divorce. This can and will make you a stronger person.

I want to share a web address with you where people pray for broken marriages. It's http://www.rejoiceministries.org - you can write in with prayer requests and find some valuable tools there to help you deal with this with others who understand.

I'm very sorry to say - You are not the only one going through this in the world. I know it is painful, it tears at your heart, sometimes you probably feel like you're going to die. But you will get through this, I promise. You are strong enough and mature enough to handle it. Just take a deep breath and let it all go for right now.

Hope this helps a little

Oh hey, one other thing, if you need to get off somewhere and scream, throw a temper tantrum, jump up and down, yell at God == than do it.

Answer 2

It sounds like you're going through some horrible stress, I'm sorry to hear that. Stress can do some pretty scary stuff to our bodies. Chest pain can come from anxiety and stress, and also from muscle tension caused by stress. It can feel very frightening!! And your stomach problems could be from the stress also. Its very common for stress to come out in our bodies in the form of excess stomach acid, which can cause wicked pain. Ask your Dr. to send you for xrays which can determine if you have acid reflux disease or any other problems which may be allowing too much acid to come up from your belly. The best thing you can do right now is find someone you trust to talk to. Counselling is a wonderful relief, it lets you vent and cry and get all of the things out you need to......so your body won't hurt so much!!! Also, it gives you tools to cope with the future. Good luck, take care.

Answer 3

It sounds like you are suffering from stress and anxiety, the symptoms you described sound as though you are. Talk with your parents about what has been happening to your health, I am sure that they will try to communicate with each other better so that your health does not have to suffer, and I am sure they are both concerned about what has been happening to you.

You must go back to your doctors, most doctors are very understanding and I am sure that they will not be fed up with you, anyway this is their job, if someone is ill they have to do something in order to treat them, and it is always better to be safe than sorry. Continue to see the Psychologist also, it may be beneficial to voice your concerns to a professional.

I know it sounds hard but try to just take some time alone and just relax, don't think so much about what has been happening, take a quiet moment to yourself take a few deep breaths if you have to, and just forget your troubles. I know your troubles are all around you and you have a thousand thoughts flying around in your head, but just try, and try to think positively, things will eventually get better.

I hope you get a lot better soon, stay strong hun...
-x-

Answer 4

It does sound like general anxiety and nerves to be honest, and it's understandable. I don't know how old you are but you could ask the doctor to prescribe a mild tranquiliser. You could also ask him/her for some counselling You also need to make sure you eat plenty of fruit and veg and get plenty of exercise and fresh air. Boring sounding I know, but the correct nutrients and excercise can make a lot of difference to your mental well being. Do you have a relative you could talk to about this or the parent of a close friend or a school teacher. Being able to talk it out is also a great help.

Answer 5

It does sound like it could be anxiety - but you never know, it could have triggered ulcers or something else.

First - if it is anxiety - ask for medication and to see a therapist.

Second - don't worry about bothering people! This is your health and that is important!

Finally, don't give up. You shouldn't feel lousy - keep trying & hang in there!

Best of luck

Answer 6

I would change doctors and don't worry about being a burden to them. That's what they are there for. They need to find out what is wrong with you, it could be ulcers or something. It sounds like the symptoms you are having are from stress, anxiety or panic attacks. Have they given you medication? If they have tell them you want to try something different because this one isn't working. You may just need to find the one that is right for you. Good luck and don't give up.

Answer 7

Well you seem to already know why you are feeling ill and it is manefesting itself in medical ways because the only two people that can actually fix you can't or wont...

Doctors are an alternative go to healer for a distraction, in the form of a symptiom that hides what is really hurting you... You parents!

You need to speak to them darling... No sense or point in making yourself ill over something that is not in your control. These symptoms COULD be something medical? But the fact that YOU, yourself, inadvertantly mentioned your parents as a catalyst for the other symptoms means that they are the source and dealing with the problem might just alleviate or heal what you are looking to the doctors to save you from.

Illnesses manefest themselves in all sorts of ways darling and just because your spiritual heart hurts... doesn't mean your physical heart is not functioning... Always go to the doctor just to be certain... but talk to your parents too.

Answer 8

sounds like this split is really upsetting you mate i think you need to talk to someone or maybe take some time out for you get away from it all and clear your head that is assume your doc has run blood tests and other necessary tests to rule out any problems with your health ...don't be scared to go to the doc that's what there for maybe get a second opinion it cant hurt ...how old are you? maybe your blaming yourself for your parents split without knowing the situation i don't wont to say to much but don't think parents split over there kids usually its the opposite so don't beat yourself up over it unfortunately sometimes in life it doesn't always work out the way we want it to you, but try and stay positive hope you get better keep smiling and good luck

Answer 9

you have stress anxiety
see a psychologist and get some therapy
talking out your problems will help you to resolve your anxiety
sometimes you just have to talk it out not keep it bottled up inside
i am surprised you doctor did not recognize your problem and give you that advise
pills can't cure what's ailing you

Answer 10

It does sound like you have anxiety. As for the stomach cramps, I would keep going back to the doctor. That's what they are there for. Keep insisting that they find out what the problem is.

Good Luck!

Answer 11

You are suffering stress, this will make you phsically ill. You need to do things to relax. Exercise, get a full body massage, read a good book, talk to a good friend or partner to get some release. Hope you get better soon.xx