Parents: What would you do if you found out your spouce was a meth addict and had abused your oldest child?

Question

Before I get slammed with slurs and insults, let's just say, I'm asking your opinon on what you would do.

Answer 1

Honestly i know its hard to hear but even forgetting about the meth they abused your child and that is over the top you need to hope your child is not permanently scarred, leave with you kids, and get you spouse in rehab because they need to get it together

Answer 2

Try and get my spouse into some form of rehab firstly. If they refused to try and help themselves and our relationship then I would get my children and leave the situation immediately. If my spouse cleaned up then I would have the family as a unit seek family counseling and hopefully all emotions could be shared in a safe place. If the abuse was sexual I would certainly contact the police and have this person removed from the house and charged as a child does not deserve this. If the abuse was physical but only a slap on the rear to get the child to do something I would speak with my spouse and tell them to never touch the kid again. But without more information it is kind of hard to say what needs to be done for certain. I was a speed freak myself many years ago and I know that this substance will overtake a person and become their first and only love, so the family will miss out on this emotion. But like all other people if this person was to clean up they deserve a second chance and hopefully a time to heal the family relationship.

Answer 3

The Most important person in all this is the child the next is you. I would seriously call the police on this animal. You have every right to do this you are protecting your child and others children from this monster. Secondly the sheer lack of respect this person (and i use the word reluctantly) has shown you should be enough to, not only make them an ex-spouse but also a jailed one. Please don't think that this was in any way your child's or your fault, this individual is sick and in my opinion the meth addiction is certainly no excuse for such behavior. You are to be commended on your vigilance and to the fact that you are doing everything to protect those close to you. Good luck and do the right thing. Get this creep arrested.

Answer 4

Ok w/ you already putting that you don't want to be "slammed w/ slurs and insults" then you already know what you have to do. I just hope that your child doesn't see this posting because instead of going straight to the police you had do come on here and see what you had to do. Get in gear because if you don't your child well hate you more then the abuser because you didn't do anything. I talk from experience my mother didn't get me out because she was "too scared" I was a child and I had to tell somone else to call the police. Yeah I hate my step dad but I hate my mom more because she didn't protect me.

Answer 5

Call the police and have them arrested. You owe it to the child. I would with no doubt have them arrested. I am not going to insult you this is a hard thing to go through when you love someone. But for your childs sake and your own have your spouce put in jail right away.

Answer 6

The only thing of importance to me is that he abused my child. I'd call the cops and tell them they better come and get him RIGHT NOW or else they can have what's left of him by the time I get done with him. I'd be telling him if those drugs don't kill him first I will.

Answer 7

What I would like to do them isn't legal in the United States, so I would probably contact the proper officials pack a few things and take my children elsewhere and file for divorce with total custody

Answer 8

Everything in my head says notify the police, but given that child molestation is involved - if it was me - I'm pretty sure I'd ambush his bum, the police would have to scoop him up with a shovel, and I'd need some kinda' talkin' to as well

Answer 9

i'm sad to see that you are still dealing with this issue. i remember your story from last week when you went to the police and they blew you off. i can't really answer your question being as my first response was to go to the police, but since they didn't help you out, i'm not sure where you could go from there.
if your friend is down with it, see if you can get an appointment with family services. they may be able to handle the situation appropriately.

Answer 10

Call the police on him first. Then, divorce and move yourself and the other kids away from him. Therefore, he will have no contact with them anymore and will not have another chance to abuse your other children.