oh my god do i have a question for u guys!! ok, i been living with my mother-inlaw for about a year now im 23 and my boyfriend is 20 yes hes young! anyways i need my own place but my man is taking his time and my mother inlaw doesnt clean also her younger son and husband, i clean cook and watch her son and work and have two of my own, cause of course i dont pay rent. but i get tired and frusrated cleaning all the time and they just sit there. i feel like a maid my man gets upset at them. anyways she finally cleaned and cooked for the first time in a year im serious and she acted so stuck up and didnt even ask me if im hungrey ,dinners ready, knowing it was my favorite plate they didnt even leave me anything. i was so hurt what should i do. i know she does alot by letting me in with are kids but i feel i still shouldnt be treated like that. should i have a talk with her please help... lol i feel she got mad cause i finally step up and said im tired of being a maid.
2006-11-29 03:42:07 · 12 answers · asked by jdn85 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She took you for granted, and took up the opportunity to have you do everything because you're living under her roof. She doesn't seem like a person that you can sit down and talk things through with. From what you wrote, she seems to be lazy too. I don't think you need to bother talking to her about the problem, cos she gets upset so easily, and she won't hear a thing you say to her. Save up some money so that you and your bf can move to a better place. It doesn't have to be a luxurious place, but anything is better than her house, right? There are apartments and flats out there that charges $500 or so a month, so if you and your bf are working people, it should be alright. If both of you are still studying, then you just have to bear with her presence a little longer I guess. But during that period of time, you can make the place more livable for everyone. Like maybe, make a timetable coordinating every day duties for everyone in the house. Whatever that works.
2006-11-29 04:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Hanna 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A good chat would not be hurtful in this relationship. She may actually respect you a lot more for having a spine and approaching her. But it would be in your best interest for you and your man to get a place of your own when it is possible as, not meaning to sound like a sexist or anything, it is difficult having two women under the same roof.
2006-11-29 03:46:20 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If ur man says hes a man he wouldnt want to live with mom. does he work do any of them? I would hope you have been saving ur pennies to get a place. If ur man wont get yall a place get you and ur kids a place. It sounds to me like she is sending you a message GET OUT. it seems to me that ur mans not ready to get out from under mom. You could talk to her ask her what the problem is. You never can tell though they might just be lazy.
2006-11-29 03:59:21 · answer #3 · answered by samcamcam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you do this.......Cook a wonderful dinner and I mean a wonderful dinner. Sit down have a special talk with your husbands mother. Sit her down and let her know your feelings and how you feel hurt. She will definitley understand. Then when you're redy go back to the dinner table with the rest of the family and poop in all of their dinner plates while they sit there in shock. It will really get their attention.
2006-11-29 03:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your dealing with lazy people huh,if you clean once they'll walk all over you,but if you put your foot down,they'll start thinking ok this girl is serious and start respecting you more.right now there just a little upset that there little maid made a stand..they should get over it..your man needs to act like a man and support his family :)my man is 17 im 22 thats young! but he has our future planned well.. :)
2006-11-29 03:47:27 · answer #5 · answered by d4rkprincess84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, talk to her politely about the situation and tell her how you feel. And tell her thank-you for letting you and your children live there. And then I would look into renting a nice apartment somewhere close to your boy-friend, and since you were living together anyways, you might be able to rent one together. But don't destroy there family. Try to be apart of it.
2006-11-29 03:47:09 · answer #6 · answered by KMChickk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get out of there.
This is not a good situation for your children, remember they see and remember everything. Is this the type of people you want them to end up being? You're miserable and the situation is obviously stressful. Is this they type of life you want your children to emulate? Trust me they will.
2006-11-29 03:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by i have no idea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out, get away from her. You two can't really live a life together under mother hen.
2006-11-29 03:44:23 · answer #8 · answered by bridetobebrandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move out. Sounds like you are being used.
2006-11-29 03:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move out and find yourself a real man.
2006-11-29 04:45:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋