My 5 year old is starting to act out at school. It started to get worse when I started back at work. When I was off for 2 weeks his behavior was great. The day I started back everything just fell apart. I have tried everything I can think of to incurrage him to improve but nothing has helped. I have to work in order to support my family, so please don't suggest that I quit working. He has to learn that parents have to work and he can't get his way all the time.
Examples of things he does at school:
He will not sit still to do his school work
He will not follow the class room rules
He bothers other students while they are doing their work
Just alot of disobedient behavior
He is a smart and sweet kid, he just can't behave.
Please, I need some good advice from parents who know what I am going through. Thanks
2006-11-29 03:40:09 · 6 answers · asked by jhack52593 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I have done that but even taking things and previlages away from him does not seem to help. He just keeps doing the same things over and over again. Like yesterday he got into trouble at school, I had a long talk with him, then sent him to his room, and made him lay in bed with out being allowed to watch tv or do anything. I don't like to admit it but I have even spanked him on his butt before. I have even tried to reward his good behavior.
2006-11-29 04:00:26 · update #1
I have attended his class. The teachers expectations of him and all the students are suttable for their age. The rules are simple: Respect others and their belongings, Do not talk when the teacher is talking, Stay in your area, and Keep your body and belongings to yourself. These are basic rules that I require him to follow at home. (I get the same behavior problems from him at home also, and yes he gets punished consistanly and approperatly.)
I am affraid that this problem is going to lead to him needing to be put on medication, which is something that I really do not want to do.
2006-11-29 05:19:30 · update #2
In response to sally t, I spend the majority of my time with him alone. I have two other older children that I don't have any extra time for that makes me feel guilty. However, since my son is the one acting out for attention, he gets my undivided attention. I help him with his home work, read with him, play games, and many other thing. The amount of attention I give to my son makes my husband suggest that is what is causing him to act out. If I quit giving him so much attention he will not crave it like he is.
2006-11-29 05:25:17 · update #3
I understand it's hard become a full time working parent with kid because I do. I think your kid needs more attention from you. Always make sure that you ask him about school when you meet him everyday, ask what good in school, how is his teacher, what he learns today, which whom does he play, etc. (asking something good). Also, it is important that you spend your time with your kid everyday, at least 30-60 minutes time only for him without any thing else, just him. In that time, you can play game with him or do something interactive between you and him. Also, when your day off, spend your time more with him, interact and play with him. I am very sure he will change his attitude. Also, make a reward program card for him. If he is good all day, give him a sticker, if he is not good, he will not get any sticker reward, if he violate the rule and you warn him once and he still keep doing it, then, take 1 of his sticker from his chart. And always remind him about the reward. Tell him about how happy you are to have the best kid like him and you want him to show you as he is a good kid who makes you proud of him, etc. Don't always leave your kid alone all the time when you are there, but, spend time to play and have conversation with him, he will be so happy and change his behavior. I have 2 kids, 5 years and 2 years, it sometimes made me very frustrated as I am full time working Mom and very tired and don't have time even for myself, but, I always spare my time for my kids whenever I have time at home and my kids become well behave and do not attack me or make trouble outside. Show your kid your good parenting and I am sure you can do it. Good Luck.
2006-11-29 03:58:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would keep in mind that he is only 5 and he may not be ready to follow the rules of the classroom.
Consider checking with his teacher and finding out how his day is run.
Does he have full or parttime kindergarten?
Does he get one or two recesses?
Does he get frequent breaks?
Is he overwhelmed from being around sooo many other students?
I think teachers expect too much of our little kindergartners. I spent a day in my 5 y/o's class and came up with this.
2006-11-29 05:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by erinjl123456 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and just tell him that his behavior is not acceptable and that if he continues to misbehave then he is going to get in trouble at home..i.e, no tv/computer time, video games. Kids need to learn at a young age that they need to behave in school. Teachers have a hard enough job without kids acting out and parents need to back the teachers up.
2006-11-29 03:45:29 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is easy to say, just tell him that he is not behaving, but it sounds like he is just trying to get atttention. He is used to you being around and now he has to share the attention of one person with a lot of other children. That is hard on a child and even harder for them to completely understand.
Does his kindergarten teacher send a conduct sheet home everyday? If so, I would suggest going over it with him, not being angry, just say "honey, i see you were ...... " Ask him to tell you exactly what he did. It is WAY BETTER to "ask him" than immediately getting angry and pointing a finger. This way he understands that you are including him on this issue and not right away taking the teachers side.....you are giving him a chance to discuss this with you in HIS words. Then love on that baby a lot while telling him that he would not like it if someone was disrupting "his" time.
We all lose our patience at one time or another....it's ok. I understand completely.
And you have talked to his teacher - what does she say is going on with him, when he is NOT misbehaving? What does he say to her about it?
2006-11-29 03:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by VeronicaS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
consistancy always parents both agree and dont let him play you he is smart and is acting out for attention the wrong kind there are many books that could help on the bull headed child but many of them are gifted do not break the spirit by usage of meds u will have little hair left after done but will be well worth it counceling is best not meds makes zombies and breaks the spirit thats not worth it hang in there it will change be consistant and both have same answers for him dont let go of your control yet gl
2006-11-29 05:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by dumb as dirt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we go out an talk about work spelling test
2006-11-29 04:37:16 · answer #6 · answered by marcellus s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋