About 2 years ago our daughter, then 16, was messing up. One night she got home drunk, my husband said she'd be grounded for a month, she was disrespetful, he lost his temper and spanked her really bad. Actually he exaggerated. She went to his mother, who loves her and almost reported him. She has $, some power over my hubby and got custody of the girl, who srted hating us, especially my hubby. She's been with mother-in law for almost 2 years and I must admit she is now a very wise and good girl. Since that day, we haven't talked to her, she refuses. Next years she'll be in college. My m- in- law doesn't turn the girl against us but supports her decisions. She'll even buy her an apartment next year. That thing tore our family apart, my heart is broken and my hubby, though he's a tough man, suffers a lot too. We have a great 15 yo boy, and fortunately he gets along w/ my daughter. But though he loves her, he's getting resentful, feeling left out, and my afriad we'll end up losing him
2006-11-29 03:38:40 · 11 answers · asked by Tatiana 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
apologize to her, and talk to your hubby about the spanking,what girls her age needs there family to be supportive and can able to talk to them,parents should trust her and talk with her more instead of yelling and fighting,teens just need love hugs and someone to talk to.sometimes its too late but u can try one day at a time.
2006-11-29 03:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by d4rkprincess84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby should have never hit a 16 year old at all! I can't believe he spanked her like she was five years old. You both have to admit to your daughter that you were wrong and you made a mistake and she will forgive you. My parents kicked me out of the house when i was 19 just because i was late to my college class. They finally told me that it was a mistake and they were sorry..if they could go back in time they would not have done that at all. Now we are very close and hang out all the time. Even though i never forget the pain and or being homeless and not having food to eat...still i am able to maintain a relationship with my parents. Look don't ignore your 15 year old boy include him in all your conversations. Don't separate him when you talk to your hubby about this keep him right by your side. You all need to go to counseling. Good luck.. just do what i said admit to your mistake..being drunk is not such a big deal..it was your fault that she was running around and able to get drunk.
2006-11-29 03:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe some rules in this world like discipline are a miss. If you want her back first you should apologies to her for the pain you give her 2 years ago. If she is a wise women she would know how to forgive and forget. Family is something to value as long as you live. Let her know your also in pain. Tell you'll always love her.
2006-11-29 03:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by Luke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all.....how bad of a spanking are we talking here? Did he slap her or beat her? Because there is a difference and you guys should not have her if he was beating her. Secondly, if you really want to have your daughter back in your life, you need to just keep communicating. Send her letters, send her emails, call her.....even if she ignores all of these things.....you have let her know that you care and maybe with time, old wounds can be healed.
2006-11-29 03:45:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL 1ST OF ALL IF I WAS GOIN THROUGH THAT I WOULD LEAVE MY HUBBY THAT AINT RITE HE SHOULD HAVE NEVER PUT A HAND ON HER IN THE 1ST PLACE CUZ SHE CAME HOME DRUNK TEENAGERS DO THAT SOME TIMES!! SO I AM GLAD SHE DONT TALK TO U GUYS!! CUZ UR THE STUPID ONE THAT SIT THERE AND LET HIM DO IT IN THE 1ST PLACE! N UR HUBBY SHE FILL BAD OR WAT EVER THE HELL CUZ HE IS REALLY THE STUPID ONE!!
I AM SORRY FOR BEING SO RUDE!! BUT THERE WOULD BE NO WAY I WOULD LET THIS SLIDE!!
AND HIS MOTHER SHOULD HAVE REPORTED HIM I KNOW I WOULD I KNOW U LOVE HIM AND STUFF BUT I REALLY DONT THINK HE SHOULD HAVE DONE THAT! AND U DONT DO ANY THING ABOUT IT!!
2006-11-29 03:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by *SoMe*OnE*SeCeRt* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family needs to go into counseling. You need to talk to your daughter to resolve this issue. Two years is along time but she is not almost an adult. Just talk to her one on one, your husband does not need to be present and maybe it's best that he doesn't. There is a lot of pain and hurt there and it needs to be resolve before any more pain and hurt happens.
2006-11-29 03:43:30 · answer #6 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always keep God first! Sometimes as young ladies we want it our way at times. One day your family we come back together and be as one and even stronger. Just give here time, don't push your love on her to much. She knows that you and your husband love her dearly. Pray hard and let go!!!
2006-11-29 03:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your son about what happened, and continue to try to mend the relationship with your daughter. In time, she may be able to establish some type of relationship with you, but you need to give her all of the time she needs. Best of luck!
2006-11-29 03:45:02 · answer #8 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very tough situation.....be optimistic---at least the MIL does a good job
2006-11-29 03:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats so sad. but call her and help her love her..
you should know this things s lol
ttyl glad i can help.
2006-11-29 03:40:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋