I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday and today he was really upset and crying and ive never seen him cry. He said he would change and stuff do i believe him and do i get back with him?
2006-11-29 03:34:40 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we broke up cos he kept accusing me of flirting and his friends were putting ideas in his head about me and hes admitted now that they have
2006-11-29 03:43:30 · update #1
I'm sorry about your situation hunny, but I'm afraid he wont change even if he had the best intentions in the world to do so. I think if he has been causing you misery by not trusting you, then you have done the right thing by leaving him. Your both bound to be a bit upset over this and I don't blame you for considering on taking this guy back, but believe me, that would only make it harder in the future for you to leave when he does it again.
I hope you find someone that you can love, and who will trust you and treat you like a princess.
Take care,
Love n light xx x
2006-11-29 04:00:42 · answer #1 · answered by andi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yoda is right, there is no try there is only do.
Actions speak louder than words. What were his actions like when he was with you? Clearly you broke up so obviously not good.
Wish him well, hope he does change and move on.
Who knows maybe down the road if he's really changed you can get back together. If not hopefully you'll have found a better man committed to combating his selfish nature. Either way you win.
2006-11-29 03:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by simm 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Breaking up really is hard to do. However he wants to change, bad faults do not just pop away because you want them to. He has a problem. You will have to be very tollerant if you allow him back and he will have to work hard to kick his problem of suspicion. By the way, true love is based on trust.
Why not just be platonic friends for a bit and see how it goes ?
Time is an enormous healer.
2006-11-29 04:39:16 · answer #3 · answered by Aunty Wendy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience guys only change for so long. Give it a few weeks and usually they are back to their same bad habits. If you really want to work things out give him another chance, but once he starts acting up again you should break it off for good. You should also let him know that this is his last chance.
2006-11-29 03:38:47 · answer #4 · answered by Princesa2dy4 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
his friendsputing ideas in his head...you flirting
perhaps he got insecure. If you want it to work again he needs to know you love and repect him etc. If you are asking should you get back with him, then this indicates that you are doubtful and unsure that you even want to be with him! He shouldn't let his mates think they can bad-mouth you, that is disrespectful. follow your gut instinct on this one- why did he take any notice of what his mates said - he should of told them to mind their own business! He sounds weak to me. Take some time out on this and see how you feel about it after a few weeks (you cant be with someone that doesn't trust you)
2006-11-29 03:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Estee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - my ex did exactly the same thing when I broke up with him. He begged for another chance and when I finally said I'd consider it he told me it wouldn't work!? Then later told all our mutual friends how heartbroken I was that he'd broken up with me. It made me realise I deserve much better and my current boyfriend is ten million times better!
2006-11-29 03:48:27 · answer #6 · answered by mishmash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly you need to think if the reason u split with him was a good one!! and does he no the reason????
secondly i dont agree with giving men a second chance as they say they just but they soon get back to there old routine.
im not very good with advise but i hope u do the right thing.x
2006-11-29 03:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by colour-pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could try again and give him another chance, just be careful though he may use it against you in future. It took me over a year to finally break up with my ex, because every time i said it was over and wasn't working he would cry and say he couldn't be without me i felt the need to stay with him.
Good luck girl..
2006-11-29 03:39:55 · answer #8 · answered by courtney88 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you still have feelings for this guy and want to try and work it out then go for it. But if you have no feels what so ever then maybe it is best you just move on and leave it alone. He will get over you soon enough. Dont do it just cause you feel sorry for the guy.
2006-11-29 03:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by Mz.H 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends why did u break up with him? I've seen people crying and not being honest at the same time!
2006-11-29 03:38:34 · answer #10 · answered by plutonas2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋