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We (me and my boyfriend) were not together when I started talking to this to a guy that I later found out was his friend from a while back. He was out of town for about 5 years and when he came back we started a relationship. I didn't feel like it was important tp tell him about the guy because it was before we were together. The guy told him about us and now there is no trust. We are in love but he doesn't trust me now and says that he CAN'T get over it. How could I regain his trust and Was I in the wrong for not telling him even though I didn't know they were friends??? Please help. ;(

2006-11-29 03:33:00 · 12 answers · asked by Kristi 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

12 answers

He has issues, not you. You have nothing to be sorry for, what you did in your past, is YOUR business only. He needs to get over it.

2006-11-29 03:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 0 0

If ya'll were not together then you have nothing to be sorry for!!! quit acting as if you do. you are free to make your own desicions and if you wanted to date that guy you were SINGLE and you had the right rather it was his friend or the presidents son!! He needs to understand if he loves you he can't control your past life! thats your buisness. He shouldn't act that way. Try turning the tabels and asking him if you have a right to not trust him cause of some girl he dated before you. maybe then he will see the stupidity of his argument

2006-11-29 03:40:12 · answer #2 · answered by crazy b 2 · 0 0

Forgiveness is his and only his to give so he's gotta do that for you in order for you both to move forward. 2) It wasn't a good idea at all to not tell him about this guy because now it looks like you only feel sorry because you got caught because he was his friend. 3) Prove to him (how I'm not exactly sure because everybody's different and I can read minds :) lol) that you only care about him in a relationship like that by doing something that shows your affection (as more than a friend and above everyone else) exists and you're willing to do whatever it takes. Good Luck! I hope the best for you :)

2006-11-29 03:39:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Why do so many of us pretend that past relationships and decisions don't affect us now?

Yes, while those choices have made the person we now currently Love the truth is the past will always come back to haunt us.

Before going into any relationship you should always initiate an open dialogue about your past...and expect details about his. Clearly skipping this step is not prudent.

Move on, having learned this lesson and seek to apply it in your next relationship.

2006-11-29 03:37:23 · answer #4 · answered by simm 2 · 0 0

You should have told him, even if it was before ya'll got together. You lost some trust in doing that. It's not up to you now, it's up to him. He's got to make the call. So blow it off like it's nothing and maybe he will too. Just make sure he knows you love him.

2006-11-29 03:37:01 · answer #5 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0 0

The past is always important. When you are involved with someone it is always important to talk about your past. Your past shows your lessons, growth, experience, and what you have matured to. Just think if your partner didn't tell you about someone they dated and you knew that person had herpes. Just them telling you about that person can save the both of you a world of hurt. So don't be ashamed of your past grow and learn from it. Surely the other guy was doing that to rub it in his face and you should have been open about it so that that would never have occured.

2006-11-29 03:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0 0

I cannot understand how he does not "trust" you, based on what?? Because you didn't tell him a list of all the people you ever dated on the off chance that he might know one of them? Crazy. Now you get to decide if you want to be with someone that insanely possessive and insecure.

2006-11-29 03:46:08 · answer #7 · answered by zmj 4 · 0 0

Girl you have nothing to feel sorry for because you did not know but if he really live you then he should not be concern with the past but more focus on the present and future with you

2006-11-29 03:48:09 · answer #8 · answered by katie 4 · 0 0

Your past is your past. If you are doing everything you can to make this relationship work he should trust you. If he feeling for you are base on your past relationship then you need to move on.

2006-11-29 03:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by Disha 4 · 0 0

okay i really see what u are going through!!! but in my opinion i think it is half and half...you should of been honest with him in the first place.....if you really love him plan something romantic to make it up to him!!!! him and his friend shouldn't come between how u feel for your bf

2006-11-29 03:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Filipina Paradise♥♥ 3 · 0 0

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