i cant tell if my gf is lieing about her past.........i wanna trust her, we have talked before but i just cant get over it, i even have bad dreams about certin events from "her past" what do i do?
2006-11-29 03:29:35 · 9 answers · asked by eggbcn 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Put the past where it belongs in the past. We all have skeletons in our closet and if we dwell on them then we'll never get past them. Keep an open mind and show your girl some respect by not judging her on her past mistakes or indiscretions.
2006-11-29 03:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well all have skeltons and excess baggage. How would you like it if she held something against you from your past. There is no way to fight this, it's your past, already happened and maybe you learned from it and became a better person or maybe you just learned a lesson. Either way we are a sum of our experreinces and your girlfriend may not be the person she is today if she had not expereinced that so get over it. It's not fair to hold past against someone and if you do doesn't that make you kind of shallow?
2006-11-29 11:32:45 · answer #2 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do so many of us pretend that past relationships and decisions don't affect us now?
Yes, while those choices have made the person we now currently Love the truth is the past will always come back to haunt us.
You need to begin to have an open dialogue with her about her past...and about yours. Clearly she hasn't told your everything and until she does (and you do the same) that mistrust will always be there. Do you want mistrust to be a part of your relationship with her?
If you can't do that with total openness, honesty and trust...move on.
2006-11-29 11:34:20 · answer #3 · answered by simm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the issue? If she tells you that she did something before getting together with you and you don't approve of it, would you break up with her or would it not matter? If it doesn't matter, then you don't really need to know, do you? What you need to concentrate on is how she is with you now and whether or not you think you can trust her. If you can, then let it go.
People grow and people change, don't judge her based on what she did years ago, judge her on how she is now.
2006-11-29 11:35:05 · answer #4 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to think of something else instead of her past. Remember the past is in the past. You should trust her more.
2006-11-29 11:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by talk_to_the_hand!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she has a hard enough time with the things that she has done . She really doesn't need more crap added on her about her mistakes because of the hangups you may have about what she did. Does she know everything that you have done?
2006-11-29 12:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by sereta zandrae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget her past... look how's she now... everyone of us has made mistakes in the past and I'm one of the champions in this sport;)
2006-11-29 11:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by plutonas2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever it is happened BEFORE she met u---u cannot change it--so get over it---if u are unable to get over it -- dump her and move on
2006-11-29 11:31:57 · answer #8 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO TRUST HER OR MOVE ON.
2006-11-29 11:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by shannon c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋