You know the kind where a couple is together but they are allowed to see other people?
The thing is, I recently found out that my live-in boyfriend of two years has talked to and seen other women. I have definate proof of this. At this point I am not sure what to do. My first instinct was to just leave him. The more I think about it though, the more I don't want to do it. I want to tell him that I know what he's been up to, and that now I'm either going to see other people too or if he doesn't allow me to do that, I'm going to leave him. Is that crazy?
2006-11-29 03:27:37 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My vote is for "crazy".
Just kidding.
But in all seriousness...
if you were into open relationships you'd have had one from the beginning.
You're talking about seeing other guys just because you know he's seeing other girls. But do you really WANT to see other guys or is it just to make you even?
Would you rather be monogamous with him?
But more important then all of that is trust in a relationship. You have basically caught him having affairs that he was hiding from you. How far can you trust this guy?
LEAVE HIM!
2006-11-29 03:46:18 · answer #1 · answered by mrspunkmeister2u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a long look at your relationship and decide if you reeeealy want to keep it. If the answer is yes and he wants to continue to see people on the side, you need to look into your local swingers group. You can have all the fun you want, all the recreational sex you want and it is a controlled environment. No one will be seeking something else on the side, you will always know where the other one is and the most important factor, you are the one in control at any party. She who has the p*ssy makes the rules. Good luck.
2006-11-29 11:38:19 · answer #2 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem with open relationships. You're boy lied to you though. I think that's pretty dirty. If he's seeing these other women, do you think he's using protection? If he says he is, how can you trust him? Open relationships are fine is everyone agrees upon the rules. I'd be a little hesitant if this guy is a liar.
2006-11-29 11:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first thing I think is that open relationships do not generally work over any period of time. Second, I like to point out if you want that type of relationship that is fine but both parties need to agree. What he did was cheat, he lied, dis-respected you and so then you have to ask yourself do you really want someone in your life you can't trust.
2006-11-29 11:30:33 · answer #4 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep it sounds crazy. He cheated on you! If you wanted a open relationship you should have talked about that in the beginning. He really doesn't care what you think. He's already gone out and got what we wants. If you stay now your just a doormat or looking to get hurt worse.
2006-11-29 11:41:44 · answer #5 · answered by rdwngfever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm in a very similar situation. but open-relationships are very tricky and i think that they're hard to do when solid and actual feelings are involved; not to mention that you two live together. i definitely think that you should confront him but i don't think that you should suggest the open-relationship as a way to get back at him. would you really be able to handle seeing him get dressed for a date with another girl? could you handle it if he brought a chick back to the home that you two share?
you're not crazy. but just re-think the open-relationship thing....is he really so great that you'd be willing to share him with other people? i think you deserve a little better than that.
good luck!
2006-11-29 11:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by iPROMISE[♥] 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to be blunt. If he's going around seeing other women then i don't think he really loves you. I wouldn't give that man the time of day. IT's not worth it. When you're with someone it should be a relationship between the two of you.
2006-11-29 11:31:55 · answer #7 · answered by Ophelia19 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried that once --NOT GOOD!!!!-me and my girl at the time were not doing well and I found out she was talking to some guy--long story short we ended up getting a two b-room apt and it was great until I went on a date w/ another girl--but then again it was kinda nice having some in-house too!I almost got a killer three way--not!!!Maybe next time
2006-11-29 11:33:28 · answer #8 · answered by I'm laughing WITH you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its not crazy but its dangerous, your both putting eachother at risk of catchin STDS its not worth it. thts the point of being relationship, chosing to be with one person and only tht one. ITS TO keep from spreedin anything around. or everyone else wlould have open relationship. if he cant be with just you then dont lower yourself to his level just find someone on your level. its not worth loosin your life for his mistake(stds n aids). you deserve to have someone be faithful. dont you ever think other wise, also there no point in being with someone you cant trust it will only get worse, it will eat up inside then you'll start blamin yourself for his mistake and you'll be the one suffering even more.. when hes the one who started cheatin, all i can say is you've done nothing wrong, becareful aid is out there and is it really worth it when you can find someone to be with you and only you.
2006-11-29 11:44:20 · answer #9 · answered by butta77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you both are not crazy!!!
it's your guy's decsion to make up...if he sees other woman besides you...then why not see other men? you said what do you think about open relationships well i think if you two love each other why would u want to see other people?
2006-11-29 11:32:02 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Filipina Paradise♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋