I was living with my boyfriend who is an alcoholic and suddenly he went nuts and i ended up leaving in the middle of the night .I had nowhere to go because i am not working i broke my leg and couldn't work for a few months .Would you have left or stayed? I ended up at my parents house because i had nowhere to go .He has not looked for me .Is he a jerk ?Do you think he cares about me at all ?Would you call him?
2006-11-29 03:24:42 · 15 answers · asked by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey I would run with my broke leg as far as I could get and I wouldn't look back for nothing!!! If he hasn't called you then he doesn't care and and if he is an alcoholic he needs to get help! You are safer away from him! He gets to drinking and goes crazy again he could seriously harm you! Don't go back there please!!!!
2006-11-29 03:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by crazy b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, until he admits he's an alcoholic, and stops drinking, the alcohol is more important to him than you are. Alcoholism is a disease that literally can control a person.
What this also means, is that although you care about him, the best thing you could do for yourself was to leave. You can't force him to make himself better. Does this mean you can't try to help him? No... you could get a group of his family and friends together and attempt to intervene, and force him to get help...but in the end, the only person that can fix this is him.
I don't think he's a jerk...he's a man with a serious problem. Do I think he cares about you? Yes, he probably does....but right now, the alcohol is more important. Would I call him? I would maybe call to let him know I'm alright... and let him take the conversation from there. If he pursues further conversation, talk to him. Let him know you can't stay with him anymore if he's still drinking. Make sure he understands the consequences of being an alcholic are that he's going to lose you. If you really love him, make sure he also understands, that you'll do what you can to help him... but he has to stop drinking. Unfortunately, the only way to help him, is to be confrontational, and not put up with his crap... that's the best support you can give him.
PS. I'm not just talking smack out of my bum... my mother was an alcoholic. She hasn't had a drink now in 8 years.
2006-11-29 11:36:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You shouldn't even ask the question honey! No woman should have to put up with that stuff. Don't look back. I also took some horrible abuse from my first husband. Wash your hands of the whole situation and don't ever talk to him again. You are much better off believe me!
2006-11-29 11:30:59 · answer #3 · answered by righteousrose 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is an alcoholic he is not worth thinking about and just let him go. Hopefully if you are lucky he will not contact you ever again ! He is a loser and isn't gonna change!
2006-11-29 14:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by Back Off Jack ! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt call him. I think you should go on with your life. Let him fix his own problems. I was married to an alcoholic for ten years.I tell you it was hell. we been divorced a long time now. I have no regrets about divorcing him. ive met my soulmate and been married 8 yrs now. I tell you honestly as i can, let it go.good luck!!!!
2006-11-29 11:33:36 · answer #5 · answered by sunshine 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you were right to leave because he need to get help. Go out in look for a job and go on with your life because you will find someone else
2006-11-29 11:31:11 · answer #6 · answered by katie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, how come you have no self-respect?
5 billion people on the planet and that's who you pick?
It's black and white: if you can do better you should.
Leave him now, his problems are not yours. Don't look back, just go. Easy to say not to do but you must.
Desire to find a guy with whom building a life based on Love is possible.
2006-11-29 11:31:09 · answer #7 · answered by simm 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just forget about him and move on!! Go get another guy whose more caring and loves you.
2006-11-29 11:28:51 · answer #8 · answered by talk_to_the_hand!! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would have left and never looked back. Good on you.
2006-11-29 11:27:15 · answer #9 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, you did the right thing. take care of urself. he's a jerk
2006-11-29 11:28:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋